To tell or not to tell
 

Ok so you pop the cherry with someone who's had pleanty of sex before. Do you tell them it was your first time or do you keep it to yourself and hope you did alright ?

Hmmmm.

I say you wait until you've had sex a few more times, enough to figure that (s)he's enjoying it because (s)he keeps coming back, then tell them. Then ask them if there's anything you could do to be better, etc. but don't make a big deal of it.

Biggest thing is to stay cool. Don't get too emotional about it or (s)he might freak out.

I lost my virginity to a 15 year old who was very experienced. I had lied to her and told her I had done it a couple of times before. My performance indicated that I had in fact not had sex before. She didn't like the fact that I lied to her, but she was the type of girl who wouldn't have had sex unless I did have experience (kind of a Catch 22 for those who have read the book or seen the movie).

I lost my virginity to a girl who had had sex before. I told her a couple of days later when we were both drunk, and at first she didn't believe me (or at least pretended not to) and then she told me that I was good for a first-timer! ;)

Well she will know it is your first time sweetie... hehehehe

Tell her if you think it matters she know.

i had a girl tell me "go easy on me its my first time" as i was poised above her about to go... almost killed the mood right there... but was able to continue and it was good

This is why people should talk about these things before hand.... IMO...

i think she's right

oops rookie move.

i meant i think vveronica is right

Yeah, i'd say unless you are a natural sex machine, she could tell you'd never done it before. Just talk with her about it, no harm no foul.

I lost mine to another virgin, so it was a rather awkward, but memorable experience. Nice that two virgins were able to share it.

I lost my virginity to an older woman and her face lit up when I told her I was a virgin. She took pleasure in turning me out.

On the flip side ive never been as gentle as when I was someones first. I made sure that the entire experience was something that she would cherish. Flowers, candles, soft music, much foreplay till he begged for it then made love to her soft and slow. She was the most orgasmic woman Ive ever met. She came the first time.....damn got lost in the moment there for a minute...

The point is, definately confess if its your first time, especially if youre a guy. You stand to learn a lot and it takes the pressure off so you dont have to worry about popping too soon. She'll understand.

I would tend to agree there, but i think it would depend on the person(s) your with, if they are uncomfortable with it being "uncool" your or they are a virgin then you might want not to mention it :P

If shes your gf you should talk about it with her...if it's just casual sex you can tell her AFTER

When in doubt, just be honest...

May not be the en vogue thing to do, but I believe that just being straight with people is a helluva lot easier than wondering which pieces of the truth to tell them.

I thought you meant you popped someone's cherry. Strange wording.

Honesty is the best policy. If you don't tell them, they might be thinking one of two things: a) poor performer in bed, or b) it was your first time. Most people are awkward the first time around (unless you're a superstar like Paul Finch in American Pie). If you're honest, you can find out how the person thinks you did for your first time instead of hoping you did well.

yea i agree


be honest let her know


in the long run things will be better that way

Yep I could have worded it better, was pretty tired last night when I posted.

Thanks for the replies, I agree with the majority about being honest... Not always easier but definitly less hassle later.