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gar1976 · 03-24-2004, 08:04 PM

Alright, need some pointers from all you out there.

My wife and I have been together for 10 years or so, and we're starting to experience the ol' "sexual monotony." It's still great, but we're hoping to jazz it up a bit.

So fire out some suggestions to us. Please, no third parties or farm animals!

Any and all ideas are appreciated in advance.

GAR

bparker805 · 03-24-2004, 08:13 PM

Look into Tantric sex. I never have but have heard it is AMAZING!

Lunchbox7 · 03-24-2004, 08:55 PM

Act out any fantasies you have. But take it in turns.

doncalypso · 03-24-2004, 09:53 PM

Whatever you do, stay faithful to her.

Do not go seek sexual relationships outside of your marriage.

i8one2 · 03-24-2004, 10:00 PM

play dress-up, first in the home, then actual go somewhere public..wearing the chosen outfit stuff.

by this i mean, have your wife choose anything(for you)-whether, a pimp, x-dressing, a leather boy, a plummer whatever...for you and you become that person she wants you to be..

mind you you can do it one at a time, out both at the same time..kinda like Halloween except more seriously and with a adult mind set.

like wise you do the same for her, a dolly, princess, provocative things, a sexy secrestary...

Its about trust, lust, and fantasy...this stuff works for us big time.
except we also live our outfits when not doing the vanilla lifestyle thing.

GOOD LUCK, its a blast, and you never know...even after ten year.

absorbentishe · 03-25-2004, 07:03 AM

My wife and I were starting to fall in this rut last year. I bought a small toy to help, and from there we've started experimenting more and more. For V-day, we bought more toys and it's making things much better. We purchased a couple of different games and those work pretty well on her loosening up. We're having a ton of fun.

wubbawubba · 03-25-2004, 07:14 AM

Do it in semi public places.
That is always good.

Redlemon · 03-25-2004, 07:26 AM

How about the book "101 Nights of Grrrreat Sex"? It is less about the actual sex and more about the setup... but it creates a nice sense of anticipation in a relationship. We made it through about a third of the book, but had some very memorable moments with it.

Charlatan · 03-25-2004, 07:33 AM

Communicate. Talk to each other about sex. Get to the root of why you are bored...

Discuss your fantasies, discuss you current limits, discuss why you have those limits...

Talk to each other and get to know what makes the other tick.

Then act on it.

One thing I did for my wife. I created a number of cards with various fantasies and activities I'd like to do or have done (everything from sex around the house and random blow jobs to anal sex and mutual cross dressing).

She had problems coming up with things to do and was shy about initiating things... When she wants to do something a little different she now randomly pulls a card and surprises me with it... It took the pressure off her to be creative and "guess" what I wanted.

This worked like a charm for her. It may not for you.

gar1976 · 03-26-2004, 01:35 PM

Thanks for your replies and ideas - any more would be appreciated!

viejo gringo · 03-26-2004, 07:22 PM

We used to turn off all the lights so the neighbors thought we were gone and then sneak down to the pool and put candels and wine around the edge and go skinny dipping....it's great to swim united...no thats fly united isin't it??

qtpye4u84 · 03-26-2004, 08:13 PM

What can i do to get lazy hubby want to please me he use to now hes lazy when he gets home from work hes to lazy
to even give me a quicky ,head is even a thing hes to lazy for me to give him, since he has been working at his new job he has gained like 20 pounds or more so that has mad him lazy oh yea and the socom,
I put on sexy nightys he likes i stand there naked i have tryed
but he has no energy he says maybe later but by the itme he wants some im to tired.

bermuDa · 03-26-2004, 11:14 PM

tantric sex is not what you think it is,
http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthr...ghlight=tantra

Seaver's post explains all:

Quote:

Originally posted by Seaver
AUGH! DAMN YOU AMERICAN PIE!!!

Look, what you are looking for is NOT Tantric sex, it is Taoist.

Tantric sex they did not care how pleasurable it was for either the man nor the woman. It was about pre-assigned positions that were supposed to awaken a snake that sleeps in the bottom of your spine, leaves your back, and flies into your brain. Now before this starts sounding good to you, one of the "best" positions for this is the man standing on his head, while 2 men hold a woman up so they can consumate... the man tended to black out after a minute or so.

