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Mr. Creosote · 11-08-2003, 08:34 AM

My roommate in college was gay and we are still great friends to this day. We were both cool with each other and respected each other's point of view and it was never a problem. We found that our contrasts made life together more interesting. And like others have said, I got great fashion advice and always had lonely girls hanging around!

Baldrick · 11-08-2003, 11:10 AM

Nope, couldn't care less. As others have stated, as long as the rent and bills were paid on time, and the normal roommate rules were abided by from both him and I, why would I care?

Hell, might be fun...

wannabenakid247 · 11-08-2003, 11:18 AM

Hey its cool that you guys have such a cool attitude to gay people.

Met22 · 11-08-2003, 12:25 PM

People are people, no difference between us other than sexual, so what's the deal? As long as my roomate respects my privacy and space there are no issues.

toxic515 · 11-10-2003, 05:29 PM

Gay, straight, Bi, Trans.... um, is the place clean and the rent paid?? then who cares. I've roomed with people of different ethnicities, and in fact married one, and you know what? When the friendship is solid, then being PC isn't important at all. She knows I love her, and all that is her, and my friends who are gay, or of a different culture or skin colour know damned well that I love them. I've made the PC fauxpas more than once. It happens.. You are careful around people who don't know you, but those who do should recognize affection for what it is. Hit on me?? We went to a huge halloween party in the gay area of Dallas a couple weeks ago.. My fake boobs (very very obviously fake, they were painted tupperware bowls) got more attention than my wife's DD cleavage.. WAY more. we had a blast.. I got 4 phone numbers which we laughed about till we almost cried... A good person is a good person, and an ass is an ass... Gay has NOTHING to do with it at all!

Leviathan[NCV] · 11-10-2003, 05:41 PM

It all depends on how 'flaming' he is, if at all. Most gay man I've met are just like every other guy I've met, and dont act like women having a bad day.

So no, no problem whatsoever, if they aren't as someone put it:

Quote:

Originally posted by rainheart
fruity dumbass from 'will and grace'

Tophat665 · 11-10-2003, 06:03 PM

Caveat: I would have to know someone straight or gay to want them as a room mate. Since homosexuality does not necessarily precule one being a total asshole, I can't say that I wouldn't mind a gay roommate, just that I wouln't mind one any more than a straight roommate.

Off the top of my head, I have one gay friend who I wouldn't mind rooming with, and maybe a handful of others who I would mind rooming with. What can I say, I'm cantankerous.

jujueye · 11-10-2003, 08:19 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by rainheart
As long as he's not like that fruity dumbass from 'will and grace'... you know who I'm talking about...

He is what is wrong with gay portrayals on tv. I have many gay friends, and only one acts like that.

I agree: wouldn't be too bad if the roommate wasn't trying to prove he was gay..day to day.

i8one2 · 11-10-2003, 08:37 PM

<--------If they can handle my lifestyle, I can handle theres

And at this point of my life, straight and what it really means as far as a lifestyle is blurred for me anyways.

irateplatypus · 11-10-2003, 08:53 PM

i think i would mind rooming with a gay person. sitting around in my boxers and watching football would never be comfortable again. naturally, there would most likely be a lot of gay men around the place at times. it'd be pretty irritating if i felt one was checking me out. i know that sounds callous, but i think we all prefer honesty.

Hrothgar · 11-10-2003, 10:03 PM

I'd have a huge problem...if they didn't pay half the rent.

Poyzun_Ivy · 11-12-2003, 05:19 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by rainheart
As long as he's not like that fruity dumbass from 'will and grace'... you know who I'm talking about...

Hey, that's the way some gay guys are and it's something that needs to be respected. I have plenty of gay friends that are more woman than *I* am and I love them for it. That's why us hags love them so much.

-+ Ivy +-
Mlle 'Fruit Fly'
Princess of the Fag Hags

(Can't be Queen, Margaret Cho is.)

Addiction · 11-12-2003, 05:20 AM

I've slept in the same bed as a gay friend of mine. I'd have no problem having a gay roomie.

serebreal · 11-14-2003, 12:24 AM

I had a gay roommate.
Besides the fact that he was a complete asshole, he liked to have his boyfriend over to spend the night.
And would sleep with him on MY couch. Yeah, as if that $10 couch from Goodwill hadn't been through enough already.
Gay people don't bother me, as long as they do what they do behind closed doors. I never banged a girl in front of others, and ESPECIALLY not in front of people it would offend.
What else is unbelievable is that he lied about being gay.. he would sleep with guys and then lie about being gay!!?

