What does hanging out actually mean? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

dalnet22 · 10-21-2003, 11:31 AM

When a girl asks you if you want to hang out, what range of possibilities does that include?

Averett · 10-21-2003, 11:33 AM

Range?

Anything from just sitting in the same room staring at a spot on the wall to the two of you screwing like little rabbits.

(edited to say 'wall' and not 'way')

shannon · 10-21-2003, 11:52 AM

yeah, it's pretty vague. i'm with averett on this one.
why do you want to know? if someone asked you to hang out i would go with assume sitting in the same room together and if there's more than that's cool. or is it?

lurkette · 10-21-2003, 11:59 AM

Does she give it a significant pause, like "hey, you wanna....hang out?" and wiggles her eyebrows suggestively? No? Then I'd say hanging out means spending time together with no specific plan in mind.

Averett · 10-21-2003, 12:02 PM

Is this the same girl you were talking about in your other thread?

Don't worry so much about it. If you're going to hang out at somebody's house bring a couple of movies with you. Just watch some movies and chat and have fun. Get to know her and then freak out later

MSD · 10-21-2003, 03:00 PM

It's all about the body language and tone of voice.

jerseyboy · 10-21-2003, 04:23 PM

Just play the situation by ear. From the sounds of it, it doesn't appear as if you have much experience, so dont worry about getting physical with her right from the start. Just go into the situation with an open mind and relax and see where things take you. She has already made the first move so maybe she will make the next move and take the pressure off of you.

Lunchbox7 · 10-21-2003, 07:25 PM

It depends on the situation. Is it just you two? Are you hanging out to do an activity or just to spend time together? Is it in public or secluded at home? If she says you two at home just spending time together then your in. She is trying to give every opportunity for something to happen. At least thats how I would see it. If your throwing alcohol in the mix it is definately happening.

End User · 10-21-2003, 09:39 PM

Hanging out just means spending time together doing stuff.
Judging from your other post, this is probably your first romantic escapade. Just take the chick to the movies (remember to pay for her ticket and get popcorn and drinks) and enjoy the process of getting to know her.

analog · 10-21-2003, 10:21 PM

body language, context, but those aren't important, this is- why does it matter? will you not hang out if it means no booty? if so, you should re-evaluate your priorities with regards to meeting girls. it will happen many, many times in your life that you hang out with girls and nothing happens. it's part of learning and experience and growing. good luck on this, I hope it's not too nasty a dilemna for you.

EDIT: Unless you're just looking for ass, which is good too. Just don't go looking for ass and expect to also find a relationship.

sigma1042 · 10-22-2003, 07:07 AM

i never understood the idea of going to a movie to hang out, thats 2 hrs of not talking to the person beside you that doesn't know you yet, save that for a "date"

to me it means watching tv, watch something that doesn't make it uncomfortable, like that queer guy show, that you can comment on and laugh at,
stay away from skinemax for now

or hanging out somewhere means go to the mall, go to stores that you wouldn't always go in, make jokes about stupid stuff in stores,
try being funny, chicks dig it, if you'r enot funny, i'm sorry, expect a long life of misery

after hanging out several and getting to know the person, then ask for a date to see a movie if you want (i'm not big on movies at the theater)

vveronica · 10-22-2003, 07:33 AM

it depends on the relationship.. I have guy friends who I say come over and hang out, they do and most of the time is spent watching the tv.. If im talking to a guy at 9 pm or after dinner or a show, it means he has a chance and is prolly going to get sex UNLESS he screws it up. Mostly if it is said at 9 am she is prolly bored and wants to do something, what that something is, is from her perspective.. Not much help here I know... but sweetieee If i told you to come over and hang out, you'd have a good shot at it no matter what time of day .... heheheheheh

Sapper · 10-22-2003, 07:53 AM

What if it were a guy asking? Would you react any differently?

mb99usa · 10-22-2003, 08:00 AM

Go with the flow. Let her lead. Go with an open mind and don't think about it too much. Relax and have fun. If she asked you then she probably has a plan in mind. Let her reveal it in her own way and enjoy yourself.

