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analog · 09-23-2003, 02:22 AM

Hey all, just a nice little post to find out... how do you hold your SO? Wrapping arms around from behind, from front, over the shoulders or around the waist, tightly, loosely, hands on sides, snuggling, etc... share with us your favorite way to hold or be held.

Mine is to hold my girl from behind, and wrap my arms around her, kind of just below the shoulders. It's the perfect height.

Averett · 09-23-2003, 04:45 AM

Well, I've got nobody to hold, and nobody to hold me. But if the planets shall someday position themselves and I were to find somebody, well, I like being held in any way possible.

There's nothing like a good cuddle. Now excuse me while I drown myself in my hot chocolate.

Sleepyjack · 09-23-2003, 05:08 AM

i think i will be joining Averett in the chocolate swimming pool, sounds like fun.

Although as for holding q, i think what your (analog) describing is what i like to do as well.....

SabrinaFair · 09-23-2003, 05:17 AM

Well, the relationship I'm in at present is very very new, so there's a lot I haven't tried. But at present, my favourite thing is to "spoon" with my head on his back, between his shouldblades. Bonus points if he's just taken a shower and his skin is all warm and sweet-smelling.

Averett · 09-23-2003, 06:02 AM

Awww that's my favorite. Well, one of them anyway.

lurkette · 09-23-2003, 06:08 AM

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Originally posted by Averett
Well, I've got nobody to hold, and nobody to hold me.

Awwwww. Virtual hug.

I like "spooning," or having his head on my chest with my arms wrapped around him. I also like curling up on his lap with my head on his shoulder.

/me misses Ratbastid

Harshaw · 09-23-2003, 06:16 AM

I like it when I wake up and we are spooning and I have NO recollection of ever moving into the position, it just sort of happened.

livewirerc · 09-23-2003, 06:55 AM

I hold my wife (of 1 1/2 months) all sorts of ways, but the one that probably gets the most use is in bed where I'm laying on my back and she's beside me, head on shoulder and leg draped over.

ratbastid · 09-23-2003, 06:57 AM

lurkette and I are highly skilled at the Mixed Doubles Freestyle Snuggle.

eci · 09-23-2003, 07:44 AM

All of them. Spooning, or enveloping a smaller girl from behind, or facing to whisper in each other's ear, or on the sofa with her head on my chest... they're all good.

Although I'll join Averett and Sleepyjack in the singles' hot-choc society for the moment.

Lebell · 09-23-2003, 07:51 AM

I'm very physical by nature, so ANY holding/touching is good, but I especially like coming up behind my sweetie unexpected and putting my arms around her and killing the nape of her neck.

Yum!

edit to say: killing=kissing in this context.

Original left to amuse the masses

Kadath · 09-23-2003, 08:05 AM

Since the reclining positions have pretty much been covered, I'll add my favorite standing hold. I'm a little more than a foot taller than her. She folds her arms into her chest and I wrap mine around her back, putting the top of her head at the perfect height for reassuring kisses. Good after a hard day at work.

Thraeryn · 09-23-2003, 08:08 AM

Lebell likes killing the nape of her neck. I like kissing it, myself.

My favorite position to hold her in is face to face, chins on each others' shoulders, arms and legs wrapped tightly around each other.

My favorite position for her to hold me in is when she spoons me from behind and her arms wraps around my side. I usually end up holding her hand against my chest. She calls it "hugging my back", and I love it.

Highlight of my nights.

Harshaw · 09-23-2003, 08:20 AM

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Originally posted by livewirerc
I hold my wife (of 1 1/2 months) all sorts of ways, but the one that probably gets the most use is in bed where I'm laying on my back and she's beside me, head on shoulder and leg draped over.

Yeah, I love that one, especially when she is a little wet. Even if we are too tired to have sex, I love that feeling of moisture on my upper leg.

Time to join everyone in the Hot Chocolate fest... I wish she would either break up with me or come home.

