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BigTruck1956 · 02-15-2004, 11:35 PM

So for the past week i have been dating a girl that i met about 3 weeks ago, and her birthday is coming up in a few days. I was wondering, if anyone had any recommendations as to what i should do for her... I have never been in the situation where a girl's birthday was so soon after we started dating.
any advice, as always, is much appreciated.

mods, please move this if its in the wrong section.
thanks.

*edited for grammar

Sleepyjack · 02-15-2004, 11:55 PM

Agggghhh, yes, the delicate balance of appearing thoughtful etc, whilst not going overboard and appearing too heavy

I had a similar situation whilst shopping for a friends girlfriend, which has some similar pretenses.
This thread could give you some ideas?

Hope it works out ok for you

BigTruck1956 · 02-17-2004, 08:48 AM

hmm thanks for the link...lost of good ideas there. ill see what i can come up with

bparker805 · 02-17-2004, 09:08 AM

I would say to pack a picnic with some wine or champagne and go to a secluded spot that offers a beautiful view. Buy her some flowers but don't go way too over board. Im guessing that she might just enjoy the effort and your company... Good luck!

WarWagon · 02-17-2004, 04:14 PM

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Originally posted by bparker805
I would say to pack a picnic with some wine or champagne and go to a secluded spot that offers a beautiful view. Buy her some flowers but don't go way too over board. Im guessing that she might just enjoy the effort and your company... Good luck!

Nice idea, but if its as cold in Boston as it is here in Ohio, she might be shivering too hard to appreciate it!

gabshu · 02-17-2004, 05:45 PM

Thats tricky, are you sure she wants to spend her birthday with you? I recomend you don't give her flowers (but then again I hate getting flowers). Get her something nice and neutral, try to consult it with another friend that's a girl.
I was in a similar situation with my boyfriend, and I gave him sex, but that might not work out for you.

jbrooks544 · 02-17-2004, 06:17 PM

be creative. They love thoughtful and creative - makes them think you really care and put a lot of thought into it.

You could make a gift certificate "good for dinner and movie of your choice - whenever you want". Yes, make it yourself. You could also disarm the whole situation, and your dilemma, by coming right out and saying "Since we've only been going out for 3 weeks I really didn't know what was 'appropriate'. I didn't want to scare you off, etc. etc."... "But, I figured you would really like this (hand her homemade gift certificate) and you can use it whenever you want."..

This is GOLD!!!

bparker805 · 02-17-2004, 06:37 PM

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Originally posted by WarWagon
Nice idea, but if its as cold in Boston as it is here in Ohio, she might be shivering too hard to appreciate it!

*smacks self in head* i gotta remember to look at location... I kinda forgot that the rest of the country doesn't have the same weather as So. Cal.

BigTruck1956 · 02-17-2004, 11:46 PM

thanks for all the advice. I like the certificate idea...
I consulted with some female freinds, and ill probably get her something nice but not too expesive from bath and body works or something like that.

gabshu, she has already expressed a desire to stay the night with me,so perhaps sex might also be on the menu

ForgottenKnight · 02-18-2004, 12:46 AM

Buy her some flowers... but not just any flowers... try to find a very rare kind as to increase the chances of it being a type she's never recieved before.

Aletheia · 02-18-2004, 02:14 AM

Bath and Body is usually a safe bet. My GF is allergic to some soaps though so I have to be careful.

kulrblind · 02-18-2004, 06:09 AM

My suggestion is something not-too-serious, not-too-expensive. Let her know you're thinking about her, and that she's special. Dinner's nice, since it's early in the courtship anyway, with a little extra present. The cuter/sweeter, the better. Make sure it's something she wouldn't get from a "friend" or a family member. Good luck

Charlatan · 02-18-2004, 07:42 AM

I agree with the picnic... Yes, it's Boston but... you can take her to an art gallery, a museum or the symphony...

Keep it simple. You don't need to overwhelm her (as others have suggested). Go too big and you risk looking like an overbearing fool.

Make something for her. If you write, write her a poem. If you draw, draw her a picture.