Averett · 10-22-2003, 08:02 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Sapper
What if it were a guy asking? Would you react any differently?

Oohhh very good!

Crazy how things always get blurred when it comes to relationships.

If a girlfriend of mine asked me to hang out I'd think nothing of it. But if a guy who I was romantically interested in asked me the same thing I would start to wonder.....

skysooner · 10-22-2003, 08:07 AM

Yes, hanging out can mean anything, but it should always start as if you were hanging out with a same sex friend (talk, watch a movie, etc.). You are essentially in a getting to know you phase. If she really wants it to go further, she will let you know in many different ways.

Back in college, there was this girl that I had liked for years through high school and had gone out with a couple of times. Nothing ever physical happened on our two dates in high school. Fast forward 5 years until the end of college. She had gone to Baylor, and I had gone to OU. She came to OU to do a graduate degree, and I just happened to run into her in one building on campus. We agreed to go out and catch up later that night. We went out and had a couple of drinks and then went back to her place to watch television. Since I hadn't seen her in years, I had no idea what to expect, but she kind of leaned into me when we were sitting on the couch indicating she wanted my arm around her. She just presented herself in a way that indicated I should kiss her, etc. Long story short, we ended up sleeping together. The signals were unmistakable.

omega2K4 · 10-22-2003, 08:30 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by MrSelfDestruct
It's all about the body language and tone of voice.

Exactly.

The.Lunatic · 10-22-2003, 09:09 AM

don't be a pussy just roll over to her place ask her what color the carpet is when she looks stick it in her butt.

PS don't really do that. Just go "hang out" with her who knows you might actually like her. If you don't like her, you can still keep her around, if shes benifical to you in other ways.

Averett · 10-22-2003, 09:34 AM

If by hanging out you mean screwing like little rabbits yes, lets hang out

Sleepyjack · 10-22-2003, 09:38 AM

I wanna hang out too!

Anyway, this is an intersting concept, it does play on your mind when you think about it. I definitley have differnt expectations when its a guy vs a girl, even if i know if the girl is just a friend. Which is kinda weird...

Averett · 10-22-2003, 09:41 AM

We can hang out this weekend, Sleepyjack

Sleepyjack · 10-22-2003, 09:53 AM

hehe, sounds fun

also sorry for hijakcing the thread, but sexual innuendo is sooo fun.

Averett · 10-22-2003, 09:56 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Sleepyjack
also sorry for hijakcing the thread, but sexual innuendo is sooo fun.

I'll second that

dalnet hasn't checked back into this thread. I hope hanging out wasn't code for "come over to my place so I can kill you and feed you to my pet hampster"

dalnet22 · 10-22-2003, 04:43 PM

Lol, no, I think I get the idea now. However, I find it really funny that my posts have resulted in sexual inuendos and conotation. I don't intend on having sex with her for a long while...

shimmy1 · 10-22-2003, 05:22 PM

Well, I took it for sitting around watching T.V., but she took it for grabbing me by the arms, throwing me down and shockingly, having her way with me. Cryptic shit.

dalnet22 · 10-22-2003, 05:37 PM

Yeah, this girl isn't exactly like that.

Sparhawk · 10-22-2003, 06:12 PM

slightly off topic, but my dad was always saying "What is it with all this 'hanging out' business! Take her out someplace for crying out loud!" back when I was in high school.

I was tempted to borrow his credit card and take him up on his offer.

10-21-2003, 11:31 AM	#1 (permalink)
dalnet22 Crazy	What does hanging out actually mean? When a girl asks you if you want to hang out, what range of possibilities does that include?

10-21-2003, 11:33 AM	#2 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	Range? Anything from just sitting in the same room staring at a spot on the wall to the two of you screwing like little rabbits. (edited to say 'wall' and not 'way') __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great. Last edited by Averett; 10-21-2003 at 12:00 PM..