Cynthetiq · 09-23-2003, 08:26 AM

any which way that I can hold her

Charlatan · 09-23-2003, 08:36 AM

No preference as long as we are touching... Even after 15 years together she still sends a thrill through my body when we touch...

I never would have guessed it was possible.

SiN · 09-23-2003, 08:41 AM

hmm..we hold each other however/whichever way works.

some positions of standing/sitting are a bit awkward, because i'm 5'0" and he's like 6'+..

but laying down, our most oft snuggling position is him on my side facing the outside of the bed, and me doing the 'hugging' his back thingy Thrae described...usually with my bottom arm under my head/pillow, and the other one wrapped around him somehow or just resting on his side/hip.
(or sometimes carefully cupping his 'package'. i love doing that!)
that's the standard 'until-he-falls-asleep' position...

sometimes we face each other too, i love that, holding each other.

Dano069 · 09-23-2003, 09:02 AM

It doesn't matter to me how we hold each other. My favorite though is holding her from behind while standing. I can move my hands wherever I want and I can nibble on her neck if I need to. As for being in bed, again it really doesn't matter. My wife's favorite position is cradled into my right shoulder.

blade02 · 09-23-2003, 01:42 PM

Well since my girl lives 4hours away from me, the first thing that always happens when i see her, is that she runs and jumps at me...i love holding her up with her legs around my waist. But my favorite is when we're chilling on the couch, and she does that little snuggle move where she curls up in a ball, but puts her arms around my arm and leans her head up against me. She looks so damn cute when she looks up at me.

Minx · 09-23-2003, 02:18 PM

I love being held from behind...or should I say I really miss being held from behind. Other than that - it's all good....any time you are being hugged or held it's gold.

*sigh* Well that just got me all depressed....I think I'll go dig my heart out with a spoon - that sounds like fun.

Litespeed · 09-23-2003, 02:24 PM

I love to be held by my Hal. That's all there is to it.

My favorite is when I sneak into his room in the mornings and wrap my arms around him, lay down next to his side and wait for him to wake up. There's nothing more amazing than seeing the look of joy in his eyes as he finds me there.

The.Lunatic · 09-23-2003, 07:14 PM

not at all unless my Ex who lives below me who dumped my ass for no reason gets drunk tells me she loves me then changes her mind again.

Stupid bitch.....

sexymama · 09-23-2003, 08:01 PM

Quote:

I'm very physical by nature, so ANY holding/touching is good

Ditto

Standing: with my arms reaching under his, around to his shoulders, where I can rub or scratch at will.
Laying: with my head cradled in his arm and my leg draped over his (like so many of us!)
Sitting: between his legs with his arms wrapped gently around me.

kitty1354 · 09-23-2003, 09:37 PM

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Originally posted by blade02
Well since my girl lives 4hours away from me, the first thing that always happens when i see her, is that she runs and jumps at me...i love holding her up with her legs around my waist. But my favorite is when we're chilling on the couch, and she does that little snuggle move where she curls up in a ball, but puts her arms around my arm and leans her head up against me. She looks so damn cute when she looks up at me.

my fav thing to do is wrap my arms around you and love you!

Sledge · 09-23-2003, 11:14 PM

Standing behind her, hands on waist. This one is mine.

anti fishstick · 09-24-2003, 01:02 AM

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Originally posted by Sledge
Standing behind her, hands on waist. This one is mine.

thats my favorite. i like big bear hugs like that.

i'm actually not a fan of spooning. its tooo restricting when i want to sleep and i'm not a very cuddly sleeper :T i guess i'm just too used to sleeping alone

paultantk · 09-24-2003, 03:21 AM

Pardon the newbie here, but what's spooning?

SexyCat · 09-24-2003, 05:39 AM

I like it when we are laying down and I am on my side facing away from him and he is behind me, one arm under my neck as a pillow and one over my side. That is the best because I feel so warm and safe and loved.

sierra2774 · 09-24-2003, 11:53 AM

I like being held close to his chest, close to his heart.

