So what exactly is 'great' sex? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

gduventree · 07-24-2003, 10:35 AM

I've been wondering this for awhile as it's not something that comes up in polite conversation.

I realize this is a very subjective matter and what is great for some people may be ho-hum for others.

What I want to hear is everyone's opinions on the matter so that maybe I can learn a thing or two from everyone else's experiences.

For me, I just got married after being together for 5 years. We've been sexually intimate for 4 and a half years already. At the start things weren't so satisfying for her because we were still learning the ropes about how to please each other and using birth control and everything. After a year we really started to find our rhythm and I can bring her to orgasm practically everytime now, although I still have a few off days.

We are both each other's first lover so neither of us really has anything to compare to. All I know is I really enjoy sex and I'm pretty sure she does too. It isn't always great but sometimes we can both get in the 'mood' and things are really great.

So what's 'great' sex for you?

johnnymysto · 07-24-2003, 10:51 AM

I hear you man, and I think we're in the same boat. I've been married for almost 4 years, and we were both each other's first. When we do it, it's good, but I don't think she's ever had an orgasm. She has told me this. She enjoys it, but I guess we're still working on it. Well, really we've only been active since November due to earlier complications. But anyway, the point is that we both enjoy it, but I know it could be better. To me, great sex would be both of us being completely into it for at least an hour, both coming to amazing orgasm, and being totally worn out afterwards. Whaddya think?

tinfoil · 07-24-2003, 11:02 AM

If both my wife and I enjoy it, it's 'great'.

Donkeypuncher · 07-24-2003, 11:03 AM

It's anything that makes us both say, "wow" afterwards. I can get a serious workout in a 15-minute session and I've also gone the better part of an entire weekend (stopping for occasional food and sleep) and they are both great.

There are specific things that make it "great" for me, but I don't think enumerating them does the question any good. If you're both enjoying it, it's great sex.

RAGEAngel9 · 07-24-2003, 11:03 AM

Well I'll toss my 2 cents in.
I think "great sex" is anytime both people come out completely satisfied. Time and # of orgasms are not necessary parts of the equation.
While going on for an hour is kool(oh yes it is), it is not at all necesary.
I've been stuck in the couldn't get her to the O before. Not good for the ego, but it's still possible for both of you to be satisfied.
Remember PORN IS NOT REAL!!!!!

sportsrule101 · 07-24-2003, 11:05 AM

where is no longer a need for anything more

motdakasha · 07-24-2003, 11:10 AM

If I orgasm hard enough to be too exhausted to go to the bathroom postcoital, and instead I roll over and fall dead asleep: that, my friend, is great sex.

(p.s. I'm not a man.)

Donkeypuncher · 07-24-2003, 11:17 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by RAGEAngel9
Remember PORN IS NOT REAL!!!!!

Speak for youself, friend.

lurkette · 07-24-2003, 11:18 AM

My definition of great sex is sex that transports you - makes you forget everything but the person you're with and the sensations you're feeling. Being in that moment, totally into each other, orgasm or no it's very fulfilling.

johnnymysto · 07-24-2003, 11:19 AM

motdakasha's got the idea!!! how do you do that? I'd like my wife to experience that!

Slims · 07-24-2003, 08:03 PM

Too Much Information

iscar · 07-24-2003, 11:04 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Greg700
Great sex is when I just lay in bed afterwards with my arm around my girlfriend with a tremendous feeling of satisfaction and contentment.

Exactly - and man is that a good feeling

maximus · 07-24-2003, 11:24 PM

anything with my ex gf was great sex, as it is for everybody when they find that 1 special person.

GoldenOuroboros · 07-25-2003, 01:23 AM

yep yep...
Sex with the person you love!!

