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fallenangel · 03-27-2004, 01:22 AM

What do you do when someone you love and trust violates a HUGE trust bond and lies to your face when you specifically ask about it? Especially since you're now separated but still hoped to remain friends. Am i just supposed to sit on the fact i know that they did something that hurt me because they thought i wouldn't find out about it?

I'm so sick of fighting and i wasn't expecting to find this out either. But when i learn that certain things that happened between us, have been publicly spread out for display i'm made sick to my stomach. I still love him and want to forgive him horribly, but i'm so sick of hurting.

You may be asking yourself why i'm posting this in the sexuality forum, well my dearies, it's because the public display of trust was involved in letting people other than myself view pictures that were taken between us, unbenounst to myself until recently. It wouldn't have been a problem if he had just ASKED me first, but finding out from a second just sucks. It also made me reconsider letting my ex keep any other pictures as well, for fear of god knows what he'll do with them... any thoughts?

hannukah harry · 03-27-2004, 01:54 AM

if you can't trust him, get them back.

/uh... without more details, i got nuthin'

bparker805 · 03-27-2004, 02:08 AM

1) get the pictures back
2 or 3) draw a line and tell him that this behavior is unacceptable
3 or 2) tell him that he is out of integrity because that is WAY out of line!
4) threaten the shit out of him with some kind of legal action (help tfpers, is there any kind of legal action that fallenangel can take?)
5) DO NOT let this ass ruin you for others...

Hard8s · 03-27-2004, 03:25 AM

Threaten a lawsuit for not having a signed picture release.

Loup · 03-27-2004, 04:55 AM

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Originally posted by fallenangel
I'm so sick of fighting

First sign of trouble is when you're tired of fighting - from legit healthy (hey, everyone fights) fighting to the most minute stupid insufficient detail. But more important in your case is the lack of respect that he has shown regarding his actions towards your pictures. My thoughts: Get the pictures back and walk away from the fool for good.

ninety09 · 03-27-2004, 05:34 AM

I also got lied to by a person that I loved; I think the best thing is to just stay away from that person. I really don't have the intention of ever talking to her again. I couldn't be friends with someone that betrayed my trust.

As for the pictures, personally I would just forget about it. I don't really see what the big deal about it and don't think it's worth the trouble.

03-27-2004, 01:22 AM	#1 (permalink)
fallenangel soaring Location: near the water	What would YOU do? What do you do when someone you love and trust violates a HUGE trust bond and lies to your face when you specifically ask about it? Especially since you're now separated but still hoped to remain friends. Am i just supposed to sit on the fact i know that they did something that hurt me because they thought i wouldn't find out about it? I'm so sick of fighting and i wasn't expecting to find this out either. But when i learn that certain things that happened between us, have been publicly spread out for display i'm made sick to my stomach. I still love him and want to forgive him horribly, but i'm so sick of hurting. You may be asking yourself why i'm posting this in the sexuality forum, well my dearies, it's because the public display of trust was involved in letting people other than myself view pictures that were taken between us, unbenounst to myself until recently. It wouldn't have been a problem if he had just ASKED me first, but finding out from a second just sucks. It also made me reconsider letting my ex keep any other pictures as well, for fear of god knows what he'll do with them... any thoughts? __________________ all I wanna do is - give the best of me to you

03-27-2004, 01:54 AM	#2 (permalink)
hannukah harry Junkie	if you can't trust him, get them back. /uh... without more details, i got nuthin' __________________ shabbat shalom, mother fucker! - the hebrew hammer

03-27-2004, 03:25 AM	#4 (permalink)
Hard8s Addict Location: Wherever I am!	Threaten a lawsuit for not having a signed picture release. __________________ If ignorance is bliss, then wipe this smile off my face!

03-27-2004, 02:08 AM	#3 (permalink)
bparker805 is KING! Location: On the path to Valhalla.	1) get the pictures back 2 or 3) draw a line and tell him that this behavior is unacceptable 3 or 2) tell him that he is out of integrity because that is WAY out of line! 4) threaten the shit out of him with some kind of legal action (help tfpers, is there any kind of legal action that fallenangel can take?) 5) DO NOT let this ass ruin you for others...

03-27-2004, 05:34 AM	#6 (permalink)
ninety09 Flavour of the Weak Location: Canada	I also got lied to by a person that I loved; I think the best thing is to just stay away from that person. I really don't have the intention of ever talking to her again. I couldn't be friends with someone that betrayed my trust. As for the pictures, personally I would just forget about it. I don't really see what the big deal about it and don't think it's worth the trouble.