greyeyes

I haven't been having sex at all for a few months now and I have no idea why. I mean sex is fun and all but I guess I'm too lazy to actually try and pursue anyone for sex (even when I had some girl who I knew wanted me to fuck her brains out and she has been in my bed TWICE, but I didn't do anything, I didn't make a move, I just didn't care). I am not gay or attracted to guys in any way so I have ruled that out. I am however extremely scared of STD's. All STD's freak me out herpes, AIDs, Genetal warts, even crabs (not a disease I know). I see commercials promoting medicines that keep herpes outbrakes from happening on popular channels; so I am deducing from that that there must be some huge portion of the human population that have these diseases. I'm clean and I want to keep it that way. I am probably not wanting sex because I am subconsiously knowing that I dont need it or it's not worth it because of those diseases. I might be wrong though, can anyone help me figure this out I'm really not knowing what is going on with anything so please, if you have any sort of idea of what my problem is please post it.

diddagirl

So you are being very cautious. Thats a good thing..... However if you are seriously interested in a girl, or having sex with her, its ok to ask her to get STD tests. That way you can feel confident and sure you are not going to contract something.

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greyeyes

you are missing the point, it's this lack of sex drive that I have never seen before. It's like I have turned into an Unic or something else that has had their balls shreded into a cereal, sugar coated, and then eaten by small children.

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Halx

you mean 'eunuch'

anyways.. it could be anything.. depression, boredom, stress... medication.

How old are you?

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Also, look at your diet, allergies, fitness level and water intake.

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greyeyes

ok, I'm twenty, no where near depressed, and my diet is better than anyone I know. I take herbal supplements for all of the vitamens that I miss in my regular diet and my stress level is pretty low. I dont take any medication that isn't herbal and I run (treadmill) maybe three km and ride (stationary bike) almost seven km every day. I'm not allergic to anything that I know of and I own a nalgene litre bottle and I try to drink a minimum of one full nalgene of water a day (that's minimum). I'm also a regular in the titty board. I just have no idea what is wrong with me I would have guessed all of that other stuff before, but in my opinion, I'm doing all of the physical and mental health and fitness stuff fine. Does anyone have any other suggestions?

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Seaver

This happens to women all the time, and occasionally to men.

Dont worry about it, take a break from the rat race. When you meet someone that really sparks your interest you will have the drive again. Right now I imagine you're just bored with it... just like a lot of the most famous painters took a year or two break from painting, and then afterwards made their most famous pieces.

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guthmund

Really?!?!

I empathize, grey. However, look on the bright side. I find that during these lulls I get all kinds of shit done.

It's kind of like the "Costanza" syndrome on Seinfeld. All the attention you focus on sex can now be focused elsewhere.

Call me stupid, but it works for me.

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WarWagon

I agree with Seaver, its something that will likely pass with time. Its best not to dwell on it, as the stress/convincing yourself that your drive is on hiatus may very well just prolong it.

On the bright side, its probably better to have a lull in your sex drive, than to be hornier than a 15 year old boy in the playboy mansion, and not have the opportunity to do the nasty.

greyeyes

Getting shit done, now that sounds like a good idea. Thanks Guthmund that is some good advice. I heard the other day that most millionaires made their money early because they weren't too focused on the females that so often distract. Maybe I can apply this to my life, but hopefully not for too long.
I guess I was just getting worried because it has been about three to four months, by the way, how long do these lulls last normally you think?

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motdakasha

Not wanting sex is only a problem if you feel bad or guilty about it. There's this thing called abstinence, which is a great reason to not want or have sex.

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Johnny Rotten

There's an outside chance that one of those herbal supplements, or a combination thereof, is deflating your sex drive. I'm all for natural health solutions, but we're still discovering things about some of the oldest plants known to man. You may want to consider strategically eliminating one supplement at a time out of the rotation for maybe a week each, and see if that changes anything.

Although, I'm of the mind that your (understandable) STD concern is a larger factor. However, using proper protection (and using protection properly) and having her get tested should make you pretty safe from those things.

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Well, there you go. You don't have the energy to fuck after all that.

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motdakasha

Spanish fly is herbal and purported to be an aphrodisiac. It's also toxic. (Read: Marquis de Sade) There are a lot of herbal things you can buy that put a damper on your sex drive. Furthermore, there are a lot of other herbal things that have yet to be tested for such ill-effects.

And P.S. exercise *increases* sex drive.

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guthmund

No problem.

I've been through a few "lulls" and they're all over the place from a handful of weeks to a handful of months. You'll know when to get back in the ball game. Your libido isn't something that can be ignored; it has to be dealt with.

Until then find an esoteric hobby to impress the next gal that sparks interest.

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Prince

After all else fails, it could be a hormone deficiency problem, or whatever they call it. I used to have low testosterone levels, but it's a really long shot.

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stevie667

like it has been said before, just sounds like a lull in the sex drive, which is pretty normal for most men. ya don't think we can be horny 24/7 forever do you?
and is it just sex thats been affected, or do you still get down with jr.?

greyeyes

I never understood the abstinance thing, why would you want to hold something or anything from yourself that is a good thing?

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greyeyes

It's just sex, or working for sex, I have been known to hang out in the titty board for that easy release.

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greyeyes

I honestly doubt that the herbal supplements are the problem, I mostly take 'Source of Life' which is a veggie supplement because I don't have time to eat enough of those throughout the day. The other is a multivitamen that is popular (Centrum I think), and some B complex (to put back those vitamens that my binge drinking so often depleates). I dont think any of these vitamens would have a negative effect on my sex drive.

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greyeyes

Haha, that might be part of it, but if motdakasha is correct in saying that exorsize is supposed to increase sex drive then I must really be screwed up.

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stevie667

your libido is still there judging by the trips to the titty board, but it's just taking a bit of a time off, normal really.
just one of those things that happens randomly, and i wouldn't be suprised if the STD thing in your head gave it the initial supression. however, i bet you there'll be the one girl you see in a bar, and bam, you'll be shouting at jr. to get his fucking act together so you can get laid.

toxic515

binge drinking??? um, that's certainly a possible factor, conveniently left out of your original message... May not be the only culprit, but it's possible that it's a factor.

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macmanmike6100

testing is cool and should definitely be ok with somebody who wants to have sex with you. certainly if they don't want it, it's not worth it. seriously, you've got the right attitude.