Taoist sex is what you and especially your woman wants. They believed that when you orgasm you give away a little bit of your energy away, if your partner does not orgasm he steals the energy. Thus, the man (being a male dominated society when it was popular) was in charge of giving the woman the most mind-altering orgams, and as many times/often as he possibly can. The man withholds his ejaculation, and can steal her energy. Supposably after one orgasm caused he gets extra strength, after 3 he is immune to disease, and the benefits keep getting better.

Taoist (pronounced Dao) sex is what everyone things tantric sex is. Sorry for my rant but being in college I'm surrounded by thousands and thousands of verile young guys who want to show off how worldly/sexually knoledgable they are... while all they spew is crap from a movie (though it definately still made me laugh my ass off).

Taoist books are filled with things like the Karma Sutra, except much much more descriptive so even the dumbest guy can learn a few tricks. And for the record the K.S. isn't all it's cracked up to be either... the guy who wrote it was a virgin and only wrote down things he thought up in his mind.

QuasiMojo · 03-26-2004, 11:37 PM

The next time you guys go to the store(or somewhere public), go in seperately.
~after a period of time apart~
Walk up to her like she's a stranger, like you've never seen her before and lay down a rap on her like you've always wanted to do....with a strange, good looking woman in the grocery store(or wherever)
you know...just walk up to her and (fill in the....)

it's worth a try,

~Tao Jones

sillygirl · 03-27-2004, 12:06 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by QuasiMojo
The next time you guys go to the store(or somewhere public), go in seperately.
~after a period of time apart~
Walk up to her like she's a stranger, like you've never seen her before and lay down a rap on her like you've always wanted to do....with a strange, good looking woman in the grocery store(or wherever)
you know...just walk up to her and (fill in the....)

it's worth a try,

~Tao Jones

I like this idea. Even better, don't plan it. Go to the store when you know she'll be there, and surprise her.

analog · 03-28-2004, 02:39 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by QuasiMojo
Walk up to her like she's a stranger, like you've never seen her before and lay down a rap on her like you've always wanted to do....with a strange, good looking woman in the grocery store(or wherever)

I did this with my ex-girlfriend. When we were together, I went to the grocery store, and ran into her there (I didn't know she was there) and I walked up like you describe. There was another guy standing right there. I made it cheezy, just to be funny. The other guy steps in between us, tells me I came off like a moron, and then tells her she should go out with him because he knows how to treat a woman.

So she stands there, going "hmmm which one of you should I go out with?"

It was hilarious. The guy was trying to use my lame pickup to pick her up himself.

So then he says, "you don't want a guy who stands there waiting, you want someone confident enough to be forward- so I stepped up to her, grabbed her chest, and made out with her for like 4 minutes. He left after about 30 seconds.

Now that i'm writing this, I wonder if he ever went and groped/tongued a girl because of what I did. lol

oblar · 03-29-2004, 06:59 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by analog
I did this with my ex-girlfriend. When we were together, I went to the grocery store, and ran into her there (I didn't know she was there) and I walked up like you describe. There was another guy standing right there. I made it cheezy, just to be funny. The other guy steps in between us, tells me I came off like a moron, and then tells her she should go out with him because he knows how to treat a woman.

So she stands there, going "hmmm which one of you should I go out with?"

It was hilarious. The guy was trying to use my lame pickup to pick her up himself.

So then he says, "you don't want a guy who stands there waiting, you want someone confident enough to be forward- so I stepped up to her, grabbed her chest, and made out with her for like 4 minutes. He left after about 30 seconds.

Now that i'm writing this, I wonder if he ever went and groped/tongued a girl because of what I did. lol

that is such a great story. I have done things somewhat similar, but havent had a guy standing by trying to pick her up..

I would have loved to have seen his face

i bet the two of you had one heck of a laugh afterwards.

03-24-2004, 08:04 PM	#1 (permalink)
gar1976 Custom User Title Location: Lurking. Under the desk.	Keepin' sex ziploc fresh Alright, need some pointers from all you out there. My wife and I have been together for 10 years or so, and we're starting to experience the ol' "sexual monotony." It's still great, but we're hoping to jazz it up a bit. So fire out some suggestions to us. Please, no third parties or farm animals! Any and all ideas are appreciated in advance. GAR

03-24-2004, 09:53 PM	#4 (permalink)
doncalypso TFP Mad Scientist Location: Philadelphia, PA	Whatever you do, stay faithful to her. Do not go seek sexual relationships outside of your marriage. __________________ Doncalypso... the one and only Haitian Sensation

