AfterBurn

at my work there's a pretty hot girl who i think likes me but i cant say for sure, so anyway, i sort of like her too but we hardly ever see each other cause she works on like a totally different part in the store but when i do see her i glance at her to give her a hint and then look away and she glances at me but then looks away. i cant make things too obvious because i dont want to get rejected at a place where im at alot plus other people will hear about this and itll ruin my chances with some other girls at the store who are also not bad. is there anyway i can give her a hint or something without being too overly obvious and please dont say 'go talk to her' or 'go ask her out' because straight up rejection = shitty workplace environment.

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skysooner

It's all in how you ask. If you are worried about rejection for a date, don't start with a date. Grab a group of people together to go to lunch or to meet after hours and invite her along. This places less stress on the situation and at least allows you a chance to get to know her out of the store. Playing timid will get you nowhere with women. You have to be bold, but since you are in a work situation cautious as well.

sigma1042

just talk to her about work before you go trying to ask her out
you should be finding out if she's a little psycho before you go for it

what kind of store is it?

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water_boy1999

Tough situation because I have learned many times over that you shouldn't mix business with pleasure. It truly does leave a shitty work environment if one is rejected by the other. However, skysooner has the key to it all....go out with a group of people first to loosen things up. Get her drunk, take advantage of her in the parking lot, then show up the next day and blame it on the alcohol. j/k

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AfterBurn

hmm my friends from school are telling me to stare at her and see what she does, lol, i dont know if theyre being serious or being dicks as usual though. asking her for lunch wont work because her break is on a different time than mine im pretty sure plus i go out to lunch with basically the same people everyday and wouldnt it be a bit odd if i 1 day ask her to join us because if someone did that to me id right away think they want to do more than just lunch

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skysooner

It seems to me that you are much too worried about what others think. By asking her out in a group, you are basically giving both of you a low-stress situation to see if you two really like each other beyond just exchanging looks. If you are worried that others will tease you for asking her out, then I'm not sure you are ready for this step. If you care about what others think you are going to miss out on the great moments that really define your life.

AfterBurn

not about that at all and why would i be teased for asking a hot girl out? its just that i dont want to create a negative work environment because then i will be uncomfortable at work and i work 5 days a week

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doncalypso

Find another location to talk to her and ask her out..... seek "neutral territory" to make your move.

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skysooner

I can understand not wanting to create a bad working environment, but inviting someone to lunch or really preferably dinner out with a group is such a mild overture that I don't see it creating any real problems. Now if you were to ask her out in the store and she rejected you and you threw a fit, that would be a problem. I just don't see the downside to doing something mild like this, but you know your work situation and I don't.

moonstrucksoul

true, every work situation is different, and everyone is different, i believe it is possible ot have a relationship with a co-worker if they are mature adults who are able to discern work from their personal lives.

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Cynthetiq

right. i met my wife at work. i dated a few people from the office, but never someone that if I didn't want to see them I would still be forced to see them due to work.

IMHO in the younger years of twentysomething it's not so easy... closer to 30 much easier.

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