anal first
 

so i tried anal for the first time, and one weird thing i noticed is that my ass felt as if it were really REALLY hot on the inside......but only when something was inserted. also it felt like i had to "go" each time anything was inserted, but when i tried to go to the bathroom, i couldn't "go". anyone else experienced this or maybe have any suggestions/comments on why this is and how i can get around it? i enjoyed it but just couldn't keep going because of the combined hotness and need to defecate. so thanks!

it only felt like i had to 'go' when it was being removed... i felt it was easier if he stroked my 'love button' lol... made me more aroused, which relaxed me more, and if you're relaxed you won't tense up which just causes problems for both of you

Can't really give much info. Me and wife try it every now and then and she likes it sometimes, others she can't handle it....she says it is so much better when she is very very relaxed and extremely aroused right before insertion. She never really commented about having to "go".

I've never felt the need to 'go'...but fallenangel's tip abt clit rubbing during is a good one, and bouray is correct in that sometimes it just doesn't work as well as others.

I find the more i stress about trying to make it work, the tenser i am and the more difficult it is.

So, relax, and try not to put too much pressure on yourself. :)

same goes for me the first couple of times I tried it and it's still a "problem" because your ass wasn't designed for sex. But as time goes a long you'll get used to it, though. But until then you can do either of the following things:

• warm yourself up with a butt-plug. It'll lessen the feeling of you have to "go" a great deal if not removing it completely!
  
• Masturbate heavily! Not only will it reduce the side effects you're mentioning but it will also make your "exit hole" wet fast because it'll arrouse you a LOT! Furthermore there's not reason why you shouldn't masturbate during anal sex. It'll give you mind-blowing orgasms and you should be able to have as many as you want! ;)

hope this will help! ;)

Given that I've never been on the receiving end of anal sex I can't tell you from first-hand experience what will or will not work to make the whole anal sex thing better for you, but my guess is that you felt the hotness inside probably because your rectal tissue is very sensitive to the lubrication your lover used on you.

As for the perceived need to defecate that was probably a reflex reaction from having an object being inserted into your rectum rather than just expelled.
Your nervous system reacted automatically and assumed you needed to defecate because it was your first time having anal sex and your body didn't have any other frame of reference to deal with this situation except to assume that you had a need to defecate.

In the future make sure you and your lover have plenty of foreplay beforehand, and also, make sure your clitoris is being stimultated as he penetrates you anally. Not only might that reduce that feeling of your needing to defecate, but you might actually get an orgasm out of anal sex.

I have a question. It's kind of "nasty", but I need to ask it. Whenever I have anal sex with my girlfriend some sort of wet poopy substance always ends up coming out and getting all over me. It's like poop mixed with lube. How do I stop this? I know my girlfriend won't give herself an enema or anything like that.

Then there's no way to stop it. Simple as that! Why won't she giver herself an enema? I do it all the time and it's very relaxing/pleasant as long as I use lukewarm water

I believe the phrase you need is Santorum: The frothy mix of lube and fecal matter that is sometimes
the byproduct of anal sex.

Here's an easy solution.... wear a condom.

Another solution would be to take a shower with her after she's and a bowel movement and personally wash her anal area (both on the inside and outside).
Of course, I'd suggest you wait an hour or two before initiating anal sex then.

that's the great thing about an enema. You can go right for it after that! :D

Can't help you on the hotness sensation. Just make sure you're properly lubed up and ready to go (sufficiently turned on).

As for the need-to-defecate feeling, that is natural. The purpose of your rectum is to detect when there is feces waiting to be expelled. Any object inserted anally will ultimately end up in this detection region. When your rectum senses an object there, it sends signals to the brain that it needs to be expelled. So if you stick an anal plug or finger up there, your brain is going to say "I need to poop." When you take out the plug or finger, and try to go to the bathroom, nothing comes out because you've already taken out the object that was tricking your brain into thinking it needs to poop.

If you masturbate while getting accustomed to an object that has been inserted, it will help you distract yourself from the feeling of needing to poop. Also, once motion sets in, and if at the proper angle, it will massage your vagina in a totally new way that you've never experienced before. Since the anus and rectum have as many nerve endings as a vagina, you'll probably be too busy working on an orgasm to notice your brain telling you to go to the bathroom.

well i was properly lubed....(too much is never enough) and was drunk, but that shouldnta made any difference, i was horny and all....
*shrug* yeah the need to defecate i imagine i can get over after a few times, but the extreme heat sensation was really what made us stop....

thanks for the comments and ideas so far....

just to make sure you've got all the obvious out of the way.

you said you were drunk. how drunk were you? did you pay attention to what kind of lube you were using?
it wasn't a warming lube, was it? (like the new KY one, or some kind of warming massage oil)

it also might be a hot sensation from too much friction and/or not enough lube. we've established that you used a lot of lube. did you use a condom? that reduces friction.

anything that you might experience vaginally like a warming lube or dryness is going to be like 100x more intense via anal.

used a condom... and the lube was just a generic water based one from walmart...

not supposed to be warming or anything like that...

well since this was your first time I wouldn't read to much into it sweetie. Try it for a few times and you should get more used to it. The heat sensation can still appear after years of having anal sex but then it's only a matter of friction - so use lube and there should be no problem at all ;)

With all due respect, I think it was a very foolish decision for you to try anal while drunk. I think it's safe to say that since you were drunk your partner was probably drunk as well, so of course even if he used plenty of lube he would have gone too hard on you since he was too drunk to control himself and the rate of penetration.

