do women want what they can't have? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

lurkette · 07-18-2003, 02:14 PM

They flirt aggressively either because

1. You're taken and therefore "safe" as an outlet because they know you likely won't reciprocate

or

2. That you're married and have a baby on the way is proof that you're good marryin' material. (Although if you left your wife for a hussy what would that say about your likely fidelity to them?
Nobody ever said hussies were good at thinking ahead.)
or

3. You're sexy and they just can't help themselves

Donkeypuncher · 07-18-2003, 02:25 PM

I think people want what they can't have. It happens on both sides of the gender lines. (shrug)

Enjoy the attention. Don't sleep with them. There's no rule that say you have to. You do that if you want to and it's worth risking your marriage over. If it's not, what's the problem?

On a slightly lesser note, citing your allegiance to a non-masturbation pact tied to an Internet message board comprised of people you'll likely never even meet once in person as "troubling" you and contributing to making it "difficult" for you... is hella-lame.

Sure you wanna bone hot chicks. I don't know a lot of heterosexual males that don't. Just... ummm... don't.

tisonlyi · 07-18-2003, 03:16 PM

Wanting what you can't have is the essence of the bovine consumerism we're all fed from birth.

It's neither male nor female.

Donkeypuncher · 07-18-2003, 03:26 PM

YEAH! It's The Man keeping us down again!

oy.

Donkeypuncher · 07-18-2003, 03:54 PM

weak sauce.

tisonlyi · 07-18-2003, 04:39 PM

I don't think you really punch donkeys.

It's just a hunch, mind.

Donkeypuncher · 07-18-2003, 06:45 PM

That veracity of that tidbit will remain between me and the donkey.

I will say, however, that I never got Sanchez dirty. But I thought about it. Talk about your inopportune time to start laughing uncontrollably...

moo.

nulltype · 07-18-2003, 09:47 PM

Damn, maybe <b>I</b> should act married to get more action

Now one thing that my brother does is just act like an asshole to everyone. Seems to keep the girls pretty far away from him.

hobo · 07-18-2003, 10:14 PM

If you are attractive to women, they will flirt no matter what. It is the same when a woman is really attractive, guys flirt no matter what. Its nature. Just don't do anything that'll ruin marriages.

I have noticed that when a guy is seen to be confident and not desperately looking for a girl, or looking at all, he will get more attention.

Donkeypuncher · 07-18-2003, 10:14 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by nulltype
Damn, maybe <b>I</b> should act married to get more action

I think it's that whole dynamic of "stop looking" at play, where the harder you look, the less interested they are but the minute you seem to stop caring, you have more offers than you know what to do with. Plus previously mentioned knowledge of the married man being "safe" to flirt with.

Mitzkrieg · 07-19-2003, 12:26 AM

i agree with what some of the others have already said. people in general want what they can't have.

but damn, there is this one girl where i work, and she ONLY goes for married guys and it's not exageration. she'll hook up with one for a little while, till the married guy pretty much ends it, then she just moves on to the next. she's hooked up with 3 guys that work with me in my department(all married) and 3 others in other departments. one of the guys in my department ended up getting caught by his wife, and now they're divorced. another dude got caught by his wife and is divorced as well.

don't do it!

GoldenOuroboros · 07-19-2003, 02:20 AM

You could get up in the morning run around the block, don't shower and don't put on deodorant.. that should keep them at bay

Donkeypuncher · 07-19-2003, 12:56 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Mitzkrieg
and 3 others in other departments

hahaha wow! She sounds like a real gem. You'd think the remaining unscathed wives would go in on 24-hour surveillance on this girl... it just seems like the practical thing to do.

Double D · 07-20-2003, 12:16 AM

I know this doesn't address your concern (or maybe it somehow relates) but your wife is only six months pregnant, and the sex is already on the downside? What's up?

MrCubanmafia · 07-20-2003, 12:23 AM

Meh, maybe theres just something about haveing a bun in the oven, Double D, that turns her/him off. But meh, how am I to know.

And Forks, I do think that everyone wants what they can't have. Its like how in highschool the nerds wanted the cheerleaders and never got them. Pretty damned sad, eh?

Stiltzkin · 07-20-2003, 11:51 AM

To answer the question simply:

"Do women want what they can't have?"

