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uv7piy · 12-08-2003, 10:29 AM

I enjoy oral sex with my wife (and she does too), but sometimes she doesn't want me to. Is there a tackful way of determining if she is in the mood besides asking "Is there snapper on the menu tonight?"

Averett · 12-08-2003, 10:48 AM

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Originally posted by uv7piy
"Is there snapper on the menu tonight?"

yeah, that might not do it!

I guess you could always just go for it...

A guy begged me once. Said something along the lines of "just one lick!" Only reason I was hesitant to begin with was the fact that there was somebody sleeping on a couch about 4 feet away... I didn't care after a few minutes though

erion · 12-08-2003, 10:49 AM

Well, I can't imagine my wife not enjoying it all the time, but there have been rare instances (like shortly after yeast infections, etc.) that she didn't want me down there, so she just told me not to go there.

Part of good communication is that it be two-way. If she doesn't want you going down on here she should feel comfortable enough to tell you so when you make motions in that direction. Most of the time all it takes is me kissing and licking on her tummy for her to start shimmying me lower.

absorbentishe · 12-08-2003, 12:28 PM

My wife will let me know if she doesn't want me down there, if I get near there. So really, communication is the key, period. If she wants you to, then she won't stop you.

Arrion · 12-08-2003, 01:15 PM

Yeah, I agree with the previous posters, if you go for it, and she's opposed, she'll tell you and that's not the end of the world

REDL|NE · 12-08-2003, 01:25 PM

honesty is the best policy, communication is number one

hellasnow · 12-08-2003, 01:26 PM

yup my wife makes me well aware if she doesn't want me down there as soon as i make any sign of heading down south. bums me out tho when she doesnt' want that but i'm not asking for it in return just like to eat that pussy!!

Charlatan · 12-08-2003, 05:07 PM

As I am working my way down to her pussy, my wife just slowly pulls me back up and says that's not what I want tonight...

Just fuck me... (or whatever else she has in mind).

moonstrucksoul · 12-08-2003, 06:03 PM

maybe you should try shaving first.

dieter · 12-08-2003, 07:29 PM

A tactful way to suggest it to see if things are going to go that way is (during foreplay, or cuddling, or teasing, etc) just say something like "All I've been able to think about today is the way you taste... I would just love to..." and then go on to describe what you have in mind. Even if she's not into it at first, she may be by the time you're done with your story.

It also helps to be saying the whole thing in a hot whisper right next to her ear as you nibble neck/ear/whatever works.

Dwarf020 · 12-08-2003, 08:01 PM

it's all a matter of talking enough to each other. that can mean you just ask ahead of time, or she gives you a little signal or whatever, it's very simple.

skysooner · 12-08-2003, 08:24 PM

Many times, women don't like you to go down because they might not think they are particularly "hygienic" at the moment. Also, if you try to fast, they might not be quite in the mood. I can pretty much do it whenever I want, but I have let my wife know in no uncertain terms that I don't mind any "odor" she might have and that I genuinely enjoy doing it. Lots of foreplay is your friend in these situations. When you think you have done enough foreplay, so some more.

analog · 12-08-2003, 10:46 PM

Would you mind if she randomly started giving you head? And if you had a reason to object, wouldn't you say so?

I think you should assume, and head south after a little steam-building, and see what pans out.

And THIS... is THE MAN...

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Originally posted by skysooner
When you think you have done enough foreplay, do some more.

uv7piy · 12-09-2003, 08:42 AM

I don't think it would even occur to me to object to her "randomly giving me head".

I'm on board with skysooner's advice about foreplay. Definately a recipe for success.

skysooner · 12-09-2003, 10:52 AM

You actually might be surprised on turning down head. When she is giving me head, it usually means she is ready to move on to penetration. I might be hard but sometimes I'm not sufficiently aroused to really get off on sex. If I"m not aroused enough, I generally won't come. Now we tend to communicate with each other on when either one of us is turned on enough to move on to the next stage. It isn't as clinical as it sounds as we know each other well enough to communicate non-verbally (touches, etc.)

12-08-2003, 10:29 AM	#1 (permalink)
uv7piy Banned Location: Near NYC	Initiating oral sex I enjoy oral sex with my wife (and she does too), but sometimes she doesn't want me to. Is there a tackful way of determining if she is in the mood besides asking "Is there snapper on the menu tonight?"

12-08-2003, 01:15 PM	#5 (permalink)
Arrion Upright	Yeah, I agree with the previous posters, if you go for it, and she's opposed, she'll tell you and that's not the end of the world __________________ I think I am. Therefore I am. I think

12-08-2003, 01:25 PM	#6 (permalink)
REDL\|NE Crazy	honesty is the best policy, communication is number one __________________ "You learn more and more about less and less, until you know everything about nothing."

12-08-2003, 01:26 PM	#7 (permalink)
hellasnow Insane	yup my wife makes me well aware if she doesn't want me down there as soon as i make any sign of heading down south. bums me out tho when she doesnt' want that but i'm not asking for it in return just like to eat that pussy!! __________________ "when life looks like easy street..... theres danger at your door." (JG)

12-08-2003, 05:07 PM	#8 (permalink)
Charlatan Getting it. Super Moderator Location: Lion City	As I am working my way down to her pussy, my wife just slowly pulls me back up and says that's not what I want tonight... Just fuck me... (or whatever else she has in mind). __________________ "My hands are on fire. Hands are on fire. Ain't got no more time for all you charlatans and liars." - Old Man Luedecke

12-08-2003, 10:49 AM	#3 (permalink)
erion Psycho	Well, I can't imagine my wife not enjoying it all the time, but there have been rare instances (like shortly after yeast infections, etc.) that she didn't want me down there, so she just told me not to go there. Part of good communication is that it be two-way. If she doesn't want you going down on here she should feel comfortable enough to tell you so when you make motions in that direction. Most of the time all it takes is me kissing and licking on her tummy for her to start shimmying me lower.

12-08-2003, 12:28 PM	#4 (permalink)
absorbentishe Boy am I horny today Location: T O L E D O, Toledo!!	My wife will let me know if she doesn't want me down there, if I get near there. So really, communication is the key, period. If she wants you to, then she won't stop you.

12-08-2003, 06:03 PM	#9 (permalink)
moonstrucksoul hovering in the distance Location: the land of milk and honey	maybe you should try shaving first. __________________ no signature required

12-08-2003, 07:29 PM	#10 (permalink)
dieter Insane Location: Indiana	A tactful way to suggest it to see if things are going to go that way is (during foreplay, or cuddling, or teasing, etc) just say something like "All I've been able to think about today is the way you taste... I would just love to..." and then go on to describe what you have in mind. Even if she's not into it at first, she may be by the time you're done with your story. It also helps to be saying the whole thing in a hot whisper right next to her ear as you nibble neck/ear/whatever works. __________________ All I wanted was some frickin lesbians with laser beams on their heads... Is that too much to ask?

12-08-2003, 08:01 PM	#11 (permalink)
Dwarf020 Tilted	it's all a matter of talking enough to each other. that can mean you just ask ahead of time, or she gives you a little signal or whatever, it's very simple.

12-08-2003, 08:24 PM	#12 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	Many times, women don't like you to go down because they might not think they are particularly "hygienic" at the moment. Also, if you try to fast, they might not be quite in the mood. I can pretty much do it whenever I want, but I have let my wife know in no uncertain terms that I don't mind any "odor" she might have and that I genuinely enjoy doing it. Lots of foreplay is your friend in these situations. When you think you have done enough foreplay, so some more.

12-09-2003, 08:42 AM	#14 (permalink)
uv7piy Banned Location: Near NYC	I don't think it would even occur to me to object to her "randomly giving me head". I'm on board with skysooner's advice about foreplay. Definately a recipe for success.

12-09-2003, 10:52 AM	#15 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	You actually might be surprised on turning down head. When she is giving me head, it usually means she is ready to move on to penetration. I might be hard but sometimes I'm not sufficiently aroused to really get off on sex. If I"m not aroused enough, I generally won't come. Now we tend to communicate with each other on when either one of us is turned on enough to move on to the next stage. It isn't as clinical as it sounds as we know each other well enough to communicate non-verbally (touches, etc.)