Averett · 09-24-2003, 11:55 AM

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Originally posted by paultantk
Pardon the newbie here, but what's spooning?

Spooning is basically when you lay side by side with somebody. Usually you're facing the same direction and the person on the "outside" sort of hugs the person on the "inside"

Thraeryn · 09-24-2003, 12:07 PM

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Originally posted by Litespeed
I love to be held by my Hal. That's all there is to it.

My favorite is when I sneak into his room in the mornings and wrap my arms around him, lay down next to his side and wait for him to wake up. There's nothing more amazing than seeing the look of joy in his eyes as he finds me there.

Man, you guys are already getting too cute for social outings.

Makes me happy to see, though.

numist_net · 09-24-2003, 03:29 PM

She loves to be held either at the wakeup or just side by side with one arm on her waist... fine with me, it feels good to have my hands on her.

I like it when she hugs me period, from front or behind, any full arm wrap is great.

cdwonderful · 09-25-2003, 10:15 AM

I love to hold her close and feel the glow

battlemouth · 09-25-2003, 05:11 PM

wrapping around from behind is my favorite

the_tyipist · 09-26-2003, 02:59 PM

I remember before I actually had a gf, trying to figure out the properway to hold someone ie. do my arms go higher up the body than hers. I would watch tv a movies and thought there was a right and wrong way.

I figured it out... whatever feels right

QuasiMojo · 09-26-2003, 07:01 PM

I like to hold my S.O.....firmly
hehheh

seriously, I llllllllike it when she puts her hands on the back of my neck.

numberfive · 09-26-2003, 09:07 PM

Spooning on the couch does it for me.

09-23-2003, 02:22 AM	#1 (permalink)
analog Banned	Hold your SO... Hey all, just a nice little post to find out... how do you hold your SO? Wrapping arms around from behind, from front, over the shoulders or around the waist, tightly, loosely, hands on sides, snuggling, etc... share with us your favorite way to hold or be held. Mine is to hold my girl from behind, and wrap my arms around her, kind of just below the shoulders. It's the perfect height.

09-23-2003, 04:45 AM	#2 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	Well, I've got nobody to hold, and nobody to hold me. But if the planets shall someday position themselves and I were to find somebody, well, I like being held in any way possible. There's nothing like a good cuddle. Now excuse me while I drown myself in my hot chocolate. __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

09-23-2003, 05:17 AM	#4 (permalink)
SabrinaFair Junkie Location: Louisville, KY	Well, the relationship I'm in at present is very very new, so there's a lot I haven't tried. But at present, my favourite thing is to "spoon" with my head on his back, between his shouldblades. Bonus points if he's just taken a shower and his skin is all warm and sweet-smelling. __________________ "With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy." -Desiderata

09-23-2003, 06:02 AM	#5 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	Awww that's my favorite. Well, one of them anyway. __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

09-23-2003, 06:16 AM	#7 (permalink)
Harshaw Is mad at you. Location: Bored in Sacramento	I like it when I wake up and we are spooning and I have NO recollection of ever moving into the position, it just sort of happened. __________________ This too shall pass.

09-23-2003, 05:08 AM	#3 (permalink)
Sleepyjack Fast'n'Bulbous Location: Australia, Perth	i think i will be joining Averett in the chocolate swimming pool, sounds like fun. Although as for holding q, i think what your (analog) describing is what i like to do as well.....

09-23-2003, 06:55 AM	#8 (permalink)
livewirerc Insane Location: Austin, TX	I hold my wife (of 1 1/2 months) all sorts of ways, but the one that probably gets the most use is in bed where I'm laying on my back and she's beside me, head on shoulder and leg draped over.

09-23-2003, 06:57 AM	#9 (permalink)
ratbastid Darth Papa Location: Yonder	lurkette and I are highly skilled at the Mixed Doubles Freestyle Snuggle.

