"Holding it In" While Masturbating
 

my friend told me it's possible to "hold it in" while jerking off, i.e., when you feel yourself start to come, hold it in as if you have ot take a piss but you also have to hold it in. ive tried once or twice, but not all that often becaus eim afriad i may cause some damage. does anyone know if i can cause some problems? id like some real knowledge here please, no speculation :)

It's never caused *me* any damage, but I cannot speak for others.

i sometimes hold it in, especially if with my girlfriend, to make the fun last a lil longer. You need to have pretty strong PC muscles to be able to do this.

These are basically kegel exercises. How much longer can you last if you practice doing there?

I can't really hold it in, but that is because I don't do many kegels. I should do a lot more.

Holding it in doesn't cause any damage that I'm aware of. In fact, it prolongs the orgasm and over time, you will build strength in the muscle and your times will increase. You will also noticed that when you hold it in, it will come out with greater force than if you let it go right away.

When you "hold it in" I assume you aren't squeezing your penis externally... if that's the case, go for it. If it needs to come out, it will.

My hubby does that all the time. Actually if he does it right, he can make it spurt *more* by pulsing it.

Holding it in can be harmful. Any time you prevent the natural flow of bodily fluid in a manner like that, you could cause damage. Now, there are two different methods of prolonging ejaculation. A) physically holding it in. B) stopping or reducing stimulation for a short period of time, to keep from reaching orgasm, while staying very close to it. I personally use method B quite often while masturbating. I've gone as long as 8 hours masturbating, while using that method. Generally, it seems to also increase the amount of semen ejaculated too. Also the force with which it comes out.

holy cow wtfz! 8 hours? my dick would fall off after an hour, maybe less. is there some secret besides your pausing, like ALOT of lube?

3 hours is the longest ive gone, stopping and starting, with that method you do hold it in to, becuase if you let it get right up the the point where you are about to cum, and hold it in, its like you cum a tiny tiny bit and it lets you go longer and longer.

i do this all the time when masturbating

I can hold it by contracting my Kegel muscle and lots of concentration. This allows me to have multiple orgasms.

My best friend has claimed he has been able to do this for quite some time. I have been trying, but haven't gotten it right yet. Maybe one day soon..

You're gonna make it pop.

The only risk I've ever heard from holding it is very minor. Mostly, it's good practice for learning control so you can last when you're with a girl later.

The one risk i know of from holding back is that you can have a retrograde ejactulation. It doesn't do any harm, but it defeats the purpose of holding back and can become a habit. What IS a retrograde ejaculation? It's when you come, but since it can't go out the front, it ends up in the bladder.

So again, the only risk here is developing a habit of ejaculating in a less satisfying manner. Small risk, and one that you can counteract. So yeah, practice holding it. Your lover(s) will be the happier for it. If you DO have a retrograde ejaculation, just don't do it again anytime soon. Don't form the habit, and you're all good.

I've held it in several times. Usually results in a, um, more copious amount when I come.

I've heard a theory that this happens to a lot of women, perhaps most women. The thought is that many/most of the women who do not "female ejaculate" are actually retrograding.

Which would I explain why I've always been told that women should pee after sex...
It differs from one to the next (as is always the case with women :D ) but women run the risk of bladder infections if they don't

Could holding it back have any relation to prostate cancer?
Studies show that masturbating helps prevent it. So maybe this has an influence as well?

*starts worshipping wtfz*

ooooh is that it! I thought it was just because of the um, internal massage :)

Yeah, the whole flexing of the prostate while ejaculating would greatly reduce the chances of developing cancer there (I knew it was useful :))
Not sure if holding back helps aswell.

Personally, rather than holding it in, like wtfz's B) method, I reduce stimulation while staying as close as possible to the brink. It's allowed me much more intense orgasms, lasting longer and the squirting gets pretty impressive :D
It's a common technique to sexual tantrica's and they have a bunch of tricks to 'decensitize' your tools so you can last longer.
I heard one guy describe orgasm as 'an electrical short-circuit' wich happens if you don't exert enough control over yourself. These guys have mental/emotional orgasms, but rarely ejaculate.
I've been practicing on that on and off for a while now and I'm starting to lean towards the idea that once I ejaculate, the fun is over- the real fun being in the hightened, mega-horny ubersphere that can only be reached by building up for a longer time; normally you'd climax way before that.
But it also happens that before I get there, I have something resembling a climax without ejaculating, after wich the sexdrive drops without fealing really satisfied. Bleh.
But maybe it is that retrograde ejaculate thingy, I'll check if I can feel some muscle contractions going on..

Btw, it can help to focus your attention at a spot at the base of the penis, somewhere between your balls and your anus. Supposedly that's the seat of the first chakra and the origin of the energy that you release through orgasm. Personally I'm not much for chakras but it does give me more full-body orgasms, with the waves rushing through your body.

Retrograde Ejaculation:
http://www.intelihealth.com/IH/ihtIH...339/10523.html
http://www.luckymojo.com/tknorthaustin.html

Q: Is it harmful when a guy pushes firmly on the spot right below his testicles to stop ejaculation?
A: http://www.ivillage.com/relationship..._77180,00.html

Holding it in doesn't require the use of a hand (unless you're using motakasha's method from above ... have to try that sometime). The same muscle that enables you to stop peeing is the same muscle that you flex to hold the ejaculation back. You can only hold it back for a couple of seconds, but its worth it.

Its the same muscle that you can flex when peeing to make it come out in high pressure bursts.

Practice makes perfect.

is this true? if so im set! :crazy: