Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community  

Go Back   Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community > The Academy > Tilted Sexuality


 
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
Old 09-08-2003, 12:59 PM   #1 (permalink)
Insane
 
need some tips.

I've been dating this girl for awhile, and I simply cannot make her orgasm. Apperantly its pretty tough with her, because shes pretty experianced and still has never had one, not even from pleasuring herself. We've done alot of different things including the usual fingering, going down on her, doing both, sex in many positions, including rubbing her clitoris while i penetrate her, but she simply cannot climax. She says everything is fine, and from the look on her face i believe it, but it'd be really nice to be able to give her one. She says she gets to a point where it starts to feel real good and then it starts to hurt. (this is when shes on top and in control). Shes not into anal and doesnt want to try toys so Im at loss on what else to try. Also I dont worry about it while having sex with her, I just try to enjoy everything, but its always kinda in the back of my mind (im not used to failing at this sorta thing.) So any other buttons to push?
blade02 is offline  
Old 09-08-2003, 01:07 PM   #2 (permalink)
Poo-tee-weet?
 
JStrider's Avatar
 
Location: The Woodlands, TX
some girls have problems having them when their younger... *shrug*

just try not to worry about it... its not ALL about the orgasm...

its weird that she says it hurts when she gets close...
__________________
-=JStrider=-

~Clatto Verata Nicto
JStrider is offline  
Old 09-08-2003, 01:07 PM   #3 (permalink)
Crazy
 
i think you're trying too hard and worrying too much about it

thats why you can't get it to happen
you both need to relax and it will come
you're doing everything you can

she's probably worried about something not related to sex and it carries over

ps -if she can't even get an O how the hell did anal come up? maybe you're pressuring her too much

maybe it hurts cause you're too rough with her button (may be too sensitive) if its not physical, it could be psychological if she had some sort of abuse in her past (that could lead to her being very experienced, but thats pretty deep psychological stuff for here)
__________________
[Arthur] HA HA HA HA, It's a little joke![/Arthur]

Last edited by sigma1042; 09-08-2003 at 01:11 PM..
sigma1042 is offline  
Old 09-08-2003, 01:10 PM   #4 (permalink)
Insane
 
well its not a huge issue, i've only talked to her about it once, and usually i just listen to how she sounds or what shes saying when trying to pleasure her...the look on her face more than does it for me. Shes 21 by the way, and we've been dating for almost a year now. So we're pretty comfortable about everything. All Im asking for is maybe a few more tricks that I can try out. This girl treats me real real well, and I'd just like to be able to do things better for her.

Last edited by blade02; 09-08-2003 at 03:41 PM..
blade02 is offline  
Old 09-08-2003, 05:37 PM   #5 (permalink)
Upright
 
first of all, don't get frustrated because it wont make things any easier. the great thing is, this is something you might have to work out... and nothing is more fun than practicing sex. buy a kama sutra book or something... you never know what might get her going. remember this though... sex isnt all about orgasm.
im just a girl is offline  
Old 09-08-2003, 05:59 PM   #6 (permalink)
A Real American
 
Holo's Avatar
 
Get her drunk the next time you try to make her orgasm. She will be much more relaxed and less inhibited. I'm not saying she has issues but she may fear letting go that first time...it can be more of a surrender for a woman and some are secretly afraid of it. JMO.
__________________
I happen to like the words "fuck", "cock", "pussy", "tits", "cunt", "twat", "shit" and even "bitch". As long as I am not using them to describe you, don't go telling me whether or not I can/should use them...that is, if you want me to continue refraining from using them to describe you. ~Prince
Holo is offline  
Old 09-08-2003, 06:51 PM   #7 (permalink)
Upright
 
Location: New Brunswick, Canada
Dude,

Yes it could be because she's psychologically damaged.
No it is not all about the orgasm.
Yes you could be trying too hard.

But people... the point here is that she wants to have an orgasm, he wants her to have an orgasm, and neither of them feel that it is absolutely imparative, just that it would be nice.

I have had a couple of girls with this problem in the past. Here's how I overcame it. I usually got them to orgasm on a night when they did not know i was trying. In other words don't force it.

Licking: I found the best way (sit down, your in for a long haul) is to lick all around the pussy, getting her wet and excited as you usually do. Then, very gently, suck on her clit. Not hard... your just trying to get a little extra blood in there not trying to suck the top off a muffin. Make little circles around her clit, no hard direct contact. Do this for 20 min?!?!?! If she starts to get really excited, resist the urge to do it harder or faster, this is important, keep the rhythm.

As for intercourse, you lay on your back, have her lay on top of you. You spread your legs, she should close hers. Have her arch her hips forward a little so her clit rubs your pubic bone. all of her weight should be on you, the only part of her touching the bed should be her toes and hands. Once shes sliding up and down, your job is to lay there and not cum. Touch her, kiss her, moan and groan, but don't go soft. This could take a while. She should get into a really good rocking motion. Again, let her control the speed and rhythm. Try to hold out till after she orgasms.

