monstermash

I'm not a strip club expert, but i've been there a few times. question: how active are you guys when you're getting a lap dance? do you just sit there?

i dunno if it's the norm, but i really get into it

i pretty much act as though we are making out and about to get it on. i usually don't just attack her boobs and mash them up. when they grind on my lap, i'm usually grabbing their hips and moving with them. i'm always running my hands up and down their back, legs, arms, and neck. i'm always pulling them closer and trying to keep in rhythm w/ them. so, is this pretty much normal? or does it depend on the guy or dancer? just curious.

i guess i'm still a nudie bar n00b :P

Pragma

I've never been to one myself, but from what I hear, a lot of places don't let you touch the dancer at all while you get a lap dance - which would get you in a lot of trouble with the bouncer, in one of those places. Sounds like it'd be a LOT more fun your way, though.

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sillygirl

I've never been either (don't plan on it. lol) But I've been told that a lot of places make you sit on your hands, and they've got a strict "Hands Off" policy

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feelgood

Well, I've been to couple of strip clubs and couple friends of mine offered to pay for a lapdance on my 18th bday. I declined because those strippers deserve more respect than that.

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rogue49

Well considering the few times when I do get one,
they get off on me as well as I get off on them.

Then I'd say I "get into it"
It's all about mutual pleasure.

JStrider

the place ive been to had a hands off policy... but since you had your dance in a booth off to the side the bouncers couldnt see...

i would keep my hands at my side... and a couple of the dancers would pull them up for me to rub on them some... some of the other dancers didnt like that...

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dragon2fire

god there was this one girl who would let me do alot more thenwatch


acutally she seemed to enjoy it


should i be writing penthouse

mistered

Definitely get into it a lot ... they're expensive!!!!

rockzilla

The girls at the places I've been to seem to have a very enthusiastic 'hands on' policy. I found this out when a dancer grabbed my hands and had me start feeling her up.

If a dancer asks you if you want the $15 or the $20 dance, you say "The $20"

absorbentishe

Depends on the club, some will let you "move" with the girl, and others will make you sit still, on your hands. But if you can move around even a bit, she'll get into it way more. I go to those type of places, not often enough though.

rmarshall

Me too! Then the next time I went, she wasn't there. She got fired! Damn, I hate when that happens!

White Cluster

the clubs I been to, the girls know what they're doing and they do it well...

they grab my hands and put it on their chest....so most of the time I don't have to do anything....

Bloodslick

My friend Bunny (http://www.missbunny.com , since I can't seem to use the url tag in here) would just love to give me a lapdance, I'm absolutely certain. It's something that she enjoys. She has a choice of professions, and she chooses to strip, give lapdances, and do sex shoots. She wants you to respect her for those things, because she takes pride in them.

Oh, and if I were getting a lap dance from Bunny, I'd be just as involved as she'd let me be.

vveronica

As long as my SO does not touch the merchandise. and Of course he feels something is missing in the relationship and a need to pay for Someone elses attention, what would i care about it or him.

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hellasnow

haha this is funny. i just was at a bachlor party and for the first time got kinda active well too active. i slapped the girl on the ass who was giving me a lap dance. she smacked the shit out of me...lol my pops was even there and was laughin his ass off. but she kinda gave me that weird grin like she liked it, yup i think she liked it.

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Sho Nuff

Dont take it personal. Perhaps he has a dirty slut fantasy that he doesnt feel comfortable having you act out.

Ive never gotten a lap dance myself. I really dont see the point. Ive paid for plenty of them though, especially for my ex girlfriend. Nothing is better then seeing the looks on the faces of the happy just before their heads are buried between mountainous knockers. I remember my ex looking like a kid in a candy store when she had her first lapdance. New Orleans has been a special place for us since then.

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herostar

I tend to sit back and let her do her thing, but get into it a little bit... especially if it's good

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motdakasha

You would get kicked out of a strip club in California in seconds flat. Laws vary from state to state, county to county. At the Kit Kat Club, you cannot touch or blow on dancers here. (That's right, cannot blow air at them.) You can't touch them in any way even if they're not on stage. When I went to visit one of my friends during her shift, she had to ask for special permission to be able to hug me. They're really strict about that. Dancers can't get rides home from a "customer," meaning anyone who goes into the club even if you're a friend of the dancer beforehand.

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Bloodslick

That's sad, motdakasha. I wish government could agree that it's the dancer's choice and simply leave it at that.

Sho Nuff

It for security reasons. If some asshole customer get carried away you dont want to make a big scene by having the bouncers jump on him. Its bad for business.

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stiffy

Hey if I'm paying she can do all the work!!

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Dassin

I say grind back. If it's no touch, just don't make it too obvious... they enjoy it more.

txd

Havnt been to any here, but they are all no touch policies

skysooner

I used to receive lap dances all the time. Most of the time I would sit back and enjoy. At other times, there would be very active participation depending upon the girl, the place, etc.

Mr Jiggyfly

A dancer (not in a touch-free club) once suggested to me that wearing blue jeans was not a very good idea. For future visits, something loose and easy to move around in (or out of) like sweatpants was preferred.

