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slimcr · 02-24-2004, 05:01 PM

My girlfriend and I broke up thursday night, reasons, shes afraid of relationships, gets afraid when she likes someone and runs away....I talked with her mom and apparently that is the case......

Ive been dying to call her since then, I mean it doesnt look like she hates me or anything like it *doesnt have any reason either*

Im thinking about calling her tonight, trying to talk to her about things, what do you suggest? Should I give her a try and see what happens?

I got 2 hours cause im out of work at 10 ET......

skysooner · 02-24-2004, 05:04 PM

You can't make someone grow up and get rid of their insecurities. If you were to call her at all, I would just offer to give an open ear to any concerns she might have. Don't be judgemental and just listen. Be agreeable and don't try to "solve" things. If she is receptive to talking, then there is a chance. If she says no, then offer to be an open ear in the future, hang up and don't call back. The ball is in her court on this one.

Holo · 02-24-2004, 05:04 PM

You've given her a few days space, so why not hazard a call? If she rebuffs you tho don't call again, at least for a while. Either she comes to her senses or you find someone new.

Truly · 02-24-2004, 05:14 PM

What's the worst that can happen? You call her and she doesn't want to talk? What's the best that can happen? She realizes that you care, and it gives her something to think about....

Plan9Senior · 02-24-2004, 06:10 PM

Don't call. First off, if she is this much of a headcase you don't need her. Secondly, the key to winning a headcase over is to blow them off. I promise you I know what I am talking about. Calling her is going to push her furthar away, and so is talking to her mother (stop doing that).

doncalypso · 02-24-2004, 06:42 PM

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Originally posted by slimcr
My girlfriend and I broke up thursday night, reasons, shes afraid of relationships, gets afraid when she likes someone and runs away....I talked with her mom and apparently that is the case......

Ive been dying to call her since then, I mean it doesnt look like she hates me or anything like it *doesnt have any reason either*

Im thinking about calling her tonight, trying to talk to her about things, what do you suggest? Should I give her a try and see what happens?

I got 2 hours cause im out of work at 10 ET......

Whatever you do, don't call her even if the impulse to do so feels irresistible.

She dumped you for no apparent reason when you didn't do anything wrong, so your best bet is to get moving and leave her alone.
If she comes back to her senses and decides that she wants to start things over and be more serious about the relationship then it's all good.
But if she doesn't make the first move to get back to you then she's not worth it and needs to work on her issues alone.

Tom Thumb · 02-24-2004, 07:15 PM

Don't call. If she wants you back she'll be calling you three times a day in no time. If.

arch13 · 02-24-2004, 07:56 PM

Your out of work now, but I'll post this anyway just in case.
Call her. It's obvious you care for her and she cares for you. A relationship is hard work and at times will try your patience and your heart.
If you truly care for her then stand by her in her time of insecurity and be understanding by keeping the lines of communication open. Look within yourself to realize your feelings for her and let them guide you. If your gut tells you to call, then that's what you should do. Follow your own heart and not our advice.

unoaman · 08-10-2004, 06:59 PM

I agree entirely with arch13...but crap, what happened...you tell us you gotta have advice in two hours, then drop us like a hot rock. If you're still alive out there...talk man, talk! Maybe it will help somebody else, down the road.

AfterBurn · 08-10-2004, 08:18 PM

This is just me man but as soon as someone breaks up with me or pulls back from me i either a) pull back further or b) never call em til they call me

Carno · 08-10-2004, 11:32 PM

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This is just me man but as soon as someone breaks up with me or pulls back from me i either a) pull back further or b) never call em til they call me

Ditto. I think that's the best way.

The.Lunatic · 08-11-2004, 03:26 PM

you = nuts

girlfriend = baggage - nuts

you + girlfriend = baggage.

they charge for excess baggage, and you'll be the one who pays!

Girls are easy to get ( over a 1 year period ) and if they want to have a long relationship about 50% of the girls you'll meet would be great to have one with, so why both with love lost?

