blizzak

okay, the truth of the situation is I have always considered myself a nice guy, and I haven't really pursued girls/had experience with girls in the past. And even as I finish off my first year of university, I still have very little experience. However, I think it's true that most people don't get away from their first year of university without having a few different experiences.

Right now I find myself in a dilemma of sorts. The other night, we had an auction at my work of the whole staff(an people auction for a date, yes) as a charity fundraiser. So naturally, there were a lot of my friends there to check it out as well.

So yeah, i've been really interested in this one girl that was out at the auction (she came with a bunch of friends). She's really shy(except when she's drunk, then it's TOTALLY different), and she said she'd be my backup buyer if no one else would bid. But anyways, turns out I was bought by a girl that one of my friends brought(she was really drunk, and they convinced her to buy me). Heh, can't ever expect what these drunk people are gonna do.

Anyways, the girl I was bought by is really smart, and we REALLY hit it off that night. The other girl that was my backup buyer ended up hitting on the bartender and then going to the club after the auction was done, although I was going home. I can see a lot of similarities between the two of them; they're both shy, both have great personalities, and it seems that this shyness has made them both inexperienced when it comes to guys.

Only difference is the one that I wanted to buy me in the first place is cuter, and i've been interested in her for a long while now. I could see myself pursuing the girl that bought me, but i'm afraid if I do something stupid with her(whatever that might be...i'm not sure how she's feeling right now), then it'll mess things up between us as friends. I still can't fight my interest towards the other girl, though.

I find them both quite dateable but i'm not sure what to do right now. I don't wanna be seen as superficial....i've tried to think of myself as a different type of guy, but now that i'm experiencing things like this for the first time, it seems to be changing my perspective. And don't try and tell me that what happened only happened because she was the one that bought me, it went beyond that.

any advice is appreciated. If you need any more info i'd be happy to give it.

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analog

There's nothing that says you can't date more than one person at the same time, most espcially when you're just in the "beginning" stages- and this is coming from a guy who is VERY one-girl oriented. Take them both out, have a good time, and see what develops.

QuasiMojo

superficiality is transient at this stage.

(say this three times)

What you are saying, it IS a quandry..... but when all else fails, go with your gut.
NO FURTHER DOWN THAN THAT!

btw...i like your sig

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motdakasha

What analog says. Just make sure that everyone involved realizes you are dating not one, but two persons. This is important since dating seems to be synonymous with "monogamous unofficial relationship" nowadays even though that's not what it is/was supposed to mean.

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