I've had girls that could cum at the first lick, but these techniques seemed to have worked for the girls who were a little harder to make cum. I found also that once someone "learns" to orgasm, they can do it easier next time. After she does it a couple of times on her own, when she starts to get close to orgasm, tell her to tighten or stretch every muscle in her body and to hold her breath as long as possible. She'll be puddy in your hands.

Anyway, this works for me. Let me know if it works for any of you people out there.
__________________
There are 3 types of people in this world... those who can count and those who can't.

KAKOS
Kakos is offline  
Old 09-08-2003, 06:54 PM   #8 (permalink)
Insane
 
thanks Kakos, thats the sort of stuff im looking for.
blade02 is offline  
Old 09-08-2003, 06:57 PM   #9 (permalink)
Loser
 
blade02: It might not actually hurt when she's close; I've been with women who looked like they were in absolute agony when they were about to cum.

They were reaching for it, just like you do when you cum. You should ask her what your face looks like just before you blow sometime.

The only advice I have is KEEP GOING THROUGH THAT FACE.
Thraeryn is offline  
Old 09-08-2003, 07:08 PM   #10 (permalink)
Insane
 
I just go with what she tells me....She'll be on top, in control of everything, and she'll really get into it...then after awhile she'll stop and ask if Im good. If I ask her if she wants to keep going she'll usually say that it hurts. So Im judging the hurting thing with what she tells me.
blade02 is offline  
Old 09-08-2003, 09:23 PM   #11 (permalink)
Vanishing, like I do..
 
Location: Austin, TX
Hitachi Magic Wand!

Hahahaha
__________________
Toy-like people make me boy-like.
meff is offline  
Old 09-08-2003, 09:56 PM   #12 (permalink)
High Honorary Junkie
 
Location: Tri-state.
i think the key is to stop worrying about it so much, and talking with her to assure the both of you that it's <b>fine</b> not to orgasm. Just as long as she enjoys the act...that should be the only thing (besides you) on her mind during sex.
macmanmike6100 is offline  
Old 09-10-2003, 11:09 AM   #13 (permalink)
Psycho
 
Location: YOUR MOM!!
Three things....
Some women have a extra layer of skin that covers their inner clit, they still get pleasure but not at the same intensity as others who don't. Some undergo surgery to have it removed, kinda severe but it depends on how annoying it gets.

Two.... do it in water.... it's a little tougher because the water takes away any natural lubricant generated. Lack of lubricant will result in more friction against the clit, more intense feeling.

Three: Try this... get into doggy position, after you've built up a bit of rhythm, get her to slowly lower down onto her belly (yes, you're still in) then bring her legs together, you're legs will go on the out side. You're now laying belly to back and she should feel a lot of pressure on her inner clit/g spot. Take it slow, to much too fast may result in pain.

Hope it helps.
__________________
And now here I stand because of you, Mister Anderson, because of you I'm no longer an agent of the system, because of you I've changed...
prosequence is offline  
Old 09-10-2003, 11:57 AM   #14 (permalink)
Upright
 
go buy a vibrator and try that. Don't get one that looks like a penis, just get a round ordinary vibrator. That might make her a little more willing to try it.
cjjeep21 is offline  
 

Tags
tips

Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 08:04 AM.

Tilted Forum Project

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2024, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.6.0 PL2
© 2002-2012 Tilted Forum Project

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 40 41 42 43 44 45 46 47 48 49 50 51 52 53 54 55 56 57 58 59 60 61 62 63 64 65 66 67 68 69 70 71 72 73 74 75 76 77 78 79 80 81 82 83 84 85 86 87 88 89 90 91 92 93 94 95 96 97 98 99 100 101 102 103 104 105 106 107 108 109 110 111 112 113 114 115 116 117 118 119 120 121 122 123 124 125 126 127 128 129 130 131 132 133 134 135 136 137 138 139 140 141 142 143 144 145 146 147 148 149 150 151 152 153 154 155 156 157 158 159 160 161 162 163 164 165 166 167 168 169 170 171 172 173 174 175 176 177 178 179 180 181 182 183 184 185 186 187 188 189 190 191 192 193 194 195 196 197 198 199 200 201 202 203 204 205 206 207 208 209 210 211 212 213 214 215 216 217 218 219 220 221 222 223 224 225 226 227 228 229 230 231 232 233 234 235 236 237 238 239 240 241 242 243 244 245 246 247 248 249 250 251 252 253 254 255 256 257 258 259 260 261 262 263 264 265 266 267 268 269 270 271 272 273 274 275 276 277 278 279 280 281 282 283 284 285 286 287 288 289 290 291 292 293 294 295 296 297 298 299 300 301 302 303 304 305 306 307 308 309 310 311 312 313 314 315 316 317 318 319 320 321 322 323 324 325 326 327 328 329 330 331 332 333 334 335 336 337 338 339 340 341 342 343 344 345 346 347 348 349 350 351 352 353 354 355 356 357 358 359 360