AfterBurn

Ok, I sit close to this girl who i think maybe has a crush on me but i don't like her that much. I always try to avoid looking at her so that she gets the idea that I don't like her and I try and sit on an angle which shows uninterest. I also ignore her and everything but so far it's not working I think. She glaces at me from time to time and tries to get my attention which I sort of find annoying. The real problem is that maybe a month ago I did like her and I showed it but she took it for granted and tried to play hard to get with me and I pretty much got sick of it and gave up. My question is, how can I make her totally uninteresed in me without me being mean to her or being a jerk. Looking like crap won't work because it's in school and I don't want others getting a bad impression of me.

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lurkette

How about saying "I'm sorry to have sent mixed signals, but I'm not interested in a romantic relationship with you any more." You can't make her uninterested in you, but you can make your intentions known and then behave accordingly.

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mb99usa

Talk to her. Find out if she is interested and in the conversation I'm sure you'll figure out how to properly respond.

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AfterBurn

I can't because I don't know if she likes me or not. I'm pretty sure she does but theres no hard evidence of that.

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amge

It's a gamble, but do a George Castanza, and mention a three way.

AfterBurn

I don't wanna be rude or anything and I'm generally very nice when I talk to people so if I do talk to her it will be very blunt and will probably hurt her feelings.

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AfterBurn

Hahaha I love Sinfield. I don't know if you're joking in that post or not but even if it did work then who would be the 3rd lol.

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lurkette

If you're not willing to bring it up with her in conversation, just keep doing what you're doing until a) she makes her intentions clear somehow, or b) she gets the hint and leaves you alone. Like I said, you can't make her totally uninterested in you - she's going to feel how she feels. All you can control are your actions. Either find out how she feels and then respond, or just ignore it and go on about your business without wasting more time thinking about it.

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ratbastid

Which is all good until you find out she's into it...

Sho Nuff

Then its GRRRRRRREAT!

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Ustwo

My young friend you have discovered the secret of women! They are not interested unless you are not interested. Lots of reasons for it, but thats how they operate (and a few will even admit it). So there is basicly nothing you can do outside of telling her off, or just ignoring it.

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AfterBurn

Heh I don't know...Usually when girls show interest in me and I don't do anything at all they usually get frustrated and move on and that's it.

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Prince

I think I'd just be flattered by the attention, personally. But yeah, guess I can see how it might get annoying if she looks like a horse's arse or is otherwise of questionable character.

Keep ignoring her. Eventually she'll give up...unless she's a psycho of some sort.

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AfterBurn

Thanks!

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Minx

Lurkette.....you always take the words right out of my mouth!

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sillygirl

Mention another girl sometime that you're interested in. Let her overhear you talking to a buddy or something... yeah, it'll feel like a burn to her, but hey.. if you don't want anything to do with her, what does it matter?

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AfterBurn

Funny you mention that because thats the first thing I did when I noticed she was glancing at me and trying to give me hints. Didn't work though.

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sillygirl

If you only mention another girl once, she'll pretend it never happened. Is there a girl you're interested in? Let her see you with your interest. Or hear you talk about her more than once... she'll get the hint eventually.... Girls are stupid that way sometimes. :-/

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AfterBurn

I found an easier way, I just got a frield to change seats and then call me over to sit with him. No feelings hurt and I'm happy. Thansk for all your suggestions I will look back to this thread if this ever happens again.

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Mantus

I am going to go out on a limb here. It’s my own personal view of what I see, of course I could be wrong.

It is obvious that you still like this girl. The initial courting ritual didn’t work out, for whatever reason that may be. I certainly hope it was not because you were to shy (or afraid of rejection) to ask her out yourself and expected her to make the first move. Now she is still interested in you. Yet you are too shy (or afraid or both) to ask her out. So what you want is for her to stop liking you so that way you can feel secure about not loosing an opportunity of dating this girl.

If this is the case I got to tell you that you are just fooling yourself. If you don’t at least try you will always regret it. Rejections are so easy to deal with, the heart heals fast, and you learn to move on. But nothing is worse then wondering if she could have said “yes”. That question will never go away for the rest of your life. So do yourself a big favor, just ask this girl out already!

AfterBurn

Dude, you're not undertsnading me. I don't like this girl for several reasons. I used to like her at first because she seemed pretty nice and all that but later I saw she was pretty boring and also a prude. I already don't regret it and I'm actually pretty happy.

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water_boy1999

Women make awesome friends AfterBurn. If for nothing more than they have other friends who are probably hot. J/K.

It works both ways. Unless you marry the next girl you go out with, I guarantee this will happen to you on multiple occasions. You will have a crush on someone that doesn't find you remotely interesting. She will put on an act like she is a friend, give you hope that there could possibly be more to it, then have a difficult time letting you off easy because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. It will happen.

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AfterBurn

Actually it has happened before and more than once. . What's funny is that I talked to this girl maybe a total of 5 times over all and it was about homework or something. Pretty weird.

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water_boy1999

Sometimes it only takes 1 conversation to become enamored with someone or have them become enamored with you. Good luck!

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