Next time you want to try anal sex, please do so while you're sober.
You will be able to gauge your body's reaction to anal sex better, and hopefully your partner will be sober too so he won't plow at you like a madman but actually take his time and be gentle.

I love it im a kinky girl the first time was okay we used a condom but now we dont we use our own spit it kinda hurts i have to breath a certian way then its fine

actually my partner was very near sober and he's always extremely (overly) gentle with me unless i ask for it hard. so it wasn't that.

Does Spit actually work? I thought that was a myth. Oh by the way. Hi world. I just joined the board, this is my first post. I'm actively Bisexual and I'm actually considering some kind of anal situation with me and my girlfriend (her doing whatever to me).

Of course it works. My loverboy and I use nothing but spit but I wouldn't recommend it before you've tried anal a couple of times ;)

Ah okay, thank you dear.

NP! :D

it's so cool that even after you had a somewhat uncomfortable experience the first time, you sound like you'd still be willing to try it again which is badass.

But yeah from what I understand, feeling like you have to "go" is normal; I've never heard of the hot feeling either...

just curious....how exactly do you give yourself an enema?

http://edmund2.hiof.no/lebanon/600/6...ottle-side.jpg

You can use something like that one. I use a small bottle that used to contain moisturizer.... (If you're gonna use an old bottle then make sure you clean it with just water. Not soap! Soap is not good for the inside of your rectum)

You basically just fill up the bottle with lukewarm water (using hot/cold water is extremely unpleasant!) push it against your rectum and squeeze the bottle so the water will run into your rectum. Just a bit of water will make you go straight away and every last bit of poop will get out, leaving your rectum almost 100% clean. The first couple of times it's gonna feel....weird. But you'll get used to it and maybe even end up enjoying it perhaps... :D

*swoon*

The brutal fucking truth Miss Nancy.. Thanks again.

Wow, thanks for the info Nancy. I always thought you had to buy enema's and I would be too embarrased to do that. I had also heard that too many could be bad for you. Is that just a myth? Something about the bacteria in there needing to stay in balance...

As for ArieKitten- I have only done anal once and I didn't like it much. But that was years ago, and I'm starting to want to explore it again. I was planning on starting small with a butt plug though cuz last time we jumped right in with the mothership and it was too much, too fast.

Maybe that's what you did, too? Maybe should start with something smaller?

What a discussion - anal sex, defecation urges, hot rectums, poop / feces, enemas, butt plugs, Santorum, etc., etc., etc. You've got to love the TFP. Don't know too many other places where you can ask these types of questions (at least without being extremely embarrassed) and receive honest, knowledgeable answers. You guys rock;)

I can't say I've really felt the need to go feeling. The first time I tried it everything went really well..I actually enjoyed it. I was really relaxed possibly from drinking some alcohol earlier. Tried it again a few days ago and it hurt so bad! The worst pain I have ever experienced in my life! Only thing that was different was the alcohol factor. I don't understand! I want to try it again, but now I'm scared to death of the pain.

thanx for the suggestion redgirl, and the info nancy....i really want to try it again, if the circumstances are right and all. im thinking about going to the megaplexx here in town right after one of my paydays and buying a bunch of fun sex toys ;)

like maybe a butt plug, so we'll see how things go! :)

I'm something smaller. ;)

Enema bags can be found on the internet for sell. I seen them for sell in heath supply catlogs too.

Just a myth dearie. You know, the French king Louis XIV used an enema daily and I've read somewhere that they actually believe that his daily use of enema is the main reason why he lived to be 79 years old! (which was of course highly unusual in the 16th century) Enema is gooooood for you! :D

did it hurt inside of your rectum or at the entrance so to speak?

I'd say more so inside..although it hurt so damn bad I can't exactly pinpoint a location.

it was probably on the inside then...

Even though I've been having anal sex for years I still get that particular pain inside of the rectum. If that happens then I just use more lube and take it really slow....98% of the times the pain goes away and we continue the sex. And if the pain continues then we stop of course... so should you if the pain really bothers you.

The pain is due to friction so nothing to be worried about! ;)

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Wow -- all I can say is wow. Great thread, lots of information, and we have a resident expert -- thanks Nancy.

hehe I don't know about expert but I do have a lot of experience which I'm happy to share with you guys :D