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s8ins child · 08-09-2003, 01:59 PM

im severly worried that my girlfriend is too tight as we have been trying to hav sex 4 the last 3 months and it still wont fit it,i hav tryed buying her dildos but she jst dsnt get the hint,i dnt want to hurt her feelings in anyway but i wudnt mind havin a decent sex life with her as we hav been goin out 4 about 7months now.can u help with anyother suggestions?

sltkr2000 · 08-09-2003, 02:18 PM

well if she is vey tight, i think haveing sex with time will solve the problem, remember not all women like dildos, you think they do, but that is not true.

so personaly talk to her about it, I mean I would not mind a tight one, better sex I think. it might hurt her a little in th ebegining, but it should become easer with time.

Pellaz · 08-09-2003, 02:56 PM

I had a friend who got married as a virgin. On his wedding night, he discovered that his new, also virginal wife had this problem. It took months for them to sort it out. Moral of the story is, it could always be worse.

That said, her gyno can give her the best advice. Keep trying, make sure she's relaxed and feels no pressure. You can't have too much lube. At seven months in, you should be able to determine if there's a psychological hangup from her past.

Intercourse is great, but remember that it's not the be all end all of sex. Play, explore, laugh, and have fun together, and it will happen in it's due course.

Aladdin Sane · 08-09-2003, 03:54 PM

When you try to penetrate her and it won't go in, what do you say to each other?
You need to communicate. You need to really get her worked up before you try to have intercourse. And you could probably use some lube.

How old is your girlfriend? Is she a small girl? Are you extra big?

air45 · 08-09-2003, 03:59 PM

i have three words to type to you, my chum friend: astroglide.

this is the superior slippery thing for your swollen member. it will slip and slide you inside her warmness and you will explode with delight and she will for sure have the come.

Mael · 08-09-2003, 04:29 PM

1. lube up
2. flip her over
3. put it up the out hole
4. say "bitch, tight enough for you?"
5. don't listen to me, i'm a moron.

globegate · 08-09-2003, 06:20 PM

MAEL-
you took the words out of my mouth. As the ladies man says- how would you like to do it in the butt?

Honestly bro- Either you are a stallion, or you just need to be patient (cliche but the only way). Plan on taking like 20-30 minutes of oral action to get her muscles relaxed, then lube up and go for broke.

Two options here. 1) Force that thing in her and pop that cherry. Maybe her heymen is still intact and is causing penetration problems. 2) Like sports- low and slow. dont try any kama sutra shit on her, just plain ol missionary and take your damn time son. If this still doesn't work, send her ass to the gyno.
Happy Humping.

sltkr2000 · 08-09-2003, 08:42 PM

some very tight virgins might bruse you tip. so do use sex wax that will reduce the problem.

hobo · 08-09-2003, 09:08 PM

Wow, I never realised that a problem like this existed. That kinda worries me. What is the standard treatment for this if it is that serious?

skysooner · 08-09-2003, 09:10 PM

My wife was that way on our wedding night. It led to a trip to the emergency room which was rather embarassing for all. Seriously, the only way this is going to improve is with lots of foreplay, lube and time.

angela146 · 08-09-2003, 09:17 PM

Some women have trouble *relaxing* the PC muscle. For them, it's tight all the time. Kegel exercises where you squeeze and relax can help to develop the ability to relax it and allow penetration.

Nizzle · 08-09-2003, 09:53 PM

This isn't really helpful, just an anectode. I dated a girl once and before we had sex the first time, she said she worried that she was "shaped funny" or maybe too small. I dismissed it as shyness or paranoia, but indeed she was so tight it was intensely uncomfortable and painful. She definitely was not virginal.

s8ins child · 08-10-2003, 07:15 AM

cheers guys that really helped,i shall try and use all the methods stated above but mael i might miss urs out for a while lol

Silvy · 08-10-2003, 07:27 AM

Please, if you would... share your experience...
I would like to know how this turns out

jadedgrin · 08-10-2003, 04:32 PM

hmm you have an awkard there, well i dont have direct exp with this but more than lube you should concentrate on her being especially aroused and comfortable, if she gets really nervous .. than you know how things are going to turn out, but talk to her and remain comunicating with her, make sure you both feel that foreplay isnt some kind of chore, you should be genuiingly enjoying yourself

angela146 · 08-10-2003, 06:06 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Silvy
Please, if you would... share your experience...
I would like to know how this turns out

Oh, I bet you would ... Strictly in the interests of science, of course...

MSD · 08-10-2003, 06:07 PM

Vaginisimus is a sexual condition in which the vaginal muscles tighten as an involuntary reflex in reaction to a penetration attempt. It is usually the result of the subconscious mind acting to prevent a repeat of prior events such as rape or molestation. It can take months to recover, and therapy to deal with the cause may be necessary.

You need to talk to her, and find out if she's reacting to something in the past that she hasn't told you about.

Charlatan · 08-11-2003, 06:45 AM

Two words....

oral sex.

If you can get her to orgasm she might be little more relaxed...

Silvy · 08-11-2003, 07:34 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by angela146
Oh, I bet you would ... Strictly in the interests of science, of course...

Actually... no. But I'm not getting into that now

iceman2032 · 08-11-2003, 09:10 AM

buy some astroglide

08-09-2003, 01:59 PM	#1 (permalink)
s8ins child Tilted	tight girlfriend! im severly worried that my girlfriend is too tight as we have been trying to hav sex 4 the last 3 months and it still wont fit it,i hav tryed buying her dildos but she jst dsnt get the hint,i dnt want to hurt her feelings in anyway but i wudnt mind havin a decent sex life with her as we hav been goin out 4 about 7months now.can u help with anyother suggestions?

08-09-2003, 02:56 PM	#3 (permalink)
Pellaz Addict Location: Texas	I had a friend who got married as a virgin. On his wedding night, he discovered that his new, also virginal wife had this problem. It took months for them to sort it out. Moral of the story is, it could always be worse. That said, her gyno can give her the best advice. Keep trying, make sure she's relaxed and feels no pressure. You can't have too much lube. At seven months in, you should be able to determine if there's a psychological hangup from her past. Intercourse is great, but remember that it's not the be all end all of sex. Play, explore, laugh, and have fun together, and it will happen in it's due course. __________________ " ' Big Mouth. Remember it took three of you to kill me. A god, a boy, and, last and least, a hero.' "

08-09-2003, 03:54 PM	#4 (permalink)
Aladdin Sane Degenerate Location: San Marvelous	When you try to penetrate her and it won't go in, what do you say to each other? You need to communicate. You need to really get her worked up before you try to have intercourse. And you could probably use some lube. How old is your girlfriend? Is she a small girl? Are you extra big? __________________ Ceterum censeo Carthaginem esse delendam.

08-09-2003, 06:20 PM	#7 (permalink)
globegate Upright Location: Los Angeles	MAEL- you took the words out of my mouth. As the ladies man says- how would you like to do it in the butt? Honestly bro- Either you are a stallion, or you just need to be patient (cliche but the only way). Plan on taking like 20-30 minutes of oral action to get her muscles relaxed, then lube up and go for broke. Two options here. 1) Force that thing in her and pop that cherry. Maybe her heymen is still intact and is causing penetration problems. 2) Like sports- low and slow. dont try any kama sutra shit on her, just plain ol missionary and take your damn time son. If this still doesn't work, send her ass to the gyno. Happy Humping. __________________ Please kids, remember the kittens. Kitten slaughter is at an all time high. I you post on the Boobs board, contribute to the TFP or the ASPCA/ Humane Society. Only then can we end the sensless slaughter of kittens.