10-21-2003, 11:52 AM	#3 (permalink)
shannon Psycho Location: Canada	yeah, it's pretty vague. i'm with averett on this one. why do you want to know? if someone asked you to hang out i would go with assume sitting in the same room together and if there's more than that's cool. or is it? __________________ "When I look down I just miss all the good stuff. And when I look up I just trip over things"

10-21-2003, 11:59 AM	#4 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	Does she give it a significant pause, like "hey, you wanna....hang out?" and wiggles her eyebrows suggestively? No? Then I'd say hanging out means spending time together with no specific plan in mind. __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

10-21-2003, 12:02 PM	#5 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	Is this the same girl you were talking about in your other thread? Don't worry so much about it. If you're going to hang out at somebody's house bring a couple of movies with you. Just watch some movies and chat and have fun. Get to know her and then freak out later __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

10-21-2003, 03:00 PM	#6 (permalink)
MSD The sky calls to us ... Super Moderator Location: CT	It's all about the body language and tone of voice.

10-21-2003, 04:23 PM	#7 (permalink)
jerseyboy Insane	Just play the situation by ear. From the sounds of it, it doesn't appear as if you have much experience, so dont worry about getting physical with her right from the start. Just go into the situation with an open mind and relax and see where things take you. She has already made the first move so maybe she will make the next move and take the pressure off of you.

10-21-2003, 07:25 PM	#8 (permalink)
Lunchbox7 Addict	It depends on the situation. Is it just you two? Are you hanging out to do an activity or just to spend time together? Is it in public or secluded at home? If she says you two at home just spending time together then your in. She is trying to give every opportunity for something to happen. At least thats how I would see it. If your throwing alcohol in the mix it is definately happening.

10-21-2003, 09:39 PM	#9 (permalink)
End User Insane Location: Sydney, Australia	Hanging out just means spending time together doing stuff. Judging from your other post, this is probably your first romantic escapade. Just take the chick to the movies (remember to pay for her ticket and get popcorn and drinks) and enjoy the process of getting to know her. __________________ People who have no faults are terrible!

10-21-2003, 10:21 PM	#10 (permalink)
analog Banned	body language, context, but those aren't important, this is- why does it matter? will you not hang out if it means no booty? if so, you should re-evaluate your priorities with regards to meeting girls. it will happen many, many times in your life that you hang out with girls and nothing happens. it's part of learning and experience and growing. good luck on this, I hope it's not too nasty a dilemna for you. EDIT: Unless you're just looking for ass, which is good too. Just don't go looking for ass and expect to also find a relationship.

10-22-2003, 07:07 AM	#11 (permalink)
sigma1042 Crazy	i never understood the idea of going to a movie to hang out, thats 2 hrs of not talking to the person beside you that doesn't know you yet, save that for a "date" to me it means watching tv, watch something that doesn't make it uncomfortable, like that queer guy show, that you can comment on and laugh at, stay away from skinemax for now or hanging out somewhere means go to the mall, go to stores that you wouldn't always go in, make jokes about stupid stuff in stores, try being funny, chicks dig it, if you'r enot funny, i'm sorry, expect a long life of misery after hanging out several and getting to know the person, then ask for a date to see a movie if you want (i'm not big on movies at the theater) __________________ [Arthur] HA HA HA HA, It's a little joke![/Arthur]

10-22-2003, 07:33 AM	#12 (permalink)
vveronica Psycho Location: northern california	it depends on the relationship.. I have guy friends who I say come over and hang out, they do and most of the time is spent watching the tv.. If im talking to a guy at 9 pm or after dinner or a show, it means he has a chance and is prolly going to get sex UNLESS he screws it up. Mostly if it is said at 9 am she is prolly bored and wants to do something, what that something is, is from her perspective.. Not much help here I know... but sweetieee If i told you to come over and hang out, you'd have a good shot at it no matter what time of day .... heheheheheh __________________ ...We find ourselves in a struggle for our very right to exsist... We will not go quietly into the night... We will not give up without a fight...

