rufgti

Anyone ever date a stripper? What are your experiences--i.e. having a relationship. Any probs with the stripping (mind or not mind)....etc

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prince_albert

I think you need to clarify whether its just stripping or other stuff as well. I wouldn't really mind just the tripping part...but nothing esle than that.

bermuDa

I'd imagine they'd be very open and very fun, but I dunno about having a gf who rubs up on other guys for a living.

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Amano

it's not relevant, but an ex used to be roommates with a stripper (random roommate in a college dorm). she said that they paid her to put her clothes on before work rather than to take them off, cause she would always hang around with almost nothing on. underwear and panties were considered "dressing up for company"... this was before we started dating, so i never got to meet her.

yeah, completely off topic... oh well

danielboy

I dated this stripper once. It was pretty good except that she was dating about twenty guys at the same time. I felt a little "unsafe" and "dirty" after that.

rogue49

I dated two in my early twenties.
The sexual fantasy is not worth the insanity of their lives.

thumper69

hmm...I don't know, I'd like to try it for once to see what occurs.
The sex must be out of this world, I can imagine, but then again I'm very protective over what belongs to me.
So I dunno....

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rufgti

It can be very difficult...

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water_boy1999

Ok, another response slightly off the beaten path....
I dated a girl who had implants, she recently had them done. She always had a really sexually playful side as well. She had fantasies of being a stripper. Just that alone was awkward sometimes. For example: The first time we went to a stripclub together we met some of her work friends, who were all "good friends" and all men. After she would flirt with some of the strippers who worked there, she would rub up against her "friends" crotches to see if she could get a rise out of them. We got into a big argument because I told her if the tables were turned she wouldn't want to see me sticking my tongue between the breasts of the strippers. It is just difficult to gain trust and respect sometimes when dating a stripper.

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Rodney

Never did, but I worked for a guy who dated a stripper (working for the O'Farrell Theater in San Francisco), and we all went out for the day together on some function and I got to know her a little. One of the most bitter and cynical women I ever met. He sure knew how to pick 'em.

vveronica

A friend of mine did. he is a really nice guy but, the lifestyle differences eventually got to him.... though he was a great guy she eventually got bored with him.

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I never have but I think the novelty would wear off pretty quick. I would give it a try if not already married but you have to expect things to be crazy. Definitely not someone with a jelous streak.

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Averett

Just cause the chick is a stripper doesnt mean she'll be any good in bed....

A friend of mine slept with a stripper once. Said she was horrible.

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Sparhawk

Dated a stripper for a while. She had an incredibly cynical attitude towards men though, and I couldn't stand the mistrust anymore.

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skysooner

Many women who strip either have no other options (i.e. education). A very few of them can go into it and not come out scarred. The ones that I have met either had soap opera lives or were very cynical about men (many are also lesbian). I would say it wasn't worth it.

crazymang

I have never and dont think I would either, I couldnt handle jealousy of other guys grabbing staring at my gf

tekaweni

I sure dont want to be judgemental, but I wouldn't get involved with a stripper. Theres just too much else in that profession that would make me worry.

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yournamehere

Sounds like my type
I dated one back in my younger days. It's not like I expected an exclusive relationship, but . . . . c'mon.
Let's just say I was lucky to get out of that relationship disease-free.

Although - I've known a lot of strippers, and few, if any of them, were as wild as her.

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Esen

Ok this is actually a subject I know something about.

About 7 years ago I worked at an adult entertainment center.
I used to sell merchandise.

Collect money out of the fantasy booths.
Collect house money from the dancers and fine them if they were late, watch for shop lifters etc.

Anyhow I worked there for a while and became friends with just about all the dancers / strippers that worked there and it was a really great experience.
I wound up dating one of them for about 6 months and wound up hooking up with 5 of them over the period of time that I have worked there.

Everytime I hooked up with a girl it was away from the shop.
But...
While working we all used to get so freaking bored I mean bored as fucking hell.
the same old chodes that came in day in day out every freaking day.
I used to go on the stage with them and freak guys out when there window would pop up and see me on the stage with the girls.

