Getting over infatuations
 

So, what do you do to get over an infatuation that just isn't healthy?

It could be for anything... But since I posted it here, I guess infatuations over another person would be what I'm looking for.

hmm...i think the 2 most obvious options are

1. find a flaw in your infatuation. enough to take it down a few notches.

2. find another infatuation.

i dunno about how well it works to actually hook up with an infatuation so i dunno if i should recommend that.
i *think* any experience i've had with that in the past is that it can be fun, but likely short-lived.

good luck ;)

Whenever I figure out how to do it, I'll let you know. :)

That darned S is wearing tight jeans today. :crazy:

That's part of the problem... I got a little taste, and I want more. Of course, this isn't possible. Damnit!

The flaws idea... I like that. I'll pound those in my head until I think he's a raving moron, and wonder why I was being silly in the first place!



Now, can anyone tell me how to get over my infatuation over the internet?? :lol:

Time and a replacement is the only way I've found so far, unfortunately. The flaws idea does have some effect, but I always have that horrible feeling that I'm trying to convince myself. Ah well.

Yeah i definatly think a replacement is the only thing, ie a new infactuation. Sometimes time helps, but its normally the time you take to get another interest....

I can't get over mine either :(

Also, not all infactuations aren't not healthy, it depends on the degree of it, but i guess that doens't matter.

Wait six years until you know them completely, THEN get together with them. ;) *licks Jinya*

´finding the flaw´ theory is the best for me.

otherwise, its just the good old tenderness and time theory.

for me, i find that if you just transfer the infatuation to another person, then you´re either making things worse, or lowering your standards.

'Finding the Flaw' worked for me!

(anybody remember 'Hooked on Phonics'?)

I have no idea.

It doesn't help I have a picture of mine on the dorm wall.

I'm really staring to like you, Averett...

Anyway, I don't think there's really anything you can do about an infatuation anymore than there's anything you can do to help get over a breakup. Just spend time living your life and you'll eventually get over it...

So, what if time and flaw-finding don't work, and no suitable replacement appears? Then you're really up a creek, huh?

I've had so many infatuations they usually just go away when i find someone else, or i ask them out (which not one has lasted more than a month).

get another person to be infatuated with, or find out all of that person flaws

Awww thanks! :icare:

Well, I might have found a cure.... I saw this guy I met a few weeks back at the court house today. He still seems interested. Either that, or he plays interested really well!!!

I'm going the "finding the flaw" route with this other guy. The flaw being the fact that he's with another girl. Damnit!

You spend so much time looking at them as a beautiful object you convince yourself that they are more beautiful than they are. Try to turn it around and find them discusting and ugly and dirty. Sometimes it can take some real mind over matter but if you got the brain, it works.

This is a difficult question. I have had it happen many times, and it was only after getting beat over the head with the fact that they weren't what I made them out to be that I would lose my infatuation. Then it happens all over again. In fact it still happens to a degree. I see someone on the street that I find attractive, and I project what I think they would be like on to them. However, now I am old enough and wise enough to sublimate these feelings and use them on my relationship. It actually helps intensify the emotions I have for my wife as she is that person I am imagining. I guess you could say I use that sexual energy and channel it into my relationship.

Let it absolutely destroy you. Really. I was obsessed with my ex gf's son's gf (my ex gf is 23 years my senior). She was the most beautiful girl I ever laid eyes on at the time, and we were actually pretty good friends. But I got too involved emotionally and became her crutch when her bf would be an asshole or whatever. I hated seeing her with her bf tho; he was my boss at the time and we were friends too and he was cheating on her. I let it eat me alive, and it went on till I finally realized it would never be. then you do move on, but it may take a little time.


Infatuations feel just as real as love, but you need the other half to take it to the next step. So obsess about it until you realize your futility.

My head realizes it. Now I just have to send the message to that area in my chest!