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Thraeryn · 08-26-2003, 12:05 PM

giblfiz is a wise man.

My wife used to pick up guys at bars a lot when she was younger (why was I with her again?) and she always said that one of the tricks she'd use was to back up into a guy "accidentaly". You say something, he says something back with a slight bit of guilt but mainly a gratitude that he doesn't need an excuse to talk to you now.

The best pickup line I've ever used, and the one that has worked most on me, is "Hi." Just start talking! If he's not interested, it will become patently obvious very quickly. Men, despite what women might believe, are the ultimate snubbers/shunners.

Er, but we're not cruel or anything, for the most part. That's just me that's cruel.

fastom · 08-26-2003, 11:46 PM

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Originally posted by analog
1. Make moves of your own. Many of the truly decent guys out there are too shy or (because they're decent guys) aren't forward enough to engage a girl in conversation, especially since there are many girls who will shoot a man down with no respect, thus leaving him even MORE unwilling to try again. Once the approach has been made, most guys will see that as a great gesture, and will be a lot more forward themselves.

Damn, i wish girls actually read this stuff. I can't win for trying, i'm either too shy to say anything or i get shot down like scud missile if i do.

angela146 · 08-26-2003, 11:56 PM

The more I think about this, the more I come to a basic conclusion. This is going to hurt, guys.

We know most of this stuff. We know how to get your attention, we know how to come on to you and we know how to hook you. We just a) don't want to (we want you to do it) or b) are afraid of looking like tramps for having done it.

BTW: We know that men don't care about women being tramps. It's other women we're afraid of.

In my case, I "hooked" mine in the first month of freshman year. I still have him.

analog · 08-27-2003, 01:12 AM

congrats on your successful fishing methods, angela! lol but really, I understand the whole "what it looks like to other women" bit, I think it's a bit of an outdated thing- I would think in as a relatively progressive society we live in, you'd have friends who won't blush and faint and gossip because there is a woman who asserts herself with a man, or sees a guy she likes and goes after him.

Maybe that's something that's not going away... but it seems very antiquated as a way of thinking.

Thanks so much for all your input!

Thraeryn · 08-27-2003, 08:13 AM

Have you tried withering cruelty? Watching a woman verbally humiliate someone can be a real draw sometimes.

iandj777 · 08-27-2003, 01:59 PM

You know, reading all the girls comments in here (especially Averett's) I'm reminded of one thing that guys don't think about as much: If you let us know (subtley, somehow...it won't be the easiest to do) that you try to attract us and worry about what we'll think about how you look...yeah, we LOVE that. I mean don't make him think you're obsessed, of course. I don't remember who said it but we love it when you get flustered. It's not that we want you to be pissed, we just like to see that you care. Most of us think you just pick one of us out of the crowd and do whatever you want with us. From our perspective, it doesn't even look like you guys have to try. So let us know that you're actually as hot for us as we are for you...

motdakasha · 08-28-2003, 01:11 PM

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Originally posted by mystic511
List all the things you that a girl would have to do to win your heart.

I'm not a guy, but I would like to think that the best advice a guy would have to give to a girl who wanted to catch his attention is this: be yourself.

Sure, some guys don't like makeup (I'm on the same boat here), but girls who wear makeup shouldn't have to change the way they look or act to get a guy's attention. If she is the kind of girl who likes to wear makeup for whatever reason, then it's probably likely that there are other things to her that he will not like. Why, then, make someone change just for you. It seems rather selfish. People should like each other because they are true to themselves. People shouldn't have to be molded.

Prince · 08-28-2003, 01:18 PM

I find make-up to be a major turn-off. The same goes with implants and the like.

I hate fashion clowns. Buying new clothes every week is waste of money and plain vain.

I hate it when girls walk around in groups and giggle at everything in sight. It makes them look idiotic, and is plain annoying.

Don't play games. Don't quote "The Rules" to me and expect me to dance along. If you want to talk to me, pick up the phone. I'd like to be pursued and made to feel wanted every bit as much as you would.

Small gestures. Small words. God is in the details.

analog · 09-11-2003, 02:04 AM

delete me

08-27-2003, 01:59 PM	#46 (permalink)
iandj777 Upright Location: reston	You know, reading all the girls comments in here (especially Averett's) I'm reminded of one thing that guys don't think about as much: If you let us know (subtley, somehow...it won't be the easiest to do) that you try to attract us and worry about what we'll think about how you look...yeah, we LOVE that. I mean don't make him think you're obsessed, of course. I don't remember who said it but we love it when you get flustered. It's not that we want you to be pissed, we just like to see that you care. Most of us think you just pick one of us out of the crowd and do whatever you want with us. From our perspective, it doesn't even look like you guys have to try. So let us know that you're actually as hot for us as we are for you... __________________ I have nothing more to say

08-28-2003, 01:18 PM	#48 (permalink)
Prince /nɑndəsˈkrɪpt/ Location: LV-426	I find make-up to be a major turn-off. The same goes with implants and the like. I hate fashion clowns. Buying new clothes every week is waste of money and plain vain. I hate it when girls walk around in groups and giggle at everything in sight. It makes them look idiotic, and is plain annoying. Don't play games. Don't quote "The Rules" to me and expect me to dance along. If you want to talk to me, pick up the phone. I'd like to be pursued and made to feel wanted every bit as much as you would. Small gestures. Small words. God is in the details. __________________ Who is John Galt?

08-26-2003, 12:05 PM	#41 (permalink)
Thraeryn Loser	giblfiz is a wise man. My wife used to pick up guys at bars a lot when she was younger (why was I with her again?) and she always said that one of the tricks she'd use was to back up into a guy "accidentaly". You say something, he says something back with a slight bit of guilt but mainly a gratitude that he doesn't need an excuse to talk to you now. The best pickup line I've ever used, and the one that has worked most on me, is "Hi." Just start talking! If he's not interested, it will become patently obvious very quickly. Men, despite what women might believe, are the ultimate snubbers/shunners. Er, but we're not cruel or anything, for the most part. That's just me that's cruel.

08-26-2003, 11:56 PM	#43 (permalink)
angela146 Loser Location: Somewhere near Hubby	The more I think about this, the more I come to a basic conclusion. This is going to hurt, guys. We know most of this stuff. We know how to get your attention, we know how to come on to you and we know how to hook you. We just a) don't want to (we want you to do it) or b) are afraid of looking like tramps for having done it. BTW: We know that men don't care about women being tramps. It's other women we're afraid of. In my case, I "hooked" mine in the first month of freshman year. I still have him.

08-27-2003, 01:12 AM	#44 (permalink)
analog Banned	congrats on your successful fishing methods, angela! lol but really, I understand the whole "what it looks like to other women" bit, I think it's a bit of an outdated thing- I would think in as a relatively progressive society we live in, you'd have friends who won't blush and faint and gossip because there is a woman who asserts herself with a man, or sees a guy she likes and goes after him. Maybe that's something that's not going away... but it seems very antiquated as a way of thinking. Thanks so much for all your input!

08-27-2003, 08:13 AM	#45 (permalink)
Thraeryn Loser	Have you tried withering cruelty? Watching a woman verbally humiliate someone can be a real draw sometimes.

09-11-2003, 02:04 AM	#49 (permalink)
analog Banned	delete me