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Contami22 · 09-05-2003, 09:51 PM

Hey everyone at the tfp ive been needing some tips on helping make a first time the best it can be. Now it is the first time for both of us and i was wondering what you would give as tips outside of oil and candles. I know to get her in the mood but i just dont know if it will be satisfactory for both sides. Ive heard your first time is never any good but i want to break that rule. Any tips or advice would be loved

Flippy · 09-05-2003, 10:02 PM

You may want to check out these threads for some already posted info on this subject :

Secrets of the Clit
A Girls First Time

analog · 09-07-2003, 12:32 AM

don't make jokes. i don't care how easy-going she usually is, if you pull out and announce, "congratulations, you've just been popped!", she will remember that FOR THE REST OF HER LIFE. good luck! lol

aisoku · 09-07-2003, 03:53 PM

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Originally posted by analog
don't make jokes. i don't care how easy-going she usually is, if you pull out and announce, "congratulations, you've just been popped!", she will remember that FOR THE REST OF HER LIFE. good luck! lol

Heh, that's pretty sick analog! Me and my girlfriend are pretty damn close.. we're waiting till we get married, but we don't feel like we have much to worry about. I guess we figure the sex will be like the making out. It was great at first because it was a new experince with each other, being so close. Then it got kind of drawn out and boring, but we found ways around that and are back in the game

it's a lot of work and commitment, but when you're in love, everything falls into place

Silvy · 09-07-2003, 03:58 PM

Tips

-Safe sex! (condoms)
-Take your time
-Take it easy
-Be gentle
-Have fun!

Really it's all about caring for one another. If you really like eachother and there's no rush, then you can't really go wrong actually.

JStrider · 09-07-2003, 04:01 PM

take it slow... lots of foreplay...just take it super slow... it will prolly be uncomfortable at first for her...

make sure yall dont have a time limit...let it take all night if it has to... ya shouldnt rush these things...

IC3 · 09-07-2003, 10:06 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by analog
don't make jokes. i don't care how easy-going she usually is, if you pull out and announce, "congratulations, you've just been popped!", she will remember that FOR THE REST OF HER LIFE. good luck! lol

I'm sorry, But I almost spit my coke everywhere when I read that.

Johnny Rotten · 09-07-2003, 11:37 PM

My first time, we had music, candles, everything. But the soldier wouldn't salute--stage fright. Turned off the music, blew out the candles, and a fun time was had by all. There's something to be said for simplicity.

Don't feel disappointed if the experience isn't like being shot though with lightening (which actually hurts a lot). I didn't actually ride home to glory until about the sixth time. It's the bumping around in the sack that's the fun part. Enjoy it. You're only young once.

meff · 09-10-2003, 04:24 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by analog
don't make jokes. i don't care how easy-going she usually is, if you pull out and announce, "congratulations, you've just been popped!", she will remember that FOR THE REST OF HER LIFE. good luck! lol

I STOLE YOUR CHERRY

hokieian · 09-10-2003, 06:09 PM

lots of lubrication.

micah67 · 09-10-2003, 06:24 PM

Quote:

"congratulations, you've just been popped!"

Quote of the thread! funny...

Seriously, I'm going to reiterate to emphasize what's been said. Take it slow - don't rush! Read that again.

Be somewhere safe and secure - with no schedule or clock looming over you. And as Johnny Rotten attests: don't overplan and save Ravel's "Bolero" for another day.

Take a lesson from my first time: Hardcore porn = bad.

siryn · 09-12-2003, 12:09 AM

Yes, jokes are a definate no-no. Seriously, most girls take their first time really seriously. Chances are, it will be crappy and uncomfortable for you both. It is for most people. Just don't let her remember you as "the asshole who stole my virginity crappily." All the previous advice has been good, I can only emphasize slowness, not only for her sake, as it is guaranteed pain, but for yours, as you stand a good chance of getting off too quickly, tho some guys have performance problems for starters. Making sure she is properly lubed will help a lot, whether that entails foreplay, oral, lube-in-a-bottle, or all three. Just do whatever you need to keep her comfortable and don't psych yourself out. Good luck!

PS, as a lot of first time experiences turn out not-so-hot, you can always pick it up by reverting to oral and then cuddling. Talking about it is good, but be very, very sensitive about her feelings and absolutely NO CRITICISM!

wry1 · 09-13-2003, 01:16 AM

The first time is something that is completely different for everyone who goes through it. The only advice I can give you is to build upon what siryn said:

...you can always pick it up by reverting to oral and then cuddling.....

There's a few things I'd like to add to that statement.....

First: make a point of cuddling with her before any clothes come off, or for that matter - before you get into any "heavy making-out". It's crucial that you remember that the woman's comfort level is a large part of what makes her first time pleasurable....or not. By taking it very slowly and building a bond of intimacy before any physical actions such as clothes coming off, the nervous anxiety on her part will be greatly diminished. (Remember, part of her is going to be penetrated - and possibly torn - in this act; she knows it, and is going to be quite apprehensive if she's a normal human being)

Second: ORAL, ORAL, ORAL, ORAL, ORAL, ORAL, ORAL! And no, I don't mean just focusing on her genitalia. Ears, the nape of the neck, and just about anywhere you kiss lovingly can become an erogenous zone on her body. So kiss around (I recommend gently using your tongue as you kiss an area - as the moisture dries, she'll continue to receive stimulation...even after you've moved on to another body part!) and pay attention to her reactions! What she does - suck in a breath, moan, shiver, grab you and hold you in a particular spot - can tell you a lot about what she does (and doesn't) like. FYI: all the examples I just gave are good signs, so don't worry if she does any of the above! Work hard to communicate with her throughout the entire time. Talking can maintain the level of trust between the two of you, as well as provide you with more feedback as to how she feels; so use it!