10-22-2003, 07:53 AM	#13 (permalink)
Sapper Insane Location: The Internet	What if it were a guy asking? Would you react any differently? __________________ rm -f /bin/laden

10-22-2003, 08:00 AM	#14 (permalink)
mb99usa Keep on rolling. It only hurts for a little while. Location: wherever I am	Go with the flow. Let her lead. Go with an open mind and don't think about it too much. Relax and have fun. If she asked you then she probably has a plan in mind. Let her reveal it in her own way and enjoy yourself. __________________ So, what's your point? It's not an attitude, it's a way of life.

10-22-2003, 08:07 AM	#16 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	Yes, hanging out can mean anything, but it should always start as if you were hanging out with a same sex friend (talk, watch a movie, etc.). You are essentially in a getting to know you phase. If she really wants it to go further, she will let you know in many different ways. Back in college, there was this girl that I had liked for years through high school and had gone out with a couple of times. Nothing ever physical happened on our two dates in high school. Fast forward 5 years until the end of college. She had gone to Baylor, and I had gone to OU. She came to OU to do a graduate degree, and I just happened to run into her in one building on campus. We agreed to go out and catch up later that night. We went out and had a couple of drinks and then went back to her place to watch television. Since I hadn't seen her in years, I had no idea what to expect, but she kind of leaned into me when we were sitting on the couch indicating she wanted my arm around her. She just presented herself in a way that indicated I should kiss her, etc. Long story short, we ended up sleeping together. The signals were unmistakable.

10-22-2003, 09:09 AM	#18 (permalink)
The.Lunatic Psycho Location: Somewhere just beyond the realm of sanity...	don't be a pussy just roll over to her place ask her what color the carpet is when she looks stick it in her butt. PS don't really do that. Just go "hang out" with her who knows you might actually like her. If you don't like her, you can still keep her around, if shes benifical to you in other ways. __________________ Proud memeber of the Insomniac Club.

10-22-2003, 09:34 AM	#19 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	If by hanging out you mean screwing like little rabbits yes, lets hang out __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

10-22-2003, 09:38 AM	#20 (permalink)
Sleepyjack Fast'n'Bulbous Location: Australia, Perth	I wanna hang out too! Anyway, this is an intersting concept, it does play on your mind when you think about it. I definitley have differnt expectations when its a guy vs a girl, even if i know if the girl is just a friend. Which is kinda weird...

10-22-2003, 09:41 AM	#21 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	We can hang out this weekend, Sleepyjack __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

10-22-2003, 09:53 AM	#22 (permalink)
Sleepyjack Fast'n'Bulbous Location: Australia, Perth	hehe, sounds fun also sorry for hijakcing the thread, but sexual innuendo is sooo fun.

10-22-2003, 04:43 PM	#24 (permalink)
dalnet22 Crazy	Lol, no, I think I get the idea now. However, I find it really funny that my posts have resulted in sexual inuendos and conotation. I don't intend on having sex with her for a long while...

10-22-2003, 05:22 PM	#25 (permalink)
shimmy1 Tilted	Well, I took it for sitting around watching T.V., but she took it for grabbing me by the arms, throwing me down and shockingly, having her way with me. Cryptic shit.

10-22-2003, 05:37 PM	#26 (permalink)
dalnet22 Crazy	Yeah, this girl isn't exactly like that.

10-22-2003, 06:12 PM	#27 (permalink)
Sparhawk Dubya Location: VA	slightly off topic, but my dad was always saying "What is it with all this 'hanging out' business! Take her out someplace for crying out loud!" back when I was in high school. I was tempted to borrow his credit card and take him up on his offer. __________________ "In Iraq, no doubt about it, it's tough. It's hard work. It's incredibly hard. It's - and it's hard work. I understand how hard it is. I get the casualty reports every day. I see on the TV screens how hard it is. But it's necessary work. We're making progress. It is hard work."