02-24-2004, 05:01 PM	#1 (permalink)
slimcr Insane	You got 2 hours to give me advice... My girlfriend and I broke up thursday night, reasons, shes afraid of relationships, gets afraid when she likes someone and runs away....I talked with her mom and apparently that is the case...... Ive been dying to call her since then, I mean it doesnt look like she hates me or anything like it doesnt have any reason either Im thinking about calling her tonight, trying to talk to her about things, what do you suggest? Should I give her a try and see what happens? I got 2 hours cause im out of work at 10 ET......

02-24-2004, 05:04 PM	#3 (permalink)
Holo A Real American	You've given her a few days space, so why not hazard a call? If she rebuffs you tho don't call again, at least for a while. Either she comes to her senses or you find someone new. __________________ I happen to like the words "fuck", "cock", "pussy", "tits", "cunt", "twat", "shit" and even "bitch". As long as I am not using them to describe you, don't go telling me whether or not I can/should use them...that is, if you want me to continue refraining from using them to describe you. ~Prince

02-24-2004, 05:14 PM	#4 (permalink)
Truly Upright	What's the worst that can happen? You call her and she doesn't want to talk? What's the best that can happen? She realizes that you care, and it gives her something to think about.... __________________ Off in never never land, not coming back.

02-24-2004, 07:15 PM	#7 (permalink)
Tom Thumb Crazy Location: In a self portrait	Don't call. If she wants you back she'll be calling you three times a day in no time. If. __________________ My name is marketing. Now buy my product.

02-24-2004, 07:56 PM	#8 (permalink)
arch13 Loves my girl in thongs Location: North of Mexico, South of Canada	Your out of work now, but I'll post this anyway just in case. Call her. It's obvious you care for her and she cares for you. A relationship is hard work and at times will try your patience and your heart. If you truly care for her then stand by her in her time of insecurity and be understanding by keeping the lines of communication open. Look within yourself to realize your feelings for her and let them guide you. If your gut tells you to call, then that's what you should do. Follow your own heart and not our advice. __________________ Seen on an employer evaluation: "The wheel is turning but the hamsters dead" ____________________________ Is arch13 really a porn diety ? find out after the film at 11. -Nanofever

02-24-2004, 05:04 PM	#2 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	You can't make someone grow up and get rid of their insecurities. If you were to call her at all, I would just offer to give an open ear to any concerns she might have. Don't be judgemental and just listen. Be agreeable and don't try to "solve" things. If she is receptive to talking, then there is a chance. If she says no, then offer to be an open ear in the future, hang up and don't call back. The ball is in her court on this one.

02-24-2004, 06:10 PM	#5 (permalink)
Plan9Senior Banned Location: Orange County, California	Don't call. First off, if she is this much of a headcase you don't need her. Secondly, the key to winning a headcase over is to blow them off. I promise you I know what I am talking about. Calling her is going to push her furthar away, and so is talking to her mother (stop doing that).

08-10-2004, 06:59 PM	#9 (permalink)
unoaman Loser Location: Scenic Drive	I agree entirely with arch13...but crap, what happened...you tell us you gotta have advice in two hours, then drop us like a hot rock. If you're still alive out there...talk man, talk! Maybe it will help somebody else, down the road.

08-10-2004, 08:18 PM	#10 (permalink)
AfterBurn Psycho	This is just me man but as soon as someone breaks up with me or pulls back from me i either a) pull back further or b) never call em til they call me __________________ smoking weed everyday keeps the doctor away

08-11-2004, 03:26 PM	#12 (permalink)
The.Lunatic Psycho Location: Somewhere just beyond the realm of sanity...	you = nuts girlfriend = baggage - nuts you + girlfriend = baggage. they charge for excess baggage, and you'll be the one who pays! Girls are easy to get ( over a 1 year period ) and if they want to have a long relationship about 50% of the girls you'll meet would be great to have one with, so why both with love lost? __________________ Proud memeber of the Insomniac Club.