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elfuq · 08-10-2003, 02:42 PM

So I'm a guy, and not a particularly big guy, but no 100 pound skinny-assed kid either. And my lover is a small woman, but pretty damn strong by the physical nature of her job. But jeez, I get beat up sometimes during sex. It's not a BDSM thing, or even a sexual dominance thing, we'll both take the lead at times. However I've walked out of her apartment with raw scratches all over my body, immense bruises on my chest, and lips raw from being bitten while kissing.

Damn girl!

I'm not complaining, mind. This is good sex. Just a little hard on my ageing body.

tenchi069 · 08-10-2003, 02:50 PM

Communicate and suggest she lighten up, or learn to accept a certain level of abuse.

Marius1 · 08-10-2003, 03:00 PM

Not my scene so only going by hearsay but don't some use a codeword to let the other know to calm down.
Choose the codeword right and it won't spoil the moment the same way as saying 'oi too rough!' would.

jadedgrin · 08-10-2003, 04:40 PM

yeah using a codeword is central in really rough sex, now you dont plan this out obviously , its just how you two do things together than it might be a good idea to exert force on her. so if she starts to scratch your chest ... grab her wrist (dont attack her!!!! just do it playfully and sexually, if she likes it rough, then she should like to feel your strength as well) remember you can be aggressive while being defensive

World's King · 08-10-2003, 05:14 PM

Sounds like a sweet girl.

You have fun with that.

LittleOralAnnie · 08-10-2003, 05:35 PM

Good sex, what's that? heh..

Communication is a must in this situation. Let her know your feelings on this. I'm sure she wouldn't have a problem lightening up that animal passion a little.

MSD · 08-10-2003, 06:01 PM

Sounds like you're having really good sex. If you get to the point that you need to slow down or take a break, use a pre-arranged safe-word. Something that won't be shouted out in passion, like "Armadillo," or "Rush Limbaugh." Even if the other doesn't want to stop, those two can really kill the mood.

daoist · 08-10-2003, 07:22 PM

sounds fun as hell, but if that were me i'd draw the line at biting. explaining visible wounds to the boss at the office would sorta suck. :-/

(but explaining them around the water cooler would rock)

hehe.

MacGnG · 08-10-2003, 07:25 PM

mmm sounds like what we all really want.

angela146 · 08-10-2003, 07:26 PM

Does she know that she is hurting you? Does she know her own strength? How experienced is she?

cheerios · 08-10-2003, 07:35 PM

sounds like fun, man

dont' forget an icepack for the day after

mew · 08-10-2003, 07:53 PM

Scratching and all the ...uh...love bites are actually (so Ive read) Markings that partners sometimes do to mark their territory..To say to others :"She/He's Mine..off limits". Very common thing, but I think your woman is really posessive..lol..jk..But yeah talk to her or at least cut ner nails and put a hannibal like mask on her..hahahaha! *sigh* seriousely...talk.

i8one2 · 08-10-2003, 08:09 PM

As long as it doesn't happen every time, I say its OK to have a few reminders, but if it happens on a regular basis, then limits should/must be established. I, at times, encourage this type of behavior to where her limits are.
P.S and as long as it doesn't show when wearing normal clothes.

otter · 08-10-2003, 08:18 PM

When I leave the bedroom covered in lightly bleeding scratches, that means it was damn good sex

RMarquis · 08-10-2003, 10:46 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by elfuq
So I'm a guy, and not a particularly big guy, but no 100 pound skinny-assed kid either. And my lover is a small woman, but pretty damn strong by the physical nature of her job. But jeez, I get beat up sometimes during sex. It's not a BDSM thing, or even a sexual dominance thing, we'll both take the lead at times. However I've walked out of her apartment with raw scratches all over my body, immense bruises on my chest, and lips raw from being bitten while kissing.

Damn girl!

I'm not complaining, mind. This is good sex. Just a little hard on my ageing body.

you are a lucky man!

isandro · 08-11-2003, 05:15 AM

Have you considered bondage?

s8ins child · 08-11-2003, 05:47 AM

Get pumpin sum iron matey but dont tell her and soon enough you can smack her ass and give her some of the pain she gave you!

elfuq · 08-11-2003, 09:46 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by isandro
Have you considered bondage?

Not my cup of tea, me dear.

-Ever- · 08-12-2003, 12:23 PM

I've been extremely turned on by scratching and biting before. I'd actually like to find someone to take it a notch up with!

Abigor · 08-12-2003, 04:51 PM

Call me insane, but there would be nothing I would like more then to senselessly beat the crap out of someone while having sex with them.

Jonsgirl · 08-13-2003, 12:49 AM

Sounds good to me! Every healthy relationship needs some way to release some tension. Rough sex beats the hell out of fighting.

Markaz · 08-13-2003, 02:13 AM

I don't like the rough stuff, I like like passionate sex...I'm like the only guy who doesn't want it rough?!?!

08-10-2003, 02:42 PM	#1 (permalink)
elfuq Insane Location: San Francisco	Rather violent sex So I'm a guy, and not a particularly big guy, but no 100 pound skinny-assed kid either. And my lover is a small woman, but pretty damn strong by the physical nature of her job. But jeez, I get beat up sometimes during sex. It's not a BDSM thing, or even a sexual dominance thing, we'll both take the lead at times. However I've walked out of her apartment with raw scratches all over my body, immense bruises on my chest, and lips raw from being bitten while kissing. Damn girl! I'm not complaining, mind. This is good sex. Just a little hard on my ageing body.

08-10-2003, 02:50 PM	#2 (permalink)
tenchi069 Lost Location: One step closer to the padded cell...	Communicate and suggest she lighten up, or learn to accept a certain level of abuse. __________________ ERROR- PLBSAK Problem Lies Between Seat and Keyboard.

08-10-2003, 04:40 PM	#4 (permalink)
jadedgrin Psycho Location: eh	yeah using a codeword is central in really rough sex, now you dont plan this out obviously , its just how you two do things together than it might be a good idea to exert force on her. so if she starts to scratch your chest ... grab her wrist (dont attack her!!!! just do it playfully and sexually, if she likes it rough, then she should like to feel your strength as well) remember you can be aggressive while being defensive __________________ what puts a smile on your face??

08-10-2003, 05:14 PM	#5 (permalink)
World's King Here Location: Denver City Denver	Sounds like a sweet girl. You have fun with that. __________________ heavy is the head that wears the crown

08-10-2003, 07:22 PM	#8 (permalink)
daoist Crazy	sounds fun as hell, but if that were me i'd draw the line at biting. explaining visible wounds to the boss at the office would sorta suck. :-/ (but explaining them around the water cooler would rock) hehe. __________________ I:IV:XV

08-10-2003, 03:00 PM	#3 (permalink)
Marius1 Loser Location: Wales	Not my scene so only going by hearsay but don't some use a codeword to let the other know to calm down. Choose the codeword right and it won't spoil the moment the same way as saying 'oi too rough!' would.

08-10-2003, 05:35 PM	#6 (permalink)
LittleOralAnnie Banned	Good sex, what's that? heh.. Communication is a must in this situation. Let her know your feelings on this. I'm sure she wouldn't have a problem lightening up that animal passion a little.

08-10-2003, 06:01 PM	#7 (permalink)
MSD The sky calls to us ... Super Moderator Location: CT	Sounds like you're having really good sex. If you get to the point that you need to slow down or take a break, use a pre-arranged safe-word. Something that won't be shouted out in passion, like "Armadillo," or "Rush Limbaugh." Even if the other doesn't want to stop, those two can really kill the mood.

08-10-2003, 07:25 PM	#9 (permalink)
MacGnG Know Where!	mmm sounds like what we all really want.

08-10-2003, 07:26 PM	#10 (permalink)
angela146 Loser Location: Somewhere near Hubby	Does she know that she is hurting you? Does she know her own strength? How experienced is she?

08-10-2003, 07:35 PM	#11 (permalink)
cheerios Banned Location: 'bout 2 feet from my iMac	sounds like fun, man dont' forget an icepack for the day after

08-10-2003, 07:53 PM	#12 (permalink)
mew Psycho Location: Canada	Scratching and all the ...uh...love bites are actually (so Ive read) Markings that partners sometimes do to mark their territory..To say to others :"She/He's Mine..off limits". Very common thing, but I think your woman is really posessive..lol..jk..But yeah talk to her or at least cut ner nails and put a hannibal like mask on her..hahahaha! sigh seriousely...talk.

08-10-2003, 08:09 PM	#13 (permalink)
i8one2 COMPLETED and A TRAINER Location: BEAN_TOWN	As long as it doesn't happen every time, I say its OK to have a few reminders, but if it happens on a regular basis, then limits should/must be established. I, at times, encourage this type of behavior to where her limits are. P.S and as long as it doesn't show when wearing normal clothes. __________________ LEATHER, LATEX and LACE "SSC" "Nothing That Gives Pleasure is Bad" Quality is for those who know what they want and are at peace with what they have. "S/M is about emotion; the erotic tension between my impulse toward something and my resistance against it."-- Virginia Barker

08-10-2003, 08:18 PM	#14 (permalink)
otter Upright	When I leave the bedroom covered in lightly bleeding scratches, that means it was damn good sex

08-11-2003, 05:15 AM	#16 (permalink)
isandro Crazy Location: Groningen, Netherlands	Have you considered bondage? __________________ -Life, liberty and the pursuit of hamburgers.

08-12-2003, 12:23 PM	#19 (permalink)
-Ever- Junkie Location: San Francisco	I've been extremely turned on by scratching and biting before. I'd actually like to find someone to take it a notch up with! __________________ Embracing the goddess energy within yourselves will bring all of you to a new understanding and valuing of life. A vision that inspires you to live and love on planet Earth. Like a priceless jewel buried in dark layers of soil and stone, Earth radiates her brilliant beauty into the caverns of space and time. Perhaps you are aware of those who watch over your home And experience of this place to visit and play with reality. You are becoming aware of yourself as a gamemaster... --Acknowledge your weaknesses--

08-11-2003, 05:47 AM	#17 (permalink)
s8ins child Tilted	Get pumpin sum iron matey but dont tell her and soon enough you can smack her ass and give her some of the pain she gave you!

08-12-2003, 04:51 PM	#20 (permalink)
Abigor Upright	Call me insane, but there would be nothing I would like more then to senselessly beat the crap out of someone while having sex with them.

08-13-2003, 12:49 AM	#21 (permalink)
Jonsgirl Semi-Atomic Location: Home.	Sounds good to me! Every healthy relationship needs some way to release some tension. Rough sex beats the hell out of fighting. __________________ Someday, someone will best me. But it won't be today, and it won't be you.

08-13-2003, 02:13 AM	#22 (permalink)
Markaz Tilted	I don't like the rough stuff, I like like passionate sex...I'm like the only guy who doesn't want it rough?!?! __________________ Tu madre está muy sabrosa