Yes, they do. In fact, so do men. What's more, if you are a human being and are presented with something that you cannot have, it is a natural instinct to want it, period. That is unless, of course, if you are professional at fighting your human instincts.

motdakasha · 07-20-2003, 01:05 PM

I think the wanting-but-can't-have concept definitely applies here and in all aspects of life. To add to that, I think that this is also a matter of competition. If a guy is attracted to a girl (or vice versa) and finds out she's taken, the guy feels more compelled to compete with the man she's dating (or married to).

Mr_A · 07-20-2003, 02:56 PM

Forks do you ever tell your wife about these things or do you just keep it all away from her ears?

nulltype · 07-30-2003, 09:55 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Mitzkrieg
i agree with what some of the others have already said. people in general want what they can't have.

but damn, there is this one girl where i work, and she ONLY goes for married guys and it's not exageration. she'll hook up with one for a little while, till the married guy pretty much ends it, then she just moves on to the next. she's hooked up with 3 guys that work with me in my department(all married) and 3 others in other departments. one of the guys in my department ended up getting caught by his wife, and now they're divorced. another dude got caught by his wife and is divorced as well.

don't do it!

Maybe she does it on purpose to break them up? Or she could just be overly attracted to married men.

Subform · 07-30-2003, 10:08 PM

Forks, im sure its lurkette's number 3. .. Believe its number 3 yourself

..

NinjaOne · 07-31-2003, 08:01 AM

I think you're on to something, I'm gonna start wearing a fake wedding ring around.

air45 · 07-31-2003, 11:08 AM

this is a good problem for you to have for sure!

i am often wanting the women i cannot date in my life, for instance, ms. tia carrere of television's relic hunter!

i don't know if she is married, but even still, i do not know where her apartment is, so therefor she is unattainable to me even for a coffee.

angela146 · 07-31-2003, 07:21 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by NinjaOne
I think you're on to something, I'm gonna start wearing a fake wedding ring around.

I know of a couple of guys that wear wedding rings when they want attention from women. It seems to work for them.

Actually, some of it really is a "safe" thing. It's easier for me to flirt with a married man because I know that he's got someone to go home to at the end of the day. Even if I don't follow through, he will still probably get laid before the day is out.

sadatx · 07-31-2003, 07:45 PM

Sounds like you're keeping everything out in the open, so what's the concern? As long as you're honest with yourself and your wife, everthing should be copacetic (am I spelling that right?).

As for not masturbating, well, that whole thread just boggles my mind. Sure if you're thing is chaffed from wanking ten times a day, then you should probably pull back, but otherwise....

Especially if you're not having sex with you're wife, why on earth wouldn't you want to have a little daily release or every other day.

I mean I have sex on average 3 to 4 times a week and I still masturbate. That's what men do, procreate and masturbate, all the ates: watch televisionate, drink beerate, suurf internet pronate, look at naked pictures of womanate....

MSD · 07-31-2003, 09:55 PM

Wear wedding rings to attract women ... didn't I see that on Seinfeld years ago?

bryan888 · 08-01-2003, 03:17 AM

Incessantly!

If you must ask a question like this, you must not know women very well.

Truth is, even more so than wanting what they don't have, I believe what they truly want is what OTHER women have.

But, whadda I know?!!?, I'm just a man........just a man.

Viking1064 · 08-01-2003, 06:26 AM

When my wife hit her 7th or 8th month of pregnancy, she was horny as hell!!! It was unbelievable!!!!!! She still talks about how horny she was. A co-worker told me she was the same way at that time of pregnancy. I hope you wife experiences the same thing. Of course, every woman is different, so she might not. Do what's right for your family. Stay faithful and wank away!!!!!!!!!!