Fallon · 07-25-2003, 05:13 AM

The key to great sex I think is it has to be with someone that you have a deep emotional bond with. Sure, I've had sex with a couple good looking girls, but looking back on my great sexual encounters, those weren't in there. Some of my best ones have had very deep emotional bonds, and I got satisfaction knowing that I was pleasing her. Completely losing yourself in what you are doing I think is also another good sign. I remember many times looking at the clock at the beginning and seeing the clock say 6, then finish up at 8 and feeling like we were only going at it for half an hour.

xtatisizm · 07-25-2003, 06:16 PM

great sex is enjoying yourself and the person your with.

sub zero · 07-25-2003, 06:50 PM

I will consider it great sex if...

I walk out of the bedroom staggering, head spinning, and thirsty. As long as I can physically do NOTHING afterwards, then we've done our job (i.e. had great sex).

If I can muster up enough energy to walk to the next room casually and without any complications, that means we're A) not done yet or B) not done yet.

Also, if I want to consider it great sex, we must have enjoyed a minimum of 3 releases a piece.

Needless to say, I've yet to have <i>that</i> version of great sex. Someday ... I will have a night with a girl (hopefully my current lady friend) who can endure, or will try to endure, the extent of sex that I'd like to experience.

07-26-2003, 01:36 AM

Great sex is definitely not what I just had.

raeanna74 · 07-26-2003, 05:35 AM

To me great sex seems to give me a feeling that my partner and I have had a connection on an emotional level as well as the physcial. I don't even need to cum to feel like the sex was great. If both partners are truely focused on each other and not on getting themselves just to cum then for me the sex is great.

tenchi069 · 07-26-2003, 06:25 AM

Great sex is when she is completely satisfied and the thought of moving after doesn't get past the thought stage

rogue49 · 07-26-2003, 07:20 AM

I'd think a good indicator would be having your eyes roll back into your head.

World's King · 07-26-2003, 11:16 AM

My first response was that it's great if I don't have to pay for it and don't have to worry about the little man getting sick but that's not what you were looking for so...

It's great sex for me if we both pass out afterwards in a sea of cum, sweat, blood and tears. I want pain and pleasure at the same time... hair pulling, choking, teeth marks and everything that goes along with being sick and twisted. I want her to scream for more and push me away at the same time. It's only great if you lose track of time and never want it to end.

ssander9 · 07-26-2003, 02:47 PM

Great sex to me is when it's over you AND your significant other are both satisfied

raeanna74 · 07-27-2003, 11:07 AM

"t's great sex for me if we both pass out afterwards in a sea of cum, sweat, blood and tears. I want pain and pleasure at the same time... hair pulling, choking, teeth marks and everything that goes along with being sick and twisted. I want her to scream for more and push me away at the same time. It's only great if you lose track of time and never want it to end."

I'll have to amend my first definition of great sex. World's King's description sounds so very appealing and maybe even more so than my previous definition.

thedrake · 07-27-2003, 11:10 AM

If is great sex when both partners cum at the same time and afterward they can't move the rest of the night, except if they are having sex again!!!

motdakasha · 07-27-2003, 01:31 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by johnnymysto
motdakasha's got the idea!!! how do you do that? I'd like my wife to experience that!

A skilled giver is a must.

07-24-2003, 10:35 AM	#1 (permalink)
gduventree Crazy Location: Vancouver	So what exactly is 'great' sex? I've been wondering this for awhile as it's not something that comes up in polite conversation. I realize this is a very subjective matter and what is great for some people may be ho-hum for others. What I want to hear is everyone's opinions on the matter so that maybe I can learn a thing or two from everyone else's experiences. For me, I just got married after being together for 5 years. We've been sexually intimate for 4 and a half years already. At the start things weren't so satisfying for her because we were still learning the ropes about how to please each other and using birth control and everything. After a year we really started to find our rhythm and I can bring her to orgasm practically everytime now, although I still have a few off days. We are both each other's first lover so neither of us really has anything to compare to. All I know is I really enjoy sex and I'm pretty sure she does too. It isn't always great but sometimes we can both get in the 'mood' and things are really great. So what's 'great' sex for you?