NEVER again. Avoid polar opposites in a roommate situation, and gay/straight is polar opposite.

tdoc · 11-15-2003, 01:15 PM

One of my college roommates was gay although I didn't know this until about 3 years later. He never came onto me. One time he watched me get head from one of his female friends, I have no idea whether he liked watching it or not, we never spoke about it. He was a slob, but a pretty cool guy other than that.

Harshaw · 11-15-2003, 01:23 PM

The person who gives me a ride home from work is gay. It's actually nice to see someone who loves his SO, after talking to all my friends in relationship hell (myself included).

blackdas · 11-15-2003, 01:47 PM

honestly i wouldn't be comfortable with it...

hilbert25 · 11-15-2003, 10:33 PM

I would have no problem whatsoever. With all the mock sexual tension between me and my straight roommates, any real tension would have been lost in the noise.

analog · 11-16-2003, 07:47 PM

The weird thing I see repeated all throughout by guys in this post is the idea of "as long as he doesn't hit on me".... and what if he does? You say, "sorry man, I like me the vagina" and you move the fuck on. What do you think he's gonna do, refuse to take no for an answer and rape you? C'mon. If he gets a no, he'll move on just like you do every time you put a line on a girl and SHE says no.

As for me, I wouldn't care if he's gay, bi, straight or martian. He better pick up after himself and pay his half of rent/etc., and above that, I don't care who he is or who he fucks- to begin with, it's none of my fuckin business anyway.

If I had a lesbian roommate, for that matter, it wouldn't make a bit of difference either.

Anyway, what difference does it make to <b>you</b>? What makes you so uncomfortable?

And what is "gay", anyway? I didn't know people still used labels. *shrug*

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11-08-2003, 11:10 AM	#42 (permalink)
Baldrick We are everywhere... Location: Barrie, Ontario	Nope, couldn't care less. As others have stated, as long as the rent and bills were paid on time, and the normal roommate rules were abided by from both him and I, why would I care? Hell, might be fun... __________________ You can be young only once, but you can be immature for the rest of your life...

11-08-2003, 12:25 PM	#44 (permalink)
Met22 Junkie Location: X-posed	People are people, no difference between us other than sexual, so what's the deal? As long as my roomate respects my privacy and space there are no issues. __________________ Living on the west end dreaming of the theater playing in the Metropolis - Dream the Dream Live the Dream

11-10-2003, 05:29 PM	#45 (permalink)
toxic515 Addict Location: Texas	Gay, straight, Bi, Trans.... um, is the place clean and the rent paid?? then who cares. I've roomed with people of different ethnicities, and in fact married one, and you know what? When the friendship is solid, then being PC isn't important at all. She knows I love her, and all that is her, and my friends who are gay, or of a different culture or skin colour know damned well that I love them. I've made the PC fauxpas more than once. It happens.. You are careful around people who don't know you, but those who do should recognize affection for what it is. Hit on me?? We went to a huge halloween party in the gay area of Dallas a couple weeks ago.. My fake boobs (very very obviously fake, they were painted tupperware bowls) got more attention than my wife's DD cleavage.. WAY more. we had a blast.. I got 4 phone numbers which we laughed about till we almost cried... A good person is a good person, and an ass is an ass... Gay has NOTHING to do with it at all! __________________ Time flies like an arrow, fruit flies like a banana.

11-10-2003, 06:03 PM	#47 (permalink)
Tophat665 Minion of the scaléd ones Location: Northeast Jesusland	Caveat: I would have to know someone straight or gay to want them as a room mate. Since homosexuality does not necessarily precule one being a total asshole, I can't say that I wouldn't mind a gay roommate, just that I wouln't mind one any more than a straight roommate. Off the top of my head, I have one gay friend who I wouldn't mind rooming with, and maybe a handful of others who I would mind rooming with. What can I say, I'm cantankerous. __________________ Light a man a fire, and he will be warm while it burns. Set a man on fire, and he will be warm for the rest of his life.

11-08-2003, 08:34 AM	#41 (permalink)
Mr. Creosote Insane Location: The Great Northwest	My roommate in college was gay and we are still great friends to this day. We were both cool with each other and respected each other's point of view and it was never a problem. We found that our contrasts made life together more interesting. And like others have said, I got great fashion advice and always had lonely girls hanging around!