Back at the time I used to indulge in spoking a greener tobacco and man we used to sit in the doctors office, or Bondage room fantasy rooms and smoke out of an apple and just laugh, there is nothing better then spoking up on a ginacological (how the hell do you spell that) table with 3 girls in there panties.
and then of course another girl would need to go into the room to perform for a customer and she would be masturbating in our cloud of smoke that we would leave behind lol.
NOTE: There is glass between the girls and customers in the fantasy booths, they talk through a phone on the wall.

ANyways , you are wondering why I am talking about all of this when the question is about dating.

Its becasue even though I was really intimate with a handfull of them it was like I was dating all 40 of them in a way.
They were really cool and funny as all hell.

Strippers come in all types of personalities but for the most part are pretty cool in one way or another.

If you are comfortable with what they do and are not possesive I would say go for it.
As far as safety , that unfortunatly is a concern.
It really depends on what type of girl she is, if she respects her body (yes strippers respect there bodies) then they have probably have been carefull. Just use protection and if you think they date a lot of people try not to go down on them, its as simple as that.

Standing behind a counter for 9 hours a day being forced to watch 2 quad tv s that means 2 tv s with 4 porn movies on each . thats 8 freaking porn movies at a time for 9 hours a day 5 days a week drives you fucking insane and you start becoming numb!.
I was losing myself.
I used to do everything I could to get away from the counter, I used to go into the dressing room, they would always be naked or close to it and just joke with them all the time. A lot of times I would take off my clothes too and put on one of there slips or under garments and hang out in my combat boots.

ANd then go back behind the counter and look at the customers expressions when they saw me.

But the best part of all was the rubberband fights , oh man they rocked hard core.
I used to be behind the counter with a huge bag of rubber bands and a bunch of the girls would be on the other side with rubber bands as well, and we would just go nuts shooting each other,
THERE IS NOTHIN MORE FUN THEN SHOOTING A BUNCH OF GIRLS RUNNING AROUND IN THEIR PANTIES WITH RUBBERBANDS!!!!!!!!

ok im just babbling off subject now but heck, I dont usually talk about it.

Strippers are cool If you find yourself on the same level as them, you treat them like you treat yourself.
You would be surprised about how many idiots would be so fake and try to pick up on them, I used to just sit back and laugh.

I used to bring my camera in and we would go into the fantasy booths and take some wacked out pics of each other.
I really need to find a scanner and figure out how to post them and also how to fade out their faces to protect their identities.

I have some great pics of getting spanked and all.

Oh the memories.

One negative thing is that one of the girls I hooked up with a few months later had a bad meth problem and wound up on a pretty low shabby porn getting fucked on a toilet bowl.
It kind of freaked me out, I felt bad for her, becasue she was always out of her head and crazy, She really was awesome to hang out with.
So sometimes you come accross stuff like that.

Yea I have to say that strippers can be pretty cool, just watch out for the ones that will fuck you over.
Some of them used to try to steal tips and shit like that, so dont get a false impression, there are so many differnet personality types so be smart.

Also my experience with them is that you are their friend they are very generous caring people.

And of course most of all it depends on who you are, If you are cool, cool people will come to you. Most like you are cool, you do posted on the tilted boards

Anyhow I can go on for ever, so I'll stop here.

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Esen

Alo I heard a few of you say that the stripppers they know are cynical,
Actually a lot of them that I know were just plain ol Sadistic, having warped sence of humors enjoying a lot of what is wrong in life.

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Aladdin Sane

I would venture to say that many women in this profession are somehow scarred before they start and more scarred when they stop. It's a chaotic life-style. I don't think it attracts girls (or men) who have stability in their lives.

Then again I could be wrong.

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Baldrick

I was a doorman at a strip club for about a year, and got to know many of the girls very well. We had about fifteen regular girls, but most of them were on one week contracts that were renewed as necessary - so I met literally hundreds of strippers. To say that about 95% of them are not "girlfriend material" is putting it nicely. But I don't point that finger only at the strippers, most EVERYONE in the adult entertainment industry aren't great people, not just strippers.

