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Strange Famous · 02-22-2004, 04:20 AM

I dont know if this belongs in sports, sexuality, living... so please any moderator feel free to move it if it doesnt belong here...

I dont really know how to feel about this, I feel sorry for the girl, but then I think "if she has been upset and traumatised by this, why is she selling her story - and putting pictures of herself (if you follow the link) into a major national newspaper?

And they go on about it being an outrage, and disgusting.. but nowhere in the story does it say the girl ever told them "no" or to stop... maybe she was just drunk or overawed, or she didnt quite no how - I just think its kind of sad that people live like this - her, and the soccer players who are living this fast life with different girls all the time.

Quote:

NEWS OF THE WORLD INVESTIGATES:
Carlton Cole named in new outrage

Soccer's shamed again

By Rav Singh & Gemma Calvert

SEX shame soccer star Carlton Cole was at the centre of a new ‘roasting' scandal last night after a sordid orgy with a teenage bank clerk.

Pretty Sharon Miller, 18, told the News of the World she felt suicidal over getting manoeuvred into TWO group sex sessions in one night with Premiership names.

First she was handed around by Chelsea striker Cole and two pals at his London flat. Two hours later she endured a replay with England and Tottenham ace Anthony Gardner and five mates at his Essex home.

Sharon said: "It just went on and on. What started as innocent fun turned to nightmare.

"They were animals treating me like a piece of meat."

Cole, 20, took part in the infamous Grosvenor House Premiership four-in-a-bed orgy five months ago that brought the word ‘roasting' to headlines.

The 17-year-old girl involved alleged rape but the Crown Prosecution Service decided they had no case.

The uproar passed Sharon by...until 10 days ago when she went to Faces nightclub in Ilford, Essex, with rapper friend Kai and pal Claire.

Gardner, 23, and Cole—who scored yesterday for his loan team Charlton against Blackburn —were there with other Spurs players and team aide Gavin.

Sharon, who works at the Woolwich near her home in Bishops Stortford, Herts, said: "Everything was great at first.

"I hadn't a clue who the stars were but chatted to one nice 17-year-old Spurs rookie—we just clicked and I fancied him.

"At the end of the night I agreed to go back to Gardner's for a drink. I felt flattered. I wish I'd known better."

Sharon left the club with Cole, Gavin and the 17-year-old in Cole's BMW X5. She said: "Carlton asked if I knew about what happened to him before."

He was referring to the Grosvenor House incident and laughed as he told how he "got done for roasting".

Sharon added: "I really hadn't heard about it. And if I had, there's no way I'd have set one foot in that car."

Instead of driving to Gardner's home as promised, Cole headed in the opposite direction—to his flat in Eltham.

They arrived at 2am and Sharon realised this was no ordinary post-clubbing chill-out. Shivering, she recalled: "As I walked in one said, ‘You're going to get it now.'

"Then Cole said, ‘Get your knickers off.' From that moment it was just a blur. The sex just sort of happened.

"I'd have been happy to sleep with my guy. But as we began to kiss, the others joined in groping. In the end they all got me to perform oral sex.

"At one point I was doing that to Carlton while Gavin was having full sex with me.

"After two hours I felt like slitting my wrists. I was sick."

But Sharon's ordeal wasn't over. She thought a cab ride to Gardner's house in Woodford, Essex, would reunite her with friend Claire. But she wasn't there. Gardner was—with Kai and two other men.

"Anthony led me up to his bedroom and cut straight to it," said Sharon. "I just felt too weak and helpless to resist.

"As I gave Anthony oral sex the groping started. In the end I had sex with them all. When I got home I cried for ages.

"I know people will say I only have myself to blame. Yes I was stupid but I'm not a slut. I've never even had a one-night stand before.

"No, all this happened because of a bunch of soccer-playing animals with such big egos they think they can just take whatever they want."

http://www.newsoftheworld.co.uk/stor...ws/news4.shtml

lucidity · 02-22-2004, 05:07 AM

Exactly. She never said no or stop. She's right, she has herself to blame for not standing up for herself. She's guilty of one thing: sacrificing her self worth. No wonder she felt like shit afterwards.

Arsenic7 · 02-22-2004, 10:37 AM

Yeah, I don't understand. It would be one thing if there was something about her that was being taken advantage of like her age or mental capacity but REGRET seems to be the only harm done here. Since when can you sue someone for REGRETING what you did with them. That's ridiculous.

