twistad

Ok so i finally decided to talk to this girl and i invited her to the movie but now i'm thinking this might be a bad move, i'd prefer to talk to her and not just lock myself in to a room where i have to be quiet.

So any advices on good places to invite her?
Thanks

hobo

Movies are usually a good start. You don't have to talk that much and can get used to being near each other. It also gives you something to talk about afterwards. Go grab a coffee or something after the movie and then talk in a small cafe or something.

sailor

Coffee. Coffee is the perfect starter date. Doesnt have to be too serious, but you two still get to spend time together and talk. That is, of course, assuming the two of you like coffee.

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moonstrucksoul

definately coffee, tea, or a drink, i don't think that a movie is very good for a first date, unless it's gonna be a real long date.

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clavus

Movie is cool. Even if the movie sucks, you guys have something to talk about afterwards.

My first date with my (now) wife was a movie that a friend suggested. I knew nothing about the flick prior to seeing it. The movie was DEAD RINGERS. For those of you who missed this fine piece of cinema, it was about drugged-out, sex-mad gynocologists.

Note to twitad: DEAD RINGERS is NOT a good first-date movie.

It's a good thing my date had a great sense of humor...

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AfterBurn

watching a movie at your or her house is the best because youll have the privacy to do whatever , you can choose the movie (which can set the mood you want)

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Loup

I don't think so - shit, you don't want to sit around for an hour and half not talking for the first part of the date. You want to get to know the person. I'ld suggest hitting up a pool hall or coffee house as already mentioned. Something where you two can have a good solid conversation and get to know each other.

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Zorvox

Go for a walk, grab something to eat, walk some more

tikki

I always thought friendly competition was a good first date. Playing miniature golf is a definite ice breaker. Then you can head to dinner where things are lightened up after the golf. Next, go see a movie (read: not a Rock, Arnold, or other blow shit up movie. A chick flick...unless you are dating tank girl), and then go get coffee and a good convo afte it.

How's that for a first date?

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nukeu666

hmm....minigolf sounds good
u get to know more about a person in competition in an hour than a month in a moviehall

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kurty[B]

tikki has a good idea, mini golf, or pool, I like to go hiking, but find that's not really a good time until you've really found out if the girl is really an outdoorsy girl or not (gone with plenty of girls who've said they're active, and LOVE hiking, then actually went, and after a quarter of a mile they're gasping for breath, and complaining).

Definitely go out for a meal, and if you go to a movie, go to an ice cream parlor, or a coffee shop afterwards. (I'm not a fan of coffee shops at all, but they are very good locations for first dates, and what not).

analog

it should be something you know the girl would enjoy. so if you know she enjoys playing pool, that's an awesome date. i really like the mini-golf. it gives you lots of time to talk and laugh. good thoughts all around as far as i'm concerned.

Oh, and nice Tank Girl reference, tikki.

absorbentishe

The first date I ever went on, I was 16 and it was set up but I really wanted to date this girl, was to a movie, then ice cream after. Then we headed to our mutual friends, that set us up, my friend was dating her friend. Needles to say, we dated several more times, but as a foursome, with my friend and her friend. Nothing ever really happened, she was great but too different for me.

I did find out, at our 10 yr reunion, that she still hasn't dated anyone, and she still would have liked to get things going. I guess I really missed the signs there!

Sho Nuff

If I really like a girl I take her snowboarding, especially if shes never been. That way you see what shes made of. Similar to the hiking idea. I love a woman that seldom complains and does not give up.

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skysooner

Movie is okay as long as you do something before. Pick her up early for coffee (or meet at a coffee house). You definitely want to give yourself some time to find out about her (and that's what this is all about) rather than about a movie. I have found movies to be a big hit or miss proposition. I had this one girl that I really liked who decided to wear a very short miniskirt on our date. She looked great, but the movie theater was kept at an arctic level. She froze, I had nothing to give her to make it better, and we basically never talked again.

ratbastid

Perfect first date, especially during the winter: Ice Skating.

The way it usually works is, one of you is good at it and the other isn't. Either way, you're in for lots of good natured clinging together, and a ton of laughs.

On reflection, I don't recommend this if NEITHER of you is good at it.

bukaki22

make your own movie. you don't even have to tell her your filming.
(you should though)

anti fishstick

it's almost christmastime. drive around and see some lights or any events like it. then go back to your place and warm up with hot chocolate and maybe other things

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water_boy1999

Take her to a ballgame. That is if she is into sports....

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sailor

Yep. If you watch a movie, dont go to the theater. Its a very non-interactive experience. Take the following suggestion if you must watch a movie, it allows for more interaction:

Im still a big fan of the coffee, though

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tikki

hmm. first date inviting a girl over to watch a movie? I think she might get the wrong idea.

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Cheesebreath

It's better over coffee, you don't want to move things too fast and freak her out. Or driving around looking at Christmas lights is great too... also, one of the first times I went out with my current boyfriend, we just walked around my neighborhood. It was great, and lots of laughs (he's quite clumsy;-))

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dami³

I agree - the best place to do that would be at a restaurant (and it's easy) - take her/him to a nice place and don't be shy to talk about anything that may interest you - "After a good meal follows good talk" - in my experience this is the best way to really get to know someone, and it can only get better from there on, after dinner just go to a nice bar, where talking isn't cheap and where you can show who you really are ... if she/he falls for you there, then you've got (the first step) made - things are open from there on, a movie won't do that for you, in no way does it say: "I would really like to know you", sharing a dinner with someone and in the process sharing "what you are made off" does (both in a sociological and biological sense)

Seaver

1st date for me is always a coffee shop. I dont drink coffee but the atmosphere is relaxed, and is great for conversation. IMO the ability to have a good conversation is #1, this lets you know right from the start, and is inexpensive.

2nd date I usually do something like take her to a poolhall or put-put like said above. She's already relaxed around you, and a little easy competition is always good.

Personally I hate movies dates until you're already had a handfull of previous dates. Yeah if you're shy it's a lot easier not having to talk, but you dont develope any sense of who she is, vice versa for her.

Besides, girls get dates a lot easier than guys, and 90% of guys are all the same. They all do the dinner/movie date, and every girl is sick of it. Be origional, if you cant think of anything the best people to ask is ... <drumroll> other girls. Ask them what's the most memorable dates they have, I almost garantee you they're not movie dates.

Balano

A good slapping in the ass of a girl who doesn't know me has worked a few times. I'll see a girl I like, slap her, and she might enjoy it and we'll start "talking". I never said it ALWAYS works.

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tikki

ok, that got a good laugh out of me.

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