Lastly: Cuddle like crazy once you two have finished - even if it's only a short rest before "round two" (assuming she's so inclined)! Tell her just how you feel about her, and don't be shy about what you say. If you mean it, make sure she knows it.

That's the best advice I can possibly give on the topic. I hope it helps.

09-05-2003, 09:51 PM	#1 (permalink)
Contami22 Banned	First time tips Hey everyone at the tfp ive been needing some tips on helping make a first time the best it can be. Now it is the first time for both of us and i was wondering what you would give as tips outside of oil and candles. I know to get her in the mood but i just dont know if it will be satisfactory for both sides. Ive heard your first time is never any good but i want to break that rule. Any tips or advice would be loved

09-07-2003, 03:58 PM	#5 (permalink)
Silvy paranoid Location: The Netherlands	Tips -Safe sex! (condoms) -Take your time -Take it easy -Be gentle -Have fun! Really it's all about caring for one another. If you really like eachother and there's no rush, then you can't really go wrong actually. __________________ "Do not kill. Do not rape. Do not steal. These are principles which every man of every faith can embrace. " - Murphy MacManus (Boondock Saints)

09-07-2003, 04:01 PM	#6 (permalink)
JStrider Poo-tee-weet? Location: The Woodlands, TX	take it slow... lots of foreplay...just take it super slow... it will prolly be uncomfortable at first for her... make sure yall dont have a time limit...let it take all night if it has to... ya shouldnt rush these things... __________________ -=JStrider=- ~Clatto Verata Nicto

09-07-2003, 11:37 PM	#8 (permalink)
Johnny Rotten lost and found Location: Berkeley	My first time, we had music, candles, everything. But the soldier wouldn't salute--stage fright. Turned off the music, blew out the candles, and a fun time was had by all. There's something to be said for simplicity. Don't feel disappointed if the experience isn't like being shot though with lightening (which actually hurts a lot). I didn't actually ride home to glory until about the sixth time. It's the bumping around in the sack that's the fun part. Enjoy it. You're only young once. __________________ "The idea that money doesn't buy you happiness is a lie put about by the rich, to stop the poor from killing them." -- Michael Caine

09-13-2003, 01:16 AM	#13 (permalink)
wry1 Loser Location: Far too far from my Angel....	The first time is something that is completely different for everyone who goes through it. The only advice I can give you is to build upon what siryn said: ...you can always pick it up by reverting to oral and then cuddling..... There's a few things I'd like to add to that statement..... First: make a point of cuddling with her before any clothes come off, or for that matter - before you get into any "heavy making-out". It's crucial that you remember that the woman's comfort level is a large part of what makes her first time pleasurable....or not. By taking it very slowly and building a bond of intimacy before any physical actions such as clothes coming off, the nervous anxiety on her part will be greatly diminished. (Remember, part of her is going to be penetrated - and possibly torn - in this act; she knows it, and is going to be quite apprehensive if she's a normal human being) Second: ORAL, ORAL, ORAL, ORAL, ORAL, ORAL, ORAL! And no, I don't mean just focusing on her genitalia. Ears, the nape of the neck, and just about anywhere you kiss lovingly can become an erogenous zone on her body. So kiss around (I recommend gently using your tongue as you kiss an area - as the moisture dries, she'll continue to receive stimulation...even after you've moved on to another body part!) and pay attention to her reactions! What she does - suck in a breath, moan, shiver, grab you and hold you in a particular spot - can tell you a lot about what she does (and doesn't) like. FYI: all the examples I just gave are good signs, so don't worry if she does any of the above! Work hard to communicate with her throughout the entire time. Talking can maintain the level of trust between the two of you, as well as provide you with more feedback as to how she feels; so use it! Lastly: Cuddle like crazy once you two have finished - even if it's only a short rest before "round two" (assuming she's so inclined)! Tell her just how you feel about her, and don't be shy about what you say. If you mean it, make sure she knows it. That's the best advice I can possibly give on the topic. I hope it helps. Last edited by wry1; 09-13-2003 at 01:21 AM..

09-05-2003, 10:02 PM	#2 (permalink)
Flippy Banned Location: Greater Vancouver	You may want to check out these threads for some already posted info on this subject : Secrets of the Clit A Girls First Time

09-07-2003, 12:32 AM	#3 (permalink)
analog Banned	don't make jokes. i don't care how easy-going she usually is, if you pull out and announce, "congratulations, you've just been popped!", she will remember that FOR THE REST OF HER LIFE. good luck! lol

09-10-2003, 06:09 PM	#10 (permalink)
hokieian Crazy Location: Saratoga Springs, NY	lots of lubrication.

09-12-2003, 12:09 AM	#12 (permalink)
siryn Tilted Location: Long Beach CA	Yes, jokes are a definate no-no. Seriously, most girls take their first time really seriously. Chances are, it will be crappy and uncomfortable for you both. It is for most people. Just don't let her remember you as "the asshole who stole my virginity crappily." All the previous advice has been good, I can only emphasize slowness, not only for her sake, as it is guaranteed pain, but for yours, as you stand a good chance of getting off too quickly, tho some guys have performance problems for starters. Making sure she is properly lubed will help a lot, whether that entails foreplay, oral, lube-in-a-bottle, or all three. Just do whatever you need to keep her comfortable and don't psych yourself out. Good luck! PS, as a lot of first time experiences turn out not-so-hot, you can always pick it up by reverting to oral and then cuddling. Talking about it is good, but be very, very sensitive about her feelings and absolutely NO CRITICISM!