A Letter from the dumped
 

This is something that I have seen a lot lately. Not just happening to me, but a few other people I know, and well, I need to rant. This is a lot of pent up anger that needs to be vented in one place or another.
Ok, we all know breaking up is really painful and hard and no one likes to do it. The person doing the breaking probably doesn’t want to do the breaking and the person getting broken-up on sure as hell doesn’t want that to happen. But for everyone’s sanity, if you are the party that wants out… don’t beat around the damn bush; break up, quick like a band-aid. I don’t care if you find the act distasteful, or you don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings, you have a duty. Don’t wuss out, don’t act all distant and hope the other person “gets it”. Fucking break it off already. Hopefully you had feelings for this person at some point or another, the decent thing to do it crush them quick instead of dragging it out for weeks or even months. Sure the breakee should hopefully have enough backbone to know what is going on and get out, but I can tell you, with many people that isn’t going to happen. For the sanity of the person you once called “special” just do it already.


Your's Truly

Dumped

Amen. It hurts a lot more having to carry on not knowing if the person you are with still wants to be with you or not. at least if it is done quickly you can move on with your life a lot faster.

what if you didn't see it coming at all in the first place. and you thought everything was hunky dory and then BAM. and you're wondering wtf you did wrong and why they had to abandon you.

That's their perogative I guess. If one party doesn't want to stay in a relationship, it's their responsibility to tell the other party. It will only cause a lot more problems and heartache to carry on with it.

I say Amen as well. Just do it already, huh? Even if it is sudden and unexpected, as long as you give some sort of reason, what's the beef? You can't break up without a GOOD reason? Not like you're married or anything... if you're just dating, or whatever you want to call it, and you decide you don't like the situation any more, there shouldn't be an argument over why you're going. You're going. Maybe you're sorry, but you're going all the same. Dragging it out does no service to the dumpee, all it does is make them feel on edge for a long time, not knowing if they're about to be dumped at any time.

Good thread.

Too bad you don't listen to your own advise....

yeah that truley sucks to be strung along and maybe even cheated on when they could have just broken up with you.

It has happened to me before, and it stinks. I would rather know and be hurt for a little while rather than having it drug out so that you are thinking there is a chance of getting back together.