Finnaly me and my wife has sucess.
 

Well after some trying we finally got my wife to enjoy sex again. I used the detane lotion which seems to work. I think it also helped numb my wife a little with all the vagianl tearing she had when she had my son.

The only downside is now my wife wants it every night. Or at least the past 4 nights. I really could use some sleep now.

And what is funny is this is some of the best sex we had had in our 5 years of marriage. I guess something clicked.

Thanks everyone for their input.

thats awesome dude!

how are you losing sleep after sex? does it wake you up?

my wife just had our first son.....it's now 17 days later and i'm already dieing for some lovn'.

how long it take u guys to get back in the groove? 6 weeks?

my wife didn't tear.....well she was going to so they helped her on that so i'm expecting some time delay.

any words of wisedom on this?

<i>The only downside is now my wife wants it every night.</i>

Yeah, we all feel for ya.

i guess i ws lucky with my wifes two pregnancies....she was horny as hell the whole time, adn was willing to give head and jsut about anything to make me happy (love that insecurity) and then after she was cool with giving me head and just playing with her till she got all healed up...
oh yeah, and theres always anal too.....she liked that alot

hahaha!!
Sounds like she wants to catch up ;)
Good on you mate..
Maybe try telling her.. but you want to word it in a way that she doesn't feel unwanted...

Re: Finnaly me and my wife has sucess.
 

<shaking head> Did you just say that your wife wanting sex every night... is the "downside"? Dude, suck it up; you're gonna give the rest of us a bad name. =)

I swear, you get one camp who bitches that marriage is a death sentence because they'll never get any ever again and now, this.

I'm glad you guys got the issues worked out... tell people why you have circles under your eyes... with a big ol
smile on your face.

I wouldn't fuck her for a few more weeks. She can get a nice infection from that shit.

If you can't keep up you could always try having sex but not letting yourself finish. Before you even start to get to the point of no return pull out and go down her, then after a few minutes go back at it again. Don't try to cut it close, thats just a recipe for blue-balls. At some point just stop, don't finish.

Women have sex without orgasming all the time, its still a lot of fun, and it won't drain your energy.

I can sympathize with seedtime and relate to his success. When I got married 3.5 years ago, we tried to have sex, but my wife was too tight. "This is a problem?" you say -- oh yes. She was very uncomfortable and was in pain the whole time. I could only get it in up to the head and the she made me stop. Anyway, this was the way things were for a long time, and it brought us both way down. Finally, back in November, we were successful in going all the way. The key: LOTS of Astroglide. We were both virgins when we got married, so neither of us knew the vast importance of proper lubrication. But it is definitely much easier and more enjoyable when both parties are good and slicked up.