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MaGlC_MaN · 12-08-2003, 12:48 PM

ok, i have this "friend with benefits", and we have been having sex quite a bit for the past few weeks. during foreplay, i try to do my best; blow in her ear some, kiss her neck, rub/lick/suck her nipples, etc. she basically told me that i could be better during foreplay, so i've been wondering what all else u girls like to have done to you. she doesn't really like the idea of me going "down there" too much, so that's out. i was thinking about maybe licking her up and down at some places.. just not sure where or even if that's all that pleasing. so guys that know/girls, any tips for me? thanks

Arrion · 12-08-2003, 01:13 PM

Find the spots that she's "ticklish", usually sometimes right around the hips, definitely on the neck, and sometimes on the stomach

lurkette · 12-08-2003, 01:29 PM

What we like to have done to us is immaterial.

What does SHE like to have done to HER? Try asking her.

Pragma · 12-08-2003, 02:01 PM

I agree with lurkette. I could list out the things I do to my girlfriend to get her absolutely soaking her panties (with her clothes on, no less)

- but it would do you no good, as that's all specific to what she likes.

What you need to do is start exploring her body, starting at the head and working down. See what her reaction is when you kiss certain spots. Every woman is different. If you really enjoy making her happy, you'll take a lot of pleasure in exploring her body. I enjoy doing things to my girlfriend as much as (or more than) I enjoy getting things done to me. It's just part of the fun.

la petite moi · 12-08-2003, 04:25 PM

Yeah, you never know, she might have some crazzzzzay elbow kissing fetish. =D Ask her.

numist · 12-08-2003, 04:28 PM

Lots of women like to have the area just above their pubic bone pushed in and down...

Most do, some dont.. try it lightly and see if you get a reaction.. if you dont get an instant reaction.. well sorry..

Ive gotten my lady to reach O with the stomach press many times.. it can be VERY sensitive, and usually an instant turnon.

monkeysugar · 12-08-2003, 08:18 PM

As many others have mentioned, it all depends on the woman. What works for one won't necessarily work on the other. Observation is the best plan here: explore, observe her reactions, when she starts squirming like crazy (in a good way,) usually accompanied by heavy breathing, moaning, a very distinct smell if you're lucky

or just general signs that she's enjoying it, keep doing what you're doing. Light kisses, breaths across sensitive areas aren't a bad way to go either. Just relax, have fun, and try not to worry about it too much. In my opinion, the most powerful erogenous zone is the brain.

Zorvox · 12-08-2003, 08:25 PM

Kissing is very erousing.. and can turn a virgin into a slut lol

come on people !!! more kissing less rooting !!! make 100% sexuaaalll and yeah.. I dunno, kissing is good no?

skysooner · 12-08-2003, 08:26 PM

Communication is your friend. My wife has completely different erogenous zones than other girls I have been with. It took me awhile to figure this out as she wasn't telling me. Now she tells me instantly if something I'm doing does nothing for her.

Zorvox · 12-08-2003, 08:26 PM

oh and, I use to tell my ex to "give me her tongue" she'd like just stick her tongue and I use to put my mouth over hers and just play with / suck on her tongue.

She use to love it and I use to love doing it.. it was a good warmup thing I found

WarWagon · 12-08-2003, 09:50 PM

You could always try to bring in props. Blindfolds, flowers, feathers, or the route I chose to go to spice things up a bit, vibrators.

sailor · 12-08-2003, 09:55 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by lurkette
What we like to have done to us is immaterial.

What does SHE like to have done to HER? Try asking her.

Best advice Ive heard in a while.

SparklingDot · 12-08-2003, 10:20 PM

The blowing in the ear thing isn't that big of a turn on... Its coincidental breathing in my ear that works for me. A lot of light touching works on me...soft caresses on bare skin. Start with little things way before you get into the bedroom.

12-09-2003, 12:41 PM

kiss every inch of her body- play with her hair- oil massage- have your penis scale her stomach..........but I think it would be best to just ask her, as she may like something you have no idea about. Whenever in doubt, just ask her.

moonstrucksoul · 12-09-2003, 03:35 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by :::OshnSoul:::
kiss every inch of her body- play with her hair- oil massage- have your penis scale her stomach..........but I think it would be best to just ask her, as she may like something you have no idea about. Whenever in doubt, just ask her.

WTF? I thought I was your bitch, where is my rubdown?

12-09-2003, 04:25 PM

Alright, bitch, guess you've earned your reward.........

dr_clocker · 12-09-2003, 07:53 PM

Flowers, chocolate, wine etc.. Setting the mood is as important as foreplay. Get the mood going and ride the wake. The momentum of the situation will take care of its self.

sepacol · 12-09-2003, 08:05 PM

Go for lots of kissing.. and be coy. Don't be too aggressive. Make HER come to you

platypus · 12-10-2003, 06:43 AM

Jewelry.

kwoodmex · 12-10-2003, 10:13 AM

I'm going to chime in and agree with what people have already said, just ask, she'll definitely be able to tell you what gets her going.

If not do a lot of light touching, tickling all over her body. Pay attention to the spots that make her squirm. Stick with the caressing for a bit, then go back in with the kissing. Sometimes the weirdest spots will get a girl very excited.

