Going down on a girl = painful?
 

My gf says it hurts too much if i apply too much pressure to her clitoris(i think). I know this is probably normal but it happens when i apply almost NO pressure. I will get her going good and then I'll shift position or something and she'll say "ouch" and get turned off and then it's over.

It's frustrating because I love making girls happy and going down but shes so sensitive seems like all she can take is having a wet paper tower put on it or the tongue equivalent.

Any suggestions?

well if she doesnt like direct stimulation... maybe try stimulating the lips around the clitoris instead of the direct stimulation...

Yea, just listen to her needs. All girls are different and if your girl tells you what to do/not to do then listen.

I tried stimulating other parts, but she complains that theres no feeling, the only thing that gets her going is the clit(i think)--her pussy isn't exactly well defined.

some women have really sensitive clits... It might become less sensitive once she's more aroused.

Also, it sounds as if maybe she's a bit skeptical of the whole procedure if she gets turned off that quickly. Take you time, start with foreplay, nibble in all areas and stay away from that clit until she's begging for it ;) And when you do go for it, use very very light pressure.

All good advice there.. get her worked up first, I think that, if I remember correctly, that the clitoris is extrememly sensitive at the start of the period of sexual intimacy..

My fiancee is similar at times.. rather than have direct stimulation with your tongue.. just roll your tongue over the hood that protects the clitoris Do circles around it, just don't touch it directly. And ask her if it feels good.

Also I agree with toasty if she's getting turned off that quickly. Perhaps she is abit squimish about doin that. Some girls fear the thought of what their SO might think about the odours and tastes of 'down there'

Allrighty, hope it was of some use :)

Have a really close shave, because to some girls even a slight amount of stuble can feel like sand paper to them.

My woman was really concerned that I wouldn't like it. She kept asking if it was all right, blah, blah, blah.. She still asks occasionally. I think that girls are told directly or indirectly that they're unclean and that nobody wants to be near their genitals.

I'd ask her how she masturbates. That will give you a good idea of what she needs.

talk it over with her , find out what she wants you to do

As you're applying light tongue to her clitoris, make sure you're using quite a bit of saliva, then pull your head back and blow gently on her clitoris, this will give her a unique sensation without any pressure, and will hopefully help her get used to the intensity of the feelings coming from "down below".

Other than that, just do your homework: talk with her about what she likes, and how she likes to pleasure herself.

some women's clits are too sensitive for direct manipulation. Many women like light licking all around it - makes em wild. Some women get off more from fingers in the quim. Experiment. Live and learn. Watch her masterbate and you will know what she likes and what gets her off. Every woman is different and the best way to learn the quickie route to getting them an 'o is to watch them do it and copy them. Then you can go on from there knowing that you can always return to what they like if you start to flub it.

My wife even enjoys light sucking on her clit, I also just want to make her feel good, and I have learned alot by watching her masturbate .. or masturbating together, which really gets me off :)

Kiss her. Kiss her alot. Mouth kisses, neck kisses, breast, sides, hips, legs, back, shoulders. While kissing her, lightly lick her. Tease her. play at her nipples and and breasts. Alternate kissing and licking with light bites and sucking. Move slowly to her pubis and completely ignore her clit. Kis and lick and bite all around her pbis and lips and thighsd and such. Get into it! Let yourself go and ignore how it may look to her. Your passion will feed her passion. Women respond to the sincerity of the act and so, be sincere. Use your fingers and thumbs and don't ignore the anus. That is a very sensitive are. Be damned gentle and go at her pace. When she is ready for it, you will be able to stimulate her clit. Don't rush! Enjoy the play, enjoy the moment. It is YOUR lovemaking, too. Take your time!

Light flicking of the tongue, on her lips and yes even her anus. Put a finger in her V, rub her perinium and the anus too.
As others have said, take your time (well actually this is her time!)

perinium? what's that?

Obviously you guys like going down on girls... I've gone down on a couple and didn't really like it. Don't you guys think it's kinda nasty?

Nope. I am addicted to pussy :)

All sex is nasty dearie.. if you do it riight :)

this forum's gotten pretty hot.
i would go with asking her what she wants, cause it is her body. just be patient.
going down on a girl likely isn't much nastier than going down on a guy, really. you just have to have the right outlook. it's not gross if it's really pleasuring someone that you really want to pleasure. i'm with ganguro on this one.

I dont think its nasty if the girl's clean.

Its never nasty, unless you want it to be. ;)

It might be a combination of your tongue being too rough and her clit being too sensitive. One way to get around this issue is to use a bit of plastic, such as saran wrap, as a barrier between your tongue and her sensitive parts. The plastic sheet is useful because it allows you to directly, indirectly stimulate her clit. The plastic makes a rough tongue smooth.

My hubby should write a book, he's so good at it, and would go on for hours, if I would let him Gently approach her, get her hot, flick the tongue lightly on the sides of the clit, and up under the hood. You can suck on the clit lightly, too. If she says "ouch" just back off, and then reapproach Believe me, If you get good at going down on her, she will think you are the shiznat

ok, ok!

first, it is superior to lick the hey-nonny-nonny! enjoy this for yourself and for her pleasure!

next is to use your ears! for listen to her to say what makes the premium orgasm -- each is to have her own way of liking it!

enjoy the cunnilingus! here's to you!

Why thank you hon! ;)
(Shyla Loral is my wife, hehe)

Very true. Please get her to do this for you. Another variant is to have her hold your hand and have her masturbate using your finger; this will teach you how much pressure is OK.

Also, you can go into "robot command" mode: tell her you will simply do as she says, no more, no less. Might work, might not.

Damn, that's a great idea! Thanks!