non-exclusive relationship
 

Was a one-night stand, but then I called her again

Was a 'fuck-buddy', but then we spent more time hanging out and doing things together

Was a 'friend-with-benefits' but then we've admitted to liking each other rather more than that

But it's definitely not exclusive. No one's cheating, it's very open between us that each of us can and does play around elsewhere.

It's so very San Francisco, ya know?

Who knows where it will lead? I know this couple that lives in Texas and were originally from Oregon. Her mother told her before she was married to always keep the marriage open but to love each other. They have had an open marriage for almost 25 years, and they still seem to be very in love.

I could maybe do the open-relationship thing if the person I was in the relationship with lived in a different state. I don't know if I could do it if they lived in the same state.

well, she may or may not be having sex with anyone else. if she's not, she most likely has dropped the ball in your court, as a test. You either say, "yeah cool, i can fuck anyone i want" or "i only have eyes for you, babe *wink*" See what I mean? If she admits to feelings for you, she may just be looking for you to commit on your own.

Being in the SF area..... yeah So? Sounds like a fun relationship to me!

Nah, way too much discussion has gone into this and it's been going on too long. I find it a little strange, but we're having fun. Who am I to argue?

Well this is the home of alternative lifestyles, were you at Folsom Street this weekend?

I think that being like that will keep the relationship exciting and new.
Have fun ^_^

how funny, thats how my relationship started...exactly the same freakin way...3 years later, we are livin together, married, and realized...it was meant to be.

I don't really think I could do that, I'm an exclusive kind of guy, but if it works for you, thats what really matters.

Yeah, i'd have issues with that too, i dont see that working out, unless you really dont care, i see jealousy setting in eventually, etc etc. Be careful, but have fun!

i'm kind of the jealous type so i don't know if i could handle that. yet at the same time.. it seems kinda appealing. i mean, then all this shit about being jealous whenever i just HANG OUT with a guy would dissapear. i always seem to date insecure types who can't even handle that.

My bet is she is being exclusive...go for it...just be safe so you don't catch anything.

I had a great 5 year relationship like that. I ended up married to one of the girls I did "on the side." If it wasn't for the open relationship I had with my girlfriend, I might have never married my wife.

Now that certainly sounds odd, doesn't it?

Once, for a very brief time, I had two lovers during the same period. WOW. Did it ever arouse me. I was more passionate with each of them than I was with either without the overlap.

So my experience says this is a major turn on thing, to have some regular closeness and some roamin' to boot.

But look, man. This is not the usual way to court a lady, or find a spouse. If you do get to long term, be very careful to define the terms of your relationship.

And like Xaneidolon said, be careful hygenically.

Don't be too quick to judge -- there are a lot of successful couples out there with open relationships. Check out some polygamy websites to see if it may work for you. It sounds like the two of you are fairly secure with one another, so why not?

As for me, I'm not into sharing my man; but I respect everyone's right to make their own best choice!