Averett · 02-22-2004, 11:32 AM

Yup, from what I saw she never once said that she told the men no.

analog · 02-22-2004, 06:26 PM

...and she went on to a SECOND group orgy after the first?

Fuck that. Attention whore. She makes legitimate rape cases harder to convict by pulling shit like this. Disgraceful on her part.

*Nikki* · 02-22-2004, 06:37 PM

That was probably the most confusing thing I have ever read in my entire life.

All I got out of it was that she fucked a bunch of people and now regrets it.

doncalypso · 02-22-2004, 06:44 PM

If at least she'd said "no" or tried to fight them off then I'd be more enclined to believe it was rape.

The way I see it, she probably got into the sex orgies willingly at first and then realized the negative consequences it would have on her reputation and decided to feel shame then.

But I could be wrong.

mtsgsd · 02-23-2004, 06:44 AM

I don't understand how a story like this gets into a newspaper. She doesn't seem to have filed charges, she just feels bad. So the story gets published with all sorts of detail. Sounds like a national inquirer sort of thing.

gibingus · 02-23-2004, 08:14 AM

i dunno dude, that's a tough one, but it sounds pretty damn harsh to me. tabloid journalism and all, who knows what she really said that got left out of the story.

i guess i read into the story that she probably has low self esteem to begin with, and although she may have wanted to say no or resist, she just didn't know how. maybe coming forward with a story like this takes more guts than she's ever used before.

skysooner · 02-23-2004, 08:33 AM

Regret it, fine. We all have regrets in life. If you do not say no or stop in a situation like this, you have no case for rape.

02-22-2004, 05:07 AM	#2 (permalink)
lucidity Crazy Location: ...the space between what's wrong and right...	Exactly. She never said no or stop. She's right, she has herself to blame for not standing up for herself. She's guilty of one thing: sacrificing her self worth. No wonder she felt like shit afterwards. __________________ Faith is the daring of the soul to go farther than it can see. -William Newton Clark

02-22-2004, 10:37 AM	#3 (permalink)
Arsenic7 Insane Location: Corvallis, OR.	Yeah, I don't understand. It would be one thing if there was something about her that was being taken advantage of like her age or mental capacity but REGRET seems to be the only harm done here. Since when can you sue someone for REGRETING what you did with them. That's ridiculous. __________________ This is no sig.

02-22-2004, 11:32 AM	#4 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	Yup, from what I saw she never once said that she told the men no. __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

02-22-2004, 06:44 PM	#7 (permalink)
doncalypso TFP Mad Scientist Location: Philadelphia, PA	If at least she'd said "no" or tried to fight them off then I'd be more enclined to believe it was rape. The way I see it, she probably got into the sex orgies willingly at first and then realized the negative consequences it would have on her reputation and decided to feel shame then. But I could be wrong. __________________ Doncalypso... the one and only Haitian Sensation

02-23-2004, 08:14 AM	#9 (permalink)
gibingus Insane Location: 38° 51' N 77° 2' W	i dunno dude, that's a tough one, but it sounds pretty damn harsh to me. tabloid journalism and all, who knows what she really said that got left out of the story. i guess i read into the story that she probably has low self esteem to begin with, and although she may have wanted to say no or resist, she just didn't know how. maybe coming forward with a story like this takes more guts than she's ever used before. __________________ if everyone is thinking alike, chances are no one is thinking.

02-22-2004, 06:26 PM	#5 (permalink)
analog Banned	...and she went on to a SECOND group orgy after the first? Fuck that. Attention whore. She makes legitimate rape cases harder to convict by pulling shit like this. Disgraceful on her part.

02-22-2004, 06:37 PM	#6 (permalink)
Nikki ~~~~~~~ Location: Charleston, SC	That was probably the most confusing thing I have ever read in my entire life. All I got out of it was that she fucked a bunch of people and now regrets it.

02-23-2004, 06:44 AM	#8 (permalink)
mtsgsd Addict Location: Wisconsin, USA	I don't understand how a story like this gets into a newspaper. She doesn't seem to have filed charges, she just feels bad. So the story gets published with all sorts of detail. Sounds like a national inquirer sort of thing.

02-23-2004, 08:33 AM	#10 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	Regret it, fine. We all have regrets in life. If you do not say no or stop in a situation like this, you have no case for rape.