03-24-2004, 10:00 PM	#5 (permalink)
i8one2 COMPLETED and A TRAINER Location: BEAN_TOWN	play dress-up, first in the home, then actual go somewhere public..wearing the chosen outfit stuff. by this i mean, have your wife choose anything(for you)-whether, a pimp, x-dressing, a leather boy, a plummer whatever...for you and you become that person she wants you to be.. mind you you can do it one at a time, out both at the same time..kinda like Halloween except more seriously and with a adult mind set. like wise you do the same for her, a dolly, princess, provocative things, a sexy secrestary... Its about trust, lust, and fantasy...this stuff works for us big time. except we also live our outfits when not doing the vanilla lifestyle thing. GOOD LUCK, its a blast, and you never know...even after ten year. __________________ LEATHER, LATEX and LACE "SSC" "Nothing That Gives Pleasure is Bad" Quality is for those who know what they want and are at peace with what they have. "S/M is about emotion; the erotic tension between my impulse toward something and my resistance against it."-- Virginia Barker

03-25-2004, 07:26 AM	#8 (permalink)
Redlemon Devoted Donor Location: New England	How about the book "101 Nights of Grrrreat Sex"? It is less about the actual sex and more about the setup... but it creates a nice sense of anticipation in a relationship. We made it through about a third of the book, but had some very memorable moments with it. __________________ I can't read your signature. Sorry.

03-25-2004, 07:33 AM	#9 (permalink)
Charlatan Getting it. Super Moderator Location: Lion City	Communicate. Talk to each other about sex. Get to the root of why you are bored... Discuss your fantasies, discuss you current limits, discuss why you have those limits... Talk to each other and get to know what makes the other tick. Then act on it. One thing I did for my wife. I created a number of cards with various fantasies and activities I'd like to do or have done (everything from sex around the house and random blow jobs to anal sex and mutual cross dressing). She had problems coming up with things to do and was shy about initiating things... When she wants to do something a little different she now randomly pulls a card and surprises me with it... It took the pressure off her to be creative and "guess" what I wanted. This worked like a charm for her. It may not for you. __________________ "My hands are on fire. Hands are on fire. Ain't got no more time for all you charlatans and liars." - Old Man Luedecke

03-24-2004, 08:13 PM	#2 (permalink)
bparker805 is KING! Location: On the path to Valhalla.	Look into Tantric sex. I never have but have heard it is AMAZING!

03-24-2004, 08:55 PM	#3 (permalink)
Lunchbox7 Addict	Act out any fantasies you have. But take it in turns.

03-25-2004, 07:03 AM	#6 (permalink)
absorbentishe Boy am I horny today Location: T O L E D O, Toledo!!	My wife and I were starting to fall in this rut last year. I bought a small toy to help, and from there we've started experimenting more and more. For V-day, we bought more toys and it's making things much better. We purchased a couple of different games and those work pretty well on her loosening up. We're having a ton of fun.

03-25-2004, 07:14 AM	#7 (permalink)
wubbawubba Tilted Location: Lexington	Do it in semi public places. That is always good.

03-26-2004, 01:35 PM	#10 (permalink)
gar1976 Custom User Title Location: Lurking. Under the desk.	Thanks for your replies and ideas - any more would be appreciated!

03-26-2004, 07:22 PM	#11 (permalink)
viejo gringo Registered User Location: Deep South Texas	We used to turn off all the lights so the neighbors thought we were gone and then sneak down to the pool and put candels and wine around the edge and go skinny dipping....it's great to swim united...no thats fly united isin't it??

03-26-2004, 08:13 PM	#12 (permalink)
qtpye4u84 Flavor+noodles Location: oregon	What can i do to get lazy hubby want to please me he use to now hes lazy when he gets home from work hes to lazy to even give me a quicky ,head is even a thing hes to lazy for me to give him, since he has been working at his new job he has gained like 20 pounds or more so that has mad him lazy oh yea and the socom, I put on sexy nightys he likes i stand there naked i have tryed but he has no energy he says maybe later but by the itme he wants some im to tired. __________________ The QTpie

03-26-2004, 11:37 PM	#14 (permalink)
QuasiMojo King Knave Location: Lancaster	The next time you guys go to the store(or somewhere public), go in seperately. ~after a period of time apart~ Walk up to her like she's a stranger, like you've never seen her before and lay down a rap on her like you've always wanted to do....with a strange, good looking woman in the grocery store(or wherever) you know...just walk up to her and (fill in the....) it's worth a try, ~Tao Jones __________________ AzAbOv ZoBeLoE