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Shadowman · 11-02-2003, 07:58 AM

Well, I've read all three (yes, theres only three!) threads on potential threesomes people are thinking about having, and really none relate to my situation. So heres the story...
Im a single guy, longest relationship: 3 months, never experienced anything extrememly different to 'normal' sex, apart from some voyeuristic activities. Now, I have an ex, who I see maybe once a fortnight. I used to have sex with her, but stopped because it had emotional attachments, and it wasn't good for my mental health. Yes I'd shag her again. Shes contacted me tonight, and told me about her bi-friend, whom I shall call Jane. Jane is looking for a relationship, and thats all good. She wants it with me, thats all good. But, her and my ex, whom we shall call Lucy, both want to have a threesome with me. Im pretty much fine with this, apart from the fact its sort of pre-emptive. I just need some tips on threesomes, what sort of things I should be doing, all that. Just any information. Im young, dumb (and full of cum), so if people could share their experiences, that'd be excellent. Im pretty good in the sack, as told by other people, but this threesome is making me nervous, I wanna do it, but I don't wanna blow it!

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Late breaking news since I posted this. 'Jane' is a virgin, and shes jumping into a threesome pretty quickly...should I perhaps have sex with her before the threesome. I know for sure I'll be going out with her a few times, because she doesn't know me that well.

Holo · 11-02-2003, 08:53 AM

First, I hate you

Second, read this:

http://www.maximonline.com/world_o_s...icle_2901.html

Met22 · 11-02-2003, 08:59 AM

You have one of the best situations as you have known participanats and you don't have a long term relationship that could change dramatically. You know your Ex and what makes her tick, I assume. What about this other girl? Does she turn you on? Have you met? I have had sex with strangers and the rules are totally different and a self serving experience. Answer the question "What is each person getting from this?" The look at your answer. Will having your Ex involved destroy your goal in all this? If your Ex still wants to bang you then your question of good is answered. What's this Bi-bird's story? Does she have a sexual and emotional relationship with the Ex? Watch out for that.

My experiences has been with strangers at a party, a girlfriend and her roommate and a wife and my best friend? All three were positive experiences as coming out of each there was no damage. All three were very different as context play a big role.
Go with your gut feeling. If there is a lot of pro and no significant cons then enjoy the moment.

pocon1 · 11-02-2003, 04:36 PM

I say damn the torpedoes, full speed ahead. Don't try to be a superstud, just go along with them. If you are nice to them, they will appreciate you and be very nice in return. Just think, when will you get a shot like this again? Strike while the iron is hot, Cry havoc, and release the dogs of war, etc... The point is, just do it. Godamn, my life is one big cliche.

motdakasha · 11-02-2003, 04:57 PM

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Originally posted by Shadowman
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Late breaking news since I posted this. 'Jane' is a virgin, and shes jumping into a threesome pretty quickly...should I perhaps have sex with her before the threesome. I know for sure I'll be going out with her a few times, because she doesn't know me that well.

i would let Jane decide that since it is her body. maybe she wants the threesome because she (literally) wants someone there to hold her hand. i think that's up to her. if she wants to lose it to a threesome, more power to her.

tip: you are not the "star." threesomes are about sharing the experience with everyone involved. they are not there to tend to your needs alone.

skysooner · 11-02-2003, 07:54 PM

Yeah, threesomes can be great, but they can also be not as good as one-on-one. The key is good communication ahead of time and don't have unrealistic expectations going in.

WarWagon · 11-02-2003, 07:55 PM

Don't be surprised if the girls have more fun/take more time pleasuring each other than yourself.

Shadowman · 11-03-2003, 01:57 AM

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Originally posted by WarWagon
Don't be surprised if the girls have more fun/take more time pleasuring each other than yourself.

I definetely won't be disappointed if that happens. It's interesting to watch. I guess I'll take this slowly. I don't want to be a star, I just want to be able to treat them both equally :P But as pocon said, strike while the iron is hot...and theres no way im going to miss this chance!

bermuDa · 11-03-2003, 09:28 AM

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Originally posted by motdakasha
tip: you are not the "star." threesomes are about sharing the experience with everyone involved. they are not there to tend to your needs alone.

I've kinda thought that one's first time should be dedicated mostly to getting their needs fulfilled to make their first time a good one. Wouldn't she be the 'star' in this threesome. being the virgin?

amge · 11-03-2003, 03:30 PM

You might want to talk to the virgin about this. If she bleeds a lot it might spoil the mood.

lee251968 · 11-07-2003, 10:45 AM

[QUOTE]Originally posted by motdakasha
[B] i would let Jane decide that since it is her body. maybe she wants the threesome because she (literally) wants someone there to hold her hand. i think that's up to her. if she wants to lose it to a threesome, more power to her.