12-08-2003, 12:48 PM	#1 (permalink)
MaGlC_MaN Insane Location: Tennessee	other ways to please her? ok, i have this "friend with benefits", and we have been having sex quite a bit for the past few weeks. during foreplay, i try to do my best; blow in her ear some, kiss her neck, rub/lick/suck her nipples, etc. she basically told me that i could be better during foreplay, so i've been wondering what all else u girls like to have done to you. she doesn't really like the idea of me going "down there" too much, so that's out. i was thinking about maybe licking her up and down at some places.. just not sure where or even if that's all that pleasing. so guys that know/girls, any tips for me? thanks

12-08-2003, 01:13 PM	#2 (permalink)
Arrion Upright	Find the spots that she's "ticklish", usually sometimes right around the hips, definitely on the neck, and sometimes on the stomach __________________ I think I am. Therefore I am. I think

12-08-2003, 01:29 PM	#3 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	What we like to have done to us is immaterial. What does SHE like to have done to HER? Try asking her. __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

12-08-2003, 02:01 PM	#4 (permalink)
Pragma I am Winter Born Location: Alexandria, VA	I agree with lurkette. I could list out the things I do to my girlfriend to get her absolutely soaking her panties (with her clothes on, no less) - but it would do you no good, as that's all specific to what she likes. What you need to do is start exploring her body, starting at the head and working down. See what her reaction is when you kiss certain spots. Every woman is different. If you really enjoy making her happy, you'll take a lot of pleasure in exploring her body. I enjoy doing things to my girlfriend as much as (or more than) I enjoy getting things done to me. It's just part of the fun. __________________ Eat antimatter, Posleen-boy!

12-08-2003, 08:18 PM	#7 (permalink)
monkeysugar I'll be on the veranda, since you're on the cross. Location: Rand McNally's friendliest small town in America. They must have strayed from the dodgy parts...	As many others have mentioned, it all depends on the woman. What works for one won't necessarily work on the other. Observation is the best plan here: explore, observe her reactions, when she starts squirming like crazy (in a good way,) usually accompanied by heavy breathing, moaning, a very distinct smell if you're lucky or just general signs that she's enjoying it, keep doing what you're doing. Light kisses, breaths across sensitive areas aren't a bad way to go either. Just relax, have fun, and try not to worry about it too much. In my opinion, the most powerful erogenous zone is the brain. __________________ I've got the love of my life and a job that I enjoy most of the time. Life is good.

12-08-2003, 04:25 PM	#5 (permalink)
la petite moi Filling the Void. Location: California	Yeah, you never know, she might have some crazzzzzay elbow kissing fetish. =D Ask her.

12-08-2003, 04:28 PM	#6 (permalink)
numist Banned Location: UCSD, 510.49 miles from my love	Lots of women like to have the area just above their pubic bone pushed in and down... Most do, some dont.. try it lightly and see if you get a reaction.. if you dont get an instant reaction.. well sorry.. Ive gotten my lady to reach O with the stomach press many times.. it can be VERY sensitive, and usually an instant turnon.

12-08-2003, 08:25 PM	#8 (permalink)
Zorvox Crazy Location: Sydney, Australia	Kissing is very erousing.. and can turn a virgin into a slut lol come on people !!! more kissing less rooting !!! make 100% sexuaaalll and yeah.. I dunno, kissing is good no?

12-08-2003, 08:26 PM	#9 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	Communication is your friend. My wife has completely different erogenous zones than other girls I have been with. It took me awhile to figure this out as she wasn't telling me. Now she tells me instantly if something I'm doing does nothing for her.

12-08-2003, 08:26 PM	#10 (permalink)
Zorvox Crazy Location: Sydney, Australia	oh and, I use to tell my ex to "give me her tongue" she'd like just stick her tongue and I use to put my mouth over hers and just play with / suck on her tongue. She use to love it and I use to love doing it.. it was a good warmup thing I found

12-08-2003, 09:50 PM	#11 (permalink)
WarWagon Loser	You could always try to bring in props. Blindfolds, flowers, feathers, or the route I chose to go to spice things up a bit, vibrators.

12-08-2003, 10:20 PM	#13 (permalink)
SparklingDot Insane	The blowing in the ear thing isn't that big of a turn on... Its coincidental breathing in my ear that works for me. A lot of light touching works on me...soft caresses on bare skin. Start with little things way before you get into the bedroom. __________________ 17 seconds is all you really need - Smashing Pumpkins

12-09-2003, 12:41 PM	#14 (permalink)
:::OshnSoul::: Guest	kiss every inch of her body- play with her hair- oil massage- have your penis scale her stomach..........but I think it would be best to just ask her, as she may like something you have no idea about. Whenever in doubt, just ask her.

12-09-2003, 04:25 PM	#16 (permalink)
:::OshnSoul::: Guest	Alright, bitch, guess you've earned your reward.........

12-09-2003, 07:53 PM	#17 (permalink)
dr_clocker Insane Location: ND	Flowers, chocolate, wine etc.. Setting the mood is as important as foreplay. Get the mood going and ride the wake. The momentum of the situation will take care of its self. __________________ You cant help from growing old, but that doesnt mean you have to grow up.

12-10-2003, 06:43 AM	#19 (permalink)
platypus Essen meine kurze Hosen Location: NY Burbs	Jewelry. __________________ Out the 10Base-T, through the router, down the T1, over the leased line, off the bridge, past the firewall...nothing but Net.

12-09-2003, 08:05 PM	#18 (permalink)
sepacol Banned Location: Cambridge	Go for lots of kissing.. and be coy. Don't be too aggressive. Make HER come to you

12-10-2003, 10:13 AM	#20 (permalink)
kwoodmex Crazy	I'm going to chime in and agree with what people have already said, just ask, she'll definitely be able to tell you what gets her going. If not do a lot of light touching, tickling all over her body. Pay attention to the spots that make her squirm. Stick with the caressing for a bit, then go back in with the kissing. Sometimes the weirdest spots will get a girl very excited.