07-18-2003, 02:14 PM	#1 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	They flirt aggressively either because 1. You're taken and therefore "safe" as an outlet because they know you likely won't reciprocate or 2. That you're married and have a baby on the way is proof that you're good marryin' material. (Although if you left your wife for a hussy what would that say about your likely fidelity to them? Nobody ever said hussies were good at thinking ahead.) or 3. You're sexy and they just can't help themselves __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

07-18-2003, 02:25 PM	#2 (permalink)
Donkeypuncher Psycho Location: Pasadena, CA	I think people want what they can't have. It happens on both sides of the gender lines. (shrug) Enjoy the attention. Don't sleep with them. There's no rule that say you have to. You do that if you want to and it's worth risking your marriage over. If it's not, what's the problem? On a slightly lesser note, citing your allegiance to a non-masturbation pact tied to an Internet message board comprised of people you'll likely never even meet once in person as "troubling" you and contributing to making it "difficult" for you... is hella-lame. Sure you wanna bone hot chicks. I don't know a lot of heterosexual males that don't. Just... ummm... don't. __________________ "take me down, little Susie, take me down I know you think you're the Queen of The Underground"

07-18-2003, 03:16 PM	#3 (permalink)
tisonlyi Nothing	Wanting what you can't have is the essence of the bovine consumerism we're all fed from birth. It's neither male nor female. __________________ "I do not agree that the dog in a manger has the final right to the manger even though he may have lain there for a very long time. I do not admit that right. I do not admit for instance, that a great wrong has been done to the Red Indians of America or the black people of Australia. I do not admit that a wrong has been done to these people by the fact that a stronger race, a higher-grade race, a more worldly wise race to put it that way, has come in and taken their place." - Winston Churchill, 1937 --{ORLY?}--

07-18-2003, 03:26 PM	#4 (permalink)
Donkeypuncher Psycho Location: Pasadena, CA	YEAH! It's The Man keeping us down again! oy. __________________ "take me down, little Susie, take me down I know you think you're the Queen of The Underground"

07-18-2003, 03:54 PM	#5 (permalink)
Donkeypuncher Psycho Location: Pasadena, CA	weak sauce. __________________ "take me down, little Susie, take me down I know you think you're the Queen of The Underground"

07-18-2003, 04:39 PM	#6 (permalink)
tisonlyi Nothing	I don't think you really punch donkeys. It's just a hunch, mind. __________________ "I do not agree that the dog in a manger has the final right to the manger even though he may have lain there for a very long time. I do not admit that right. I do not admit for instance, that a great wrong has been done to the Red Indians of America or the black people of Australia. I do not admit that a wrong has been done to these people by the fact that a stronger race, a higher-grade race, a more worldly wise race to put it that way, has come in and taken their place." - Winston Churchill, 1937 --{ORLY?}--

07-18-2003, 06:45 PM	#7 (permalink)
Donkeypuncher Psycho Location: Pasadena, CA	That veracity of that tidbit will remain between me and the donkey. I will say, however, that I never got Sanchez dirty. But I thought about it. Talk about your inopportune time to start laughing uncontrollably... moo. __________________ "take me down, little Susie, take me down I know you think you're the Queen of The Underground"

07-18-2003, 09:47 PM	#8 (permalink)
nulltype Crazy	Damn, maybe <b>I</b> should act married to get more action Now one thing that my brother does is just act like an asshole to everyone. Seems to keep the girls pretty far away from him.

07-18-2003, 10:14 PM	#9 (permalink)
hobo Archangel of Change	If you are attractive to women, they will flirt no matter what. It is the same when a woman is really attractive, guys flirt no matter what. Its nature. Just don't do anything that'll ruin marriages. I have noticed that when a guy is seen to be confident and not desperately looking for a girl, or looking at all, he will get more attention.

07-19-2003, 12:26 AM	#11 (permalink)
Mitzkrieg Insane	i agree with what some of the others have already said. people in general want what they can't have. but damn, there is this one girl where i work, and she ONLY goes for married guys and it's not exageration. she'll hook up with one for a little while, till the married guy pretty much ends it, then she just moves on to the next. she's hooked up with 3 guys that work with me in my department(all married) and 3 others in other departments. one of the guys in my department ended up getting caught by his wife, and now they're divorced. another dude got caught by his wife and is divorced as well. don't do it!

07-19-2003, 02:20 AM	#12 (permalink)
GoldenOuroboros The Cheshire Grin... Location: An Aussie Outback	You could get up in the morning run around the block, don't shower and don't put on deodorant.. that should keep them at bay __________________ Can you see me grin grin grrriiiiinnnning?!