07-24-2003, 10:51 AM	#2 (permalink)
johnnymysto Overreactor Location: South Ca'lina	I hear you man, and I think we're in the same boat. I've been married for almost 4 years, and we were both each other's first. When we do it, it's good, but I don't think she's ever had an orgasm. She has told me this. She enjoys it, but I guess we're still working on it. Well, really we've only been active since November due to earlier complications. But anyway, the point is that we both enjoy it, but I know it could be better. To me, great sex would be both of us being completely into it for at least an hour, both coming to amazing orgasm, and being totally worn out afterwards. Whaddya think? __________________ "I'm disinclined to acquiesce to your request." - Capt. Barbossa

07-24-2003, 11:02 AM	#3 (permalink)
tinfoil Fucking Hostile Location: Springford, ON, Canada	If both my wife and I enjoy it, it's 'great'. __________________ Get off your fuckin cross. We need the fuckin space to nail the next fool martyr.

07-24-2003, 11:03 AM	#4 (permalink)
Donkeypuncher Psycho Location: Pasadena, CA	It's anything that makes us both say, "wow" afterwards. I can get a serious workout in a 15-minute session and I've also gone the better part of an entire weekend (stopping for occasional food and sleep) and they are both great. There are specific things that make it "great" for me, but I don't think enumerating them does the question any good. If you're both enjoying it, it's great sex. __________________ "take me down, little Susie, take me down I know you think you're the Queen of The Underground"

07-24-2003, 11:05 AM	#6 (permalink)
sportsrule101 Insane	where is no longer a need for anything more __________________ winning isn't everything but losing isn't anything

07-24-2003, 11:03 AM	#5 (permalink)
RAGEAngel9 Insane Location: Vermont	Well I'll toss my 2 cents in. I think "great sex" is anytime both people come out completely satisfied. Time and # of orgasms are not necessary parts of the equation. While going on for an hour is kool(oh yes it is), it is not at all necesary. I've been stuck in the couldn't get her to the O before. Not good for the ego, but it's still possible for both of you to be satisfied. Remember PORN IS NOT REAL!!!!!

07-24-2003, 11:10 AM	#7 (permalink)
motdakasha Hiya Puddin'! Miss me? Location: Silicon Valley, CA	If I orgasm hard enough to be too exhausted to go to the bathroom postcoital, and instead I roll over and fall dead asleep: that, my friend, is great sex. (p.s. I'm not a man.) __________________ =^-^= motdakasha =^-^= Just Google It. BA Psychology & Photography (I'm not going psychoanalyze you nor will I let you cry on my shoulder. Have a nice day.)

07-24-2003, 11:18 AM	#9 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	My definition of great sex is sex that transports you - makes you forget everything but the person you're with and the sensations you're feeling. Being in that moment, totally into each other, orgasm or no it's very fulfilling. __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

07-24-2003, 11:19 AM	#10 (permalink)
johnnymysto Overreactor Location: South Ca'lina	motdakasha's got the idea!!! how do you do that? I'd like my wife to experience that! __________________ "I'm disinclined to acquiesce to your request." - Capt. Barbossa

07-24-2003, 08:03 PM	#11 (permalink)
Slims Eccentric insomniac Location: North Carolina	Too Much Information __________________ "Socialism is a philosophy of failure, the creed of ignorance, and the gospel of envy, its inherent virtue is the equal sharing of misery." - Winston Churchill "All men dream: but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act out their dream with open eyes, to make it possible." Seven Pillars of Wisdom, T.E. Lawrence Last edited by Slims; 12-20-2010 at 06:40 PM..

07-24-2003, 11:24 PM	#13 (permalink)
maximus Crazy Location: Pa	anything with my ex gf was great sex, as it is for everybody when they find that 1 special person. __________________ i don't want to be lonely, i just want to be alone.