If all else fails, a nice dinner at a resaurant you can afford, flowers and then off to the theatre (don't take her to the movies, it isn't romantic enough, don't know why the theatre is romantic it just is)

02-15-2004, 11:35 PM	#1 (permalink)
BigTruck1956 Psycho Location: norcal	B-day stuff... So for the past week i have been dating a girl that i met about 3 weeks ago, and her birthday is coming up in a few days. I was wondering, if anyone had any recommendations as to what i should do for her... I have never been in the situation where a girl's birthday was so soon after we started dating. any advice, as always, is much appreciated. mods, please move this if its in the wrong section. thanks. edited for grammar __________________ so much to do, so little time.....at least i aint bored. Last edited by BigTruck1956; 02-16-2004 at 12:14 AM..*

02-17-2004, 08:48 AM	#3 (permalink)
BigTruck1956 Psycho Location: norcal	hmm thanks for the link...lost of good ideas there. ill see what i can come up with __________________ so much to do, so little time.....at least i aint bored.

02-17-2004, 05:45 PM	#6 (permalink)
gabshu Psycho Location: The capital of the free world??	Thats tricky, are you sure she wants to spend her birthday with you? I recomend you don't give her flowers (but then again I hate getting flowers). Get her something nice and neutral, try to consult it with another friend that's a girl. I was in a similar situation with my boyfriend, and I gave him sex, but that might not work out for you. __________________ Go Kool Aid. OH YEAAHH http://www.retrocrush.com/archive2003/koolaid/

02-17-2004, 11:46 PM	#9 (permalink)
BigTruck1956 Psycho Location: norcal	thanks for all the advice. I like the certificate idea... I consulted with some female freinds, and ill probably get her something nice but not too expesive from bath and body works or something like that. gabshu, she has already expressed a desire to stay the night with me,so perhaps sex might also be on the menu __________________ so much to do, so little time.....at least i aint bored.

02-18-2004, 12:46 AM	#10 (permalink)
ForgottenKnight Jesus Freak Location: Following the light...	Buy her some flowers... but not just any flowers... try to find a very rare kind as to increase the chances of it being a type she's never recieved before. __________________ "People say I'm strange, does that make me a stranger?"

02-15-2004, 11:55 PM	#2 (permalink)
Sleepyjack Fast'n'Bulbous Location: Australia, Perth	Agggghhh, yes, the delicate balance of appearing thoughtful etc, whilst not going overboard and appearing too heavy I had a similar situation whilst shopping for a friends girlfriend, which has some similar pretenses. This thread could give you some ideas? Hope it works out ok for you

02-17-2004, 09:08 AM	#4 (permalink)
bparker805 is KING! Location: On the path to Valhalla.	I would say to pack a picnic with some wine or champagne and go to a secluded spot that offers a beautiful view. Buy her some flowers but don't go way too over board. Im guessing that she might just enjoy the effort and your company... Good luck!

02-17-2004, 06:17 PM	#7 (permalink)
jbrooks544 Addict	be creative. They love thoughtful and creative - makes them think you really care and put a lot of thought into it. You could make a gift certificate "good for dinner and movie of your choice - whenever you want". Yes, make it yourself. You could also disarm the whole situation, and your dilemma, by coming right out and saying "Since we've only been going out for 3 weeks I really didn't know what was 'appropriate'. I didn't want to scare you off, etc. etc."... "But, I figured you would really like this (hand her homemade gift certificate) and you can use it whenever you want.".. This is GOLD!!!

02-18-2004, 02:14 AM	#11 (permalink)
Aletheia Psycho	Bath and Body is usually a safe bet. My GF is allergic to some soaps though so I have to be careful.

02-18-2004, 06:09 AM	#12 (permalink)
kulrblind plays well with others Location: Canada	My suggestion is something not-too-serious, not-too-expensive. Let her know you're thinking about her, and that she's special. Dinner's nice, since it's early in the courtship anyway, with a little extra present. The cuter/sweeter, the better. Make sure it's something she wouldn't get from a "friend" or a family member. Good luck

02-18-2004, 07:42 AM	#13 (permalink)
Charlatan Getting it. Super Moderator Location: Lion City	I agree with the picnic... Yes, it's Boston but... you can take her to an art gallery, a museum or the symphony... Keep it simple. You don't need to overwhelm her (as others have suggested). Go too big and you risk looking like an overbearing fool. Make something for her. If you write, write her a poem. If you draw, draw her a picture. If all else fails, a nice dinner at a resaurant you can afford, flowers and then off to the theatre (don't take her to the movies, it isn't romantic enough, don't know why the theatre is romantic it just is) __________________ "My hands are on fire. Hands are on fire. Ain't got no more time for all you charlatans and liars." - Old Man Luedecke