Tholo

I'm usually far to nervous to do anything but smile. I don't really go out to strip clubs too often anyway.

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HYEHORSE

call my wierd, but i find lap dances pointless. your paying a girl to pretent she wants to sit on your lap and move around. i dont even get a hard on. especially since you know that her dirty twat has sat on about 30 guys before you got there.

kutulu

I've been to lots of clubs in AZ. The dances I've recieved vary quite a bit. Some keep their distance, others get on you and grind. My way of going about it is to wait and see how she is acting. If she keeps her distance, so do I. If she starts grinding, I'll slowly start moving in rhythm with her. Eventually I'll start touching their legs, hips, and back but always stay away from the breasts and genital region. I've never had a dancer tell me to stop anything although I have had girls move away quickly as soon as I touch them. If they do that, I keep my hands to myself.

Its always been the dancer that went a lot farther than I did. A long time ago, when I was about 19 (28 now), I had a dancer unzip my pants a little, touch me a bit and put her tongue on my tip quickly once. That really freaked me out, but I couldn't bring myself to stop her. I was so afraid a bouncer was going to show up from out of nowhere that I couldn't enjoy it.

At the same club, I had a dancer that would let me lick and suck on her breasts for most of the dance. She kept rubbing them against my lips, so eventually I just went with it. She didn't mind, she just pressed harder against me.

Recently, I found a club with two dancers that do some great things. While she's grinding, she'll reach under my legs and stroke me through my pants a bit. She will also sit on her knees and press her mouth against my cock through my pants. I never knew how much someone could make you feel without taking any of my clothes off. When I got home, I realized I had lipstick marks all over my pants.

About 25% of girls will give light kisses on the neck, ear, or cheek. This other dancer sucked on my earlobe for quite a bit. In spite of all the other crazy things that have happened, this was the most erotic thing a dancer ever did for me. It must of been in the way she did it because it made me feel like she was really into it. She gave me some of the best dances I've ever had. Lots of great grinding, eye contact and kisses from her.

Afterwards, we talked for a few songs. A lot of it was about her job. She told me she loves her job and she loves how erotic dancing is for her. She said she thinks its a safe way for people to enjoy sexual feelings without any bad things happening.

Overall, it just depends on the girl. Let her be the first to do anything and pay attention to how other customers are acting when they get dances and how the dancer herself responds to anything you do. Some love their job and are happy to please you, others don't and want you to stay away. Just don't be a jerk.

doncalypso

I have never been to a strip club not do I plan on ever going to one.

What's the point on spending money to have a girl grind on you if you can't touch her and won't get any sex out of it? It would make more sense to just hire a prostitute and get it over with.

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hannukah harry

uhm... you realize that they chose this job and that lap dances are how they get most of their money, don't you? it's not about respect in getting them, just in how you behave while getting one.

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kutulu

Exactly. If you're not getting lap dances you should be giving lots of tips to the girls on stage. Otherwise, you're just getting a free ride and doing nothing to help them. They chose their job, if they don't like it they can quit.

Just be respectfull when you do get a dance. Let them be the first to initiate contact and be aware of how they react when you touch them. Don't be a touchy jerk if its obvious that they don't want you doing that.

jazzwyld

I definitely stay still. in some clubs you're really frowned upon moving anyways. I figure the girl is a professional so let her do her thing. Now when friends give lap dances, oh I touch I grind I move I have fun...for one they ain't no professional...so that's my logic

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Skettios

A lot of people have said it, but it really all depends on the girl and the place.

I don't ever try to touch a girl without permission, but I do leave my hands on my knees until she tells me to move them. Some girls will sit in your lap and insist that you support them. Even the girls that have encouraged me to touch them, don't want you going into the g-string area, or up over their breasts without some their hands guiding yours.

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KungFuGuy

my friends went to a place where u'd pay for a lapdance, and if you tipped well you'd get a "happy ending"

i wouldnt go for that though cause God only knows how many "happy endings" they be givin. actually the owner/operator might know if he keeps track of how many dances are given.

Radi8tor

different strokes for different folks...i had one hottie in a school girl skirt sit on my lap and grind while she told me about her weekend gardening...what a nightmare...ive had other girls simulate orgasm...at least i think they were simulating...who can ever tell? ;þ

agball

Unfortunatelly I never had one

GraveTaker

well, i don't exactly have a lot of experience with strip clubs cause i only went to 2 of them and i only got one dance which i screwwed myself over because i thoght that you weren't allowed to touch the girls at all unless they let you but i was wrong. So, i just sat there and let her do her thing although next time i'm going to get down and dirty...LOL

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Tophat665

Every place I've been, the rule is no touching the dancer, so I sit on my hands. I talk, though, and let her know what a fine thing she's doing and when she's done something particularly exciting. Actually, it's more of a contented growl, most of the time. I like to chat with them afterwards, too - buy them a drink if they're allowed. I'm married and serious about fidelity, but I like to keep a hand in and the skills sharp, as it were and such as they are, and it seems to me to be unambiguously flirtatious, rather than licenscious, with a woman who's job is to flatter me, and yet more honest after I have given what money they will get from me. I've had some really nifty conversations in that situation.

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