07-25-2003, 01:23 AM	#14 (permalink)
GoldenOuroboros The Cheshire Grin... Location: An Aussie Outback	yep yep... Sex with the person you love!! __________________ Can you see me grin grin grrriiiiinnnning?!

07-25-2003, 05:13 AM	#15 (permalink)
Fallon Junkie Location: RI	The key to great sex I think is it has to be with someone that you have a deep emotional bond with. Sure, I've had sex with a couple good looking girls, but looking back on my great sexual encounters, those weren't in there. Some of my best ones have had very deep emotional bonds, and I got satisfaction knowing that I was pleasing her. Completely losing yourself in what you are doing I think is also another good sign. I remember many times looking at the clock at the beginning and seeing the clock say 6, then finish up at 8 and feeling like we were only going at it for half an hour.

07-25-2003, 06:16 PM	#16 (permalink)
xtatisizm Upright	great sex is enjoying yourself and the person your with. __________________ Nuclear War, its all fun and Games untill someone grows an eye

07-25-2003, 06:50 PM	#17 (permalink)
sub zero Addict Location: The one state that doesn't have black outs: TEXAS BABY!!!	I will consider it great sex if... I walk out of the bedroom staggering, head spinning, and thirsty. As long as I can physically do NOTHING afterwards, then we've done our job (i.e. had great sex). If I can muster up enough energy to walk to the next room casually and without any complications, that means we're A) not done yet or B) not done yet. Also, if I want to consider it great sex, we must have enjoyed a minimum of 3 releases a piece. Needless to say, I've yet to have <i>that</i> version of great sex. Someday ... I will have a night with a girl (hopefully my current lady friend) who can endure, or will try to endure, the extent of sex that I'd like to experience. __________________ Did you Google it yet? Join the TFP Typing team!!

07-26-2003, 01:36 AM	#18 (permalink)
LuFega Guest	Great sex is definitely not what I just had.

07-26-2003, 05:35 AM	#19 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	To me great sex seems to give me a feeling that my partner and I have had a connection on an emotional level as well as the physcial. I don't even need to cum to feel like the sex was great. If both partners are truely focused on each other and not on getting themselves just to cum then for me the sex is great. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.

07-26-2003, 06:25 AM	#20 (permalink)
tenchi069 Lost Location: One step closer to the padded cell...	Great sex is when she is completely satisfied and the thought of moving after doesn't get past the thought stage

07-26-2003, 07:20 AM	#21 (permalink)
rogue49 Loser	I'd think a good indicator would be having your eyes roll back into your head.

07-26-2003, 11:16 AM	#22 (permalink)
World's King Here Location: Denver City Denver	My first response was that it's great if I don't have to pay for it and don't have to worry about the little man getting sick but that's not what you were looking for so... It's great sex for me if we both pass out afterwards in a sea of cum, sweat, blood and tears. I want pain and pleasure at the same time... hair pulling, choking, teeth marks and everything that goes along with being sick and twisted. I want her to scream for more and push me away at the same time. It's only great if you lose track of time and never want it to end. __________________ heavy is the head that wears the crown

07-26-2003, 02:47 PM	#23 (permalink)
ssander9 Amplitude Modulator Location: US	Great sex to me is when it's over you AND your significant other are both satisfied __________________ I never said you had to.

07-27-2003, 11:07 AM	#24 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	"t's great sex for me if we both pass out afterwards in a sea of cum, sweat, blood and tears. I want pain and pleasure at the same time... hair pulling, choking, teeth marks and everything that goes along with being sick and twisted. I want her to scream for more and push me away at the same time. It's only great if you lose track of time and never want it to end." I'll have to amend my first definition of great sex. World's King's description sounds so very appealing and maybe even more so than my previous definition. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.

07-27-2003, 11:10 AM	#25 (permalink)
thedrake Banned Location: Iowa	If is great sex when both partners cum at the same time and afterward they can't move the rest of the night, except if they are having sex again!!!