I have to agree. I think that "Jane", being inexperinced, is wanting "Lucy" to be there for support and advice. Your first time should be something that you remember with fondness.

11-02-2003, 07:58 AM	#1 (permalink)
Shadowman Crazy Location: Perth	Threesome - the next learning curve in my life Well, I've read all three (yes, theres only three!) threads on potential threesomes people are thinking about having, and really none relate to my situation. So heres the story... Im a single guy, longest relationship: 3 months, never experienced anything extrememly different to 'normal' sex, apart from some voyeuristic activities. Now, I have an ex, who I see maybe once a fortnight. I used to have sex with her, but stopped because it had emotional attachments, and it wasn't good for my mental health. Yes I'd shag her again. Shes contacted me tonight, and told me about her bi-friend, whom I shall call Jane. Jane is looking for a relationship, and thats all good. She wants it with me, thats all good. But, her and my ex, whom we shall call Lucy, both want to have a threesome with me. Im pretty much fine with this, apart from the fact its sort of pre-emptive. I just need some tips on threesomes, what sort of things I should be doing, all that. Just any information. Im young, dumb (and full of cum), so if people could share their experiences, that'd be excellent. Im pretty good in the sack, as told by other people, but this threesome is making me nervous, I wanna do it, but I don't wanna blow it! /edit Late breaking news since I posted this. 'Jane' is a virgin, and shes jumping into a threesome pretty quickly...should I perhaps have sex with her before the threesome. I know for sure I'll be going out with her a few times, because she doesn't know me that well. __________________ Shadowman Last edited by Shadowman; 11-02-2003 at 08:56 AM..

11-02-2003, 08:53 AM	#2 (permalink)
Holo A Real American	First, I hate you Second, read this: http://www.maximonline.com/world_o_s...icle_2901.html __________________ I happen to like the words "fuck", "cock", "pussy", "tits", "cunt", "twat", "shit" and even "bitch". As long as I am not using them to describe you, don't go telling me whether or not I can/should use them...that is, if you want me to continue refraining from using them to describe you. ~Prince

11-02-2003, 08:59 AM	#3 (permalink)
Met22 Junkie Location: X-posed	You have one of the best situations as you have known participanats and you don't have a long term relationship that could change dramatically. You know your Ex and what makes her tick, I assume. What about this other girl? Does she turn you on? Have you met? I have had sex with strangers and the rules are totally different and a self serving experience. Answer the question "What is each person getting from this?" The look at your answer. Will having your Ex involved destroy your goal in all this? If your Ex still wants to bang you then your question of good is answered. What's this Bi-bird's story? Does she have a sexual and emotional relationship with the Ex? Watch out for that. My experiences has been with strangers at a party, a girlfriend and her roommate and a wife and my best friend? All three were positive experiences as coming out of each there was no damage. All three were very different as context play a big role. Go with your gut feeling. If there is a lot of pro and no significant cons then enjoy the moment. __________________ Living on the west end dreaming of the theater playing in the Metropolis - Dream the Dream Live the Dream

11-02-2003, 04:36 PM	#4 (permalink)
pocon1 Banned	I say damn the torpedoes, full speed ahead. Don't try to be a superstud, just go along with them. If you are nice to them, they will appreciate you and be very nice in return. Just think, when will you get a shot like this again? Strike while the iron is hot, Cry havoc, and release the dogs of war, etc... The point is, just do it. Godamn, my life is one big cliche.

11-02-2003, 07:54 PM	#6 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	Yeah, threesomes can be great, but they can also be not as good as one-on-one. The key is good communication ahead of time and don't have unrealistic expectations going in.

11-02-2003, 07:55 PM	#7 (permalink)
WarWagon Loser	Don't be surprised if the girls have more fun/take more time pleasuring each other than yourself.

11-03-2003, 03:30 PM	#10 (permalink)
amge Crazy	You might want to talk to the virgin about this. If she bleeds a lot it might spoil the mood.

11-07-2003, 10:45 AM	#11 (permalink)
lee251968 Upright	[QUOTE]Originally posted by motdakasha [B] i would let Jane decide that since it is her body. maybe she wants the threesome because she (literally) wants someone there to hold her hand. i think that's up to her. if she wants to lose it to a threesome, more power to her. I have to agree. I think that "Jane", being inexperinced, is wanting "Lucy" to be there for support and advice. Your first time should be something that you remember with fondness.