07-20-2003, 12:16 AM	#14 (permalink)
Double D Junkie Location: Chicagoland	I know this doesn't address your concern (or maybe it somehow relates) but your wife is only six months pregnant, and the sex is already on the downside? What's up?

07-20-2003, 12:23 AM	#15 (permalink)
MrCubanmafia Upright	Meh, maybe theres just something about haveing a bun in the oven, Double D, that turns her/him off. But meh, how am I to know. And Forks, I do think that everyone wants what they can't have. Its like how in highschool the nerds wanted the cheerleaders and never got them. Pretty damned sad, eh?

07-20-2003, 11:51 AM	#16 (permalink)
Stiltzkin Junkie	To answer the question simply: "Do women want what they can't have?" Yes, they do. In fact, so do men. What's more, if you are a human being and are presented with something that you cannot have, it is a natural instinct to want it, period. That is unless, of course, if you are professional at fighting your human instincts. __________________ The most important thing in this world is love.

07-20-2003, 01:05 PM	#17 (permalink)
motdakasha Hiya Puddin'! Miss me? Location: Silicon Valley, CA	I think the wanting-but-can't-have concept definitely applies here and in all aspects of life. To add to that, I think that this is also a matter of competition. If a guy is attracted to a girl (or vice versa) and finds out she's taken, the guy feels more compelled to compete with the man she's dating (or married to). __________________ =^-^= motdakasha =^-^= Just Google It. BA Psychology & Photography (I'm not going psychoanalyze you nor will I let you cry on my shoulder. Have a nice day.)

07-20-2003, 02:56 PM	#18 (permalink)
Mr_A Upright	Forks do you ever tell your wife about these things or do you just keep it all away from her ears?

07-30-2003, 10:08 PM	#20 (permalink)
Subform Crazy Location: Vordingborg, Denmark	Forks, im sure its lurkette's number 3. .. Believe its number 3 yourself .. __________________ -+-+-+-+-+-+-+-+ Subform - Allover the place

07-31-2003, 08:01 AM	#21 (permalink)
NinjaOne Upright	I think you're on to something, I'm gonna start wearing a fake wedding ring around. __________________ <!-- no plugging -->

07-31-2003, 11:08 AM	#22 (permalink)
air45 Loser Location: Midwest	this is a good problem for you to have for sure! i am often wanting the women i cannot date in my life, for instance, ms. tia carrere of television's relic hunter! i don't know if she is married, but even still, i do not know where her apartment is, so therefor she is unattainable to me even for a coffee.

07-31-2003, 07:45 PM	#24 (permalink)
sadatx Psycho	Sounds like you're keeping everything out in the open, so what's the concern? As long as you're honest with yourself and your wife, everthing should be copacetic (am I spelling that right?). As for not masturbating, well, that whole thread just boggles my mind. Sure if you're thing is chaffed from wanking ten times a day, then you should probably pull back, but otherwise.... Especially if you're not having sex with you're wife, why on earth wouldn't you want to have a little daily release or every other day. I mean I have sex on average 3 to 4 times a week and I still masturbate. That's what men do, procreate and masturbate, all the ates: watch televisionate, drink beerate, suurf internet pronate, look at naked pictures of womanate....

07-31-2003, 09:55 PM	#25 (permalink)
MSD The sky calls to us ... Super Moderator Location: CT	Wear wedding rings to attract women ... didn't I see that on Seinfeld years ago?

08-01-2003, 03:17 AM	#26 (permalink)
bryan888 Crazy Location: The Sunny South - ATL!	Incessantly! If you must ask a question like this, you must not know women very well. Truth is, even more so than wanting what they don't have, I believe what they truly want is what OTHER women have. But, whadda I know?!!?, I'm just a man........just a man. __________________ It's only kinky the first time......

08-01-2003, 06:26 AM	#27 (permalink)
Viking1064 Insane Location: New Jersey	When my wife hit her 7th or 8th month of pregnancy, she was horny as hell!!! It was unbelievable!!!!!! She still talks about how horny she was. A co-worker told me she was the same way at that time of pregnancy. I hope you wife experiences the same thing. Of course, every woman is different, so she might not. Do what's right for your family. Stay faithful and wank away!!!!!!!!!!