08-09-2003, 09:53 PM	#12 (permalink)
Nizzle God-Hating Liberal Location: Silicon Valley, CA	This isn't really helpful, just an anectode. I dated a girl once and before we had sex the first time, she said she worried that she was "shaped funny" or maybe too small. I dismissed it as shyness or paranoia, but indeed she was so tight it was intensely uncomfortable and painful. She definitely was not virginal. __________________ Nizzle

08-09-2003, 02:18 PM	#2 (permalink)
sltkr2000 Upright	well if she is vey tight, i think haveing sex with time will solve the problem, remember not all women like dildos, you think they do, but that is not true. so personaly talk to her about it, I mean I would not mind a tight one, better sex I think. it might hurt her a little in th ebegining, but it should become easer with time.

08-09-2003, 03:59 PM	#5 (permalink)
air45 Loser Location: Midwest	i have three words to type to you, my chum friend: astroglide. this is the superior slippery thing for your swollen member. it will slip and slide you inside her warmness and you will explode with delight and she will for sure have the come.

08-09-2003, 04:29 PM	#6 (permalink)
Mael Banned Location: The Hell I Created.	1. lube up 2. flip her over 3. put it up the out hole 4. say "bitch, tight enough for you?" 5. don't listen to me, i'm a moron.

08-09-2003, 08:42 PM	#8 (permalink)
sltkr2000 Upright	some very tight virgins might bruse you tip. so do use sex wax that will reduce the problem.

08-09-2003, 09:08 PM	#9 (permalink)
hobo Archangel of Change	Wow, I never realised that a problem like this existed. That kinda worries me. What is the standard treatment for this if it is that serious?

08-09-2003, 09:10 PM	#10 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	My wife was that way on our wedding night. It led to a trip to the emergency room which was rather embarassing for all. Seriously, the only way this is going to improve is with lots of foreplay, lube and time.

08-09-2003, 09:17 PM	#11 (permalink)
angela146 Loser Location: Somewhere near Hubby	Some women have trouble relaxing the PC muscle. For them, it's tight all the time. Kegel exercises where you squeeze and relax can help to develop the ability to relax it and allow penetration.

08-10-2003, 07:15 AM	#13 (permalink)
s8ins child Tilted	cheers guys that really helped,i shall try and use all the methods stated above but mael i might miss urs out for a while lol

08-10-2003, 07:27 AM	#14 (permalink)
Silvy paranoid Location: The Netherlands	Please, if you would... share your experience... I would like to know how this turns out __________________ "Do not kill. Do not rape. Do not steal. These are principles which every man of every faith can embrace. " - Murphy MacManus (Boondock Saints)

08-10-2003, 04:32 PM	#15 (permalink)
jadedgrin Psycho Location: eh	hmm you have an awkard there, well i dont have direct exp with this but more than lube you should concentrate on her being especially aroused and comfortable, if she gets really nervous .. than you know how things are going to turn out, but talk to her and remain comunicating with her, make sure you both feel that foreplay isnt some kind of chore, you should be genuiingly enjoying yourself __________________ what puts a smile on your face??

08-10-2003, 06:07 PM	#17 (permalink)
MSD The sky calls to us ... Super Moderator Location: CT	Vaginisimus is a sexual condition in which the vaginal muscles tighten as an involuntary reflex in reaction to a penetration attempt. It is usually the result of the subconscious mind acting to prevent a repeat of prior events such as rape or molestation. It can take months to recover, and therapy to deal with the cause may be necessary. You need to talk to her, and find out if she's reacting to something in the past that she hasn't told you about.

08-11-2003, 06:45 AM	#18 (permalink)
Charlatan Getting it. Super Moderator Location: Lion City	Two words.... oral sex. If you can get her to orgasm she might be little more relaxed... __________________ "My hands are on fire. Hands are on fire. Ain't got no more time for all you charlatans and liars." - Old Man Luedecke

08-11-2003, 09:10 AM	#20 (permalink)
iceman2032 Crazy	buy some astroglide