09-23-2003, 07:44 AM	#10 (permalink)
eci Tilted Location: UK	All of them. Spooning, or enveloping a smaller girl from behind, or facing to whisper in each other's ear, or on the sofa with her head on my chest... they're all good. Although I'll join Averett and Sleepyjack in the singles' hot-choc society for the moment.

09-23-2003, 07:51 AM	#11 (permalink)
Lebell Cracking the Whip Location: Sexymama's arms...	I'm very physical by nature, so ANY holding/touching is good, but I especially like coming up behind my sweetie unexpected and putting my arms around her and killing the nape of her neck. Yum! edit to say: killing=kissing in this context. Original left to amuse the masses __________________ "Of all tyrannies, a tyranny exercised for the good of its victims may be the most oppressive. It may be better to live under robber barons than under omnipotent moral busybodies. The robber baron's cruelty may sometimes sleep, his cupidity may at some point be satiated; but those who torment us for our own good will torment us without end, for they do so with the approval of their own conscience." – C. S. Lewis The ONLY sponsors we have are YOU! Please Donate! Last edited by Lebell; 09-24-2003 at 08:18 AM..

09-23-2003, 08:05 AM	#12 (permalink)
Kadath Muffled Location: Camazotz	Since the reclining positions have pretty much been covered, I'll add my favorite standing hold. I'm a little more than a foot taller than her. She folds her arms into her chest and I wrap mine around her back, putting the top of her head at the perfect height for reassuring kisses. Good after a hard day at work. __________________ it's quiet in here

09-23-2003, 08:08 AM	#13 (permalink)
Thraeryn Loser	Lebell likes killing the nape of her neck. I like kissing it, myself. My favorite position to hold her in is face to face, chins on each others' shoulders, arms and legs wrapped tightly around each other. My favorite position for her to hold me in is when she spoons me from behind and her arms wraps around my side. I usually end up holding her hand against my chest. She calls it "hugging my back", and I love it. Highlight of my nights.

09-23-2003, 08:26 AM	#15 (permalink)
Cynthetiq Tilted Cat Head Administrator Location: Manhattan, NY	any which way that I can hold her __________________ I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not. What's the best nation in the world? DO-NATION!

09-23-2003, 08:36 AM	#16 (permalink)
Charlatan Getting it. Super Moderator Location: Lion City	No preference as long as we are touching... Even after 15 years together she still sends a thrill through my body when we touch... I never would have guessed it was possible. __________________ "My hands are on fire. Hands are on fire. Ain't got no more time for all you charlatans and liars." - Old Man Luedecke

09-23-2003, 08:41 AM	#17 (permalink)
SiN strangelove Location: ...more here than there...	hmm..we hold each other however/whichever way works. some positions of standing/sitting are a bit awkward, because i'm 5'0" and he's like 6'+.. but laying down, our most oft snuggling position is him on my side facing the outside of the bed, and me doing the 'hugging' his back thingy Thrae described...usually with my bottom arm under my head/pillow, and the other one wrapped around him somehow or just resting on his side/hip. (or sometimes carefully cupping his 'package'. i love doing that!) that's the standard 'until-he-falls-asleep' position... sometimes we face each other too, i love that, holding each other. __________________ - + - ° GiRLie GeeK ° - + - ° 01110010011011110110111101110100001000000110110101100101 Therell be days/When Ill stray/I may appear to be/Constantly out of reach/I give in to sin/Because I like to practise what I preach

09-24-2003, 03:21 AM	#27 (permalink)
paultantk Upright Location: Malaysia	Pardon the newbie here, but what's spooning? __________________ Linux sex: unzip; strip; touch; finger; mount; fsck; more; yes; umount; sleep

09-23-2003, 09:02 AM	#18 (permalink)
Dano069 is Nucking Futs! Location: On the edge of sanity	It doesn't matter to me how we hold each other. My favorite though is holding her from behind while standing. I can move my hands wherever I want and I can nibble on her neck if I need to. As for being in bed, again it really doesn't matter. My wife's favorite position is cradled into my right shoulder. __________________ I may look attentive, but I'm taking peeks down your blouse faster than the human eye can follow. Last edited by Dano069; 09-23-2003 at 09:05 AM..

09-23-2003, 01:42 PM	#19 (permalink)
blade02 Insane	Well since my girl lives 4hours away from me, the first thing that always happens when i see her, is that she runs and jumps at me...i love holding her up with her legs around my waist. But my favorite is when we're chilling on the couch, and she does that little snuggle move where she curls up in a ball, but puts her arms around my arm and leans her head up against me. She looks so damn cute when she looks up at me.

09-23-2003, 02:18 PM	#20 (permalink)
Minx Junkie Location: Up yonder	I love being held from behind...or should I say I really miss being held from behind. Other than that - it's all good....any time you are being hugged or held it's gold. sigh Well that just got me all depressed....I think I'll go dig my heart out with a spoon - that sounds like fun. __________________ You've been a naughty boy....go to my room!

09-23-2003, 02:24 PM	#21 (permalink)
Litespeed Loser Location: Thousand Oaks, CA	I love to be held by my Hal. That's all there is to it. My favorite is when I sneak into his room in the mornings and wrap my arms around him, lay down next to his side and wait for him to wake up. There's nothing more amazing than seeing the look of joy in his eyes as he finds me there.

09-23-2003, 07:14 PM	#22 (permalink)
The.Lunatic Psycho Location: Somewhere just beyond the realm of sanity...	not at all unless my Ex who lives below me who dumped my ass for no reason gets drunk tells me she loves me then changes her mind again. Stupid bitch..... __________________ Proud memeber of the Insomniac Club.

09-23-2003, 11:14 PM	#25 (permalink)
Sledge Pasture Bedtime	Standing behind her, hands on waist. This one is mine.

09-24-2003, 05:39 AM	#28 (permalink)
SexyCat Meow Location: Michigan	I like it when we are laying down and I am on my side facing away from him and he is behind me, one arm under my neck as a pillow and one over my side. That is the best because I feel so warm and safe and loved.

09-24-2003, 11:53 AM	#29 (permalink)
sierra2774 Addict Location: Northeast Ohio	I like being held close to his chest, close to his heart. __________________ "Every tomorrow brings new opportunities, challenges we must address...A chance to affirm all our wishes and dreams, to seek beauty and true happiness."

09-24-2003, 03:29 PM	#32 (permalink)
numist_net Banned Location: UCSD	She loves to be held either at the wakeup or just side by side with one arm on her waist... fine with me, it feels good to have my hands on her. I like it when she hugs me period, from front or behind, any full arm wrap is great.

09-25-2003, 10:15 AM	#33 (permalink)
cdwonderful another passenger Location: Youngstown, Ohio	I love to hold her close and feel the glow __________________ Never try to teach a pig to whistle it wastes your time, and annoys the pig.....

09-25-2003, 05:11 PM	#34 (permalink)
battlemouth Robot Lovin' Location: Boston	wrapping around from behind is my favorite __________________ like a bullet through a flock of doves

09-26-2003, 02:59 PM	#35 (permalink)
the_tyipist Upright Location: saskatchewan	I remember before I actually had a gf, trying to figure out the properway to hold someone ie. do my arms go higher up the body than hers. I would watch tv a movies and thought there was a right and wrong way. I figured it out... whatever feels right

09-26-2003, 07:01 PM	#36 (permalink)
QuasiMojo King Knave Location: Lancaster	I like to hold my S.O.....firmly hehheh seriously, I llllllllike it when she puts her hands on the back of my neck. __________________ AzAbOv ZoBeLoE

09-26-2003, 09:07 PM	#37 (permalink)
numberfive You + Me = Us Location: California dreaming...	Spooning on the couch does it for me. __________________ P.S. Always remember: to forget is a form of suicide. (If I could only remember to forget myself.)