But, there were a few that came in that were extremely nice and very well adjusted! I got to be good friends with one of the girls who was putting herself through university by stripping. The owner of the club really liked her, and let her work just two nights a week. She knew she could make more money in those couple of nights than most of the students could who were struggling to get by with two jobs, and it let her focus on her studies - which she did with a vengeance! She was realistic, thoughtful, extremely intelligent, very nice, and very attractive. That was about twelve years ago, and since then she put herself through law school and is now working at a law firm. We became very good friends, and remain so to this day.

Alas, examples like her are few and far between in the stripper world.

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rufgti

Which club did you work?

Baldrick

A place called "Spellbound" in Northern B.C. Last I heard, the city forced them to stop operating as a strip club, so they turned themselves into a Country and Western bar. Not sure though, I haven't been back there in a good ten years or so.

Honestly, it was without a doubt the worst job I ever had. I initially applied to be the bartender, and then got stuck as doorman about one week in. But the hours fit right in with my other job and my school schedule, so I kept it up until school ended that year - and then ran like hell!

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rufgti

lol...well, I can't say that it is the type of job one would consider a keeper. Anyway, thanks for the input.

I am dating a stripper who, at my request, stopped stripping and is now a waitress. She is really a great gal and I suppose I should be thankful that she has faith enough in me and our relationship that she is willing to forego the "glamour" and money of stripping for a more mundane job. I convinced her to go back to school and get an education, which she did. I find her to be quite intelligent and figured an education would help her out some. Ive read somewhere that this situation might be construed as a "hero" incident. Dont know if that's true, though I sometimes feel that she's the one saving me.

I sometimes feel odd when I think about her dancing, but Im beginning to get over that. Hopefully, things will work out.

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IC3

My friend is a bouncer at a strip club and one night around 1am or so, He calls me up from the club and asks if one of the girls could crash at my place for a week...Stupid question eh?

So my buddy and this dancer show up and she was pretty hot, I was in the middle of playing a game so I paused it. Candice (The Dancer) started playing my game...I thought it was pretty cool.

I wasn't really dating her, But we were in the sack every night that she was staying at my place. It was great, she was the first girl that I have ever had in my bed that would be completely naked with her legs spread playing with herself with the room lit right up. We showered together, pretty much did everything together.

One night we got home from the club at about 3 or 4 in the morning and we were downstairs in my room listening to music and she gave me the hottest dance EVER...The best thing about it was, She was teasing me sooo much...But she took care of me after she did a couple dances.

I will probably never forget her, She was just a crazy girl and I loved being around her and in her

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Loup

Was she a stripper before you started to go out with her, or did this job fall in place while you two were dating? If she was already stripping, your request was out of line for her to change jobs. She did have a life before she met you. If she started stripping after you two hooked up, then I you have a reason to express your concerns.
If you ask me it sounds as a "control" incident.

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mistered

It might be fun to give it a try, but most of these girls are on drugs and/or majorly screwed up. I'd consider it an adventure at best.

Peetster

Ditto. Girls that chose that lifestyle tend to have very large issues. In my two experiences, they were incredibly needy and basically hated what they had become. I was not up to the task of "rescuing" them.

twotimesadingo

Strangely enough for a short, pudgy bastard with hobbit feet like myself, I've had a thing with two different strippers...

One was a featured dancer named Michelle who danced (and still dances, I suppose) at a club in Myrtle Beach. She was awesome. We never slept together, 'cause I wasn't into that, but we did a lot of other things and generally had a really good time together. She was of the nicer people I've had a chance to meet in life.

I met Sheila when I was in Florida. She had a military background, which helped us get along well, and enjoyed the same types of music. We had a great time when it was just us two, but get a few of her friends around, and they all went psycho (that's an affectionate exaggeration). They would constantly wrestle with me and such, which was disgustingly hot, and we'd go to heavy metal concerts together, and I'd let them protect me... Again, no sex though, 'cause I just wasn't comfortable with that part of their life-styles and the possibilities.

Both were strippers while I dated them, and neither I saw for too long. But, in each instance, it was an exclusive relationship, and I learned a lot through those relationships.

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irseg

I know a few. They're pretty much all sexually abused or otherwise have major issues. One of them I talked to lived 1500 miles away (friend of a friend), she actually wanted to move in with me before we even met in person. They tend to be extremely dependent on guys, but at the same time not very trusting or loyal. Shitty combination.