11-08-2003, 11:18 AM	#43 (permalink)
wannabenakid247 Registered User Location: Wales, UK	Hey its cool that you guys have such a cool attitude to gay people.

11-10-2003, 08:37 PM	#49 (permalink)
i8one2 COMPLETED and A TRAINER Location: BEAN_TOWN	<--------If they can handle my lifestyle, I can handle theres And at this point of my life, straight and what it really means as far as a lifestyle is blurred for me anyways. __________________ LEATHER, LATEX and LACE "SSC" "Nothing That Gives Pleasure is Bad" Quality is for those who know what they want and are at peace with what they have. "S/M is about emotion; the erotic tension between my impulse toward something and my resistance against it."-- Virginia Barker

11-10-2003, 08:53 PM	#50 (permalink)
irateplatypus can't help but laugh Location: dar al-harb	i think i would mind rooming with a gay person. sitting around in my boxers and watching football would never be comfortable again. naturally, there would most likely be a lot of gay men around the place at times. it'd be pretty irritating if i felt one was checking me out. i know that sounds callous, but i think we all prefer honesty. __________________ If you will not fight when your victory will be sure and not too costly, you may come to the moment when you will have to fight with all the odds against you and only a precarious chance for survival. There may even be a worse case. You may have to fight when there is no hope of victory, because it is better to perish than to live as slaves. ~ Winston Churchill

11-10-2003, 10:03 PM	#51 (permalink)
Hrothgar He's My Girl Location: The Champagne Douche	I'd have a huge problem...if they didn't pay half the rent. __________________ The fortunes of war favored Hrothgar.

11-12-2003, 05:20 AM	#53 (permalink)
Addiction Tilted Location: Sydney, Australia	I've slept in the same bed as a gay friend of mine. I'd have no problem having a gay roomie.

11-14-2003, 12:24 AM	#54 (permalink)
serebreal Upright	I had a gay roommate. Besides the fact that he was a complete asshole, he liked to have his boyfriend over to spend the night. And would sleep with him on MY couch. Yeah, as if that $10 couch from Goodwill hadn't been through enough already. Gay people don't bother me, as long as they do what they do behind closed doors. I never banged a girl in front of others, and ESPECIALLY not in front of people it would offend. What else is unbelievable is that he lied about being gay.. he would sleep with guys and then lie about being gay!!? NEVER again. Avoid polar opposites in a roommate situation, and gay/straight is polar opposite.

11-15-2003, 01:15 PM	#55 (permalink)
tdoc Tilted	One of my college roommates was gay although I didn't know this until about 3 years later. He never came onto me. One time he watched me get head from one of his female friends, I have no idea whether he liked watching it or not, we never spoke about it. He was a slob, but a pretty cool guy other than that.

11-15-2003, 01:23 PM	#56 (permalink)
Harshaw Is mad at you. Location: Bored in Sacramento	The person who gives me a ride home from work is gay. It's actually nice to see someone who loves his SO, after talking to all my friends in relationship hell (myself included). __________________ This too shall pass.

11-15-2003, 01:47 PM	#57 (permalink)
blackdas Crazy	honestly i wouldn't be comfortable with it...

11-15-2003, 10:33 PM	#58 (permalink)
hilbert25 Psycho Location: nOvA	I would have no problem whatsoever. With all the mock sexual tension between me and my straight roommates, any real tension would have been lost in the noise.

11-16-2003, 07:47 PM	#59 (permalink)
analog Banned	The weird thing I see repeated all throughout by guys in this post is the idea of "as long as he doesn't hit on me".... and what if he does? You say, "sorry man, I like me the vagina" and you move the fuck on. What do you think he's gonna do, refuse to take no for an answer and rape you? C'mon. If he gets a no, he'll move on just like you do every time you put a line on a girl and SHE says no. As for me, I wouldn't care if he's gay, bi, straight or martian. He better pick up after himself and pay his half of rent/etc., and above that, I don't care who he is or who he fucks- to begin with, it's none of my fuckin business anyway. If I had a lesbian roommate, for that matter, it wouldn't make a bit of difference either. Anyway, what difference does it make to <b>you</b>? What makes you so uncomfortable? And what is "gay", anyway? I didn't know people still used labels. shrug Last edited by analog; 11-16-2003 at 07:51 PM..