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transamblack · 07-17-2003, 09:08 PM

OK, well i had my best girlfriend stay over tonight. and we get in the hot tub. and my moms bf came over and his friend my neighbor, kind of irrelevant but neways we started to do stuff in the tub. will this ruin our relationship, cause right now im really worried about it! please give input

GoldenOuroboros · 07-17-2003, 09:11 PM

I got abit worried when you started talking about your mums bf and then his friend came into the picture

My gf and I got up to stuff in the tub as well, didn't ruin ours.. If you're not comfortable with it, communicate with her

transamblack · 07-17-2003, 09:12 PM

lol ya well i just had to throw that in there! but its not my gf gf, its like my best friend whose a girl and its just really awkward! but thanks man

Spinach_Indeed · 07-17-2003, 09:12 PM

Guh... What?

I'm assuming your female, obviously since you sighted her as your BEST girlfriend.

Well, It's going to affect your relationship but It might not neccesarly be a bad thing. It make strenghten it, do to the fact that you're now not only connected to her emotionaly and mentaly but physically. Then again, if you're both not totally out in the open about sexuality, it will be akward.

Hope it turns out okay

(Edit: Took me a while responding, so I didn't see the new posts.)

transamblack · 07-17-2003, 11:20 PM

lol no im not a girl, im male, shes just a girl i thought id never do nething with physically. we just always talked and stuff, bout our problems in relationships, and then tonight we were chillin in the hot tub like always and our hands just started to wander. its just and awkward situation, we were too close to do nething, but yet it happened, and her boy friend is one of my best friends. hope that makes more sense now!

Sleepyjack · 07-17-2003, 11:49 PM

ok, that kinda makes it a lot worse. Given you have a good relationship anyways, i'd advise you talk about it, like what each other thought about it, what it meant to each other, where it may lead etc.
also shouldn't of really got into a hut tub together in the first place. Is that the first time its happened? or did you have clothes on?
you have to be careful, cause you're in a very delicate yet volitile situaiton

Drunk Ballerina · 07-18-2003, 09:50 AM

Why is it worse now that you know he is a man? I'm not challenging your opinion, I really want to know why it is not such a big deal for two girls to go at it, but everyone gets up in arms when a girl and a guy, uh, interact?

motdakasha · 07-18-2003, 12:03 PM

If she didn't already have a boyfriend or if they had a special agreement, I would say to act mature about the situation and enjoy it as long as possible without ruining your friendship. However, you say she has a boyfriend. I would back off and go back to being the "normal" friends you used to be.

numberfive · 07-18-2003, 07:30 PM

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Originally posted by Drunk Ballerina
Why is it worse now that you know he is a man? I'm not challenging your opinion, I really want to know why it is not such a big deal for two girls to go at it, but everyone gets up in arms when a girl and a guy, uh, interact?

I think he was referring to the part about her boyfriend being one of his good friends. That seems like it would make the situation a lot worse.

nulltype · 07-18-2003, 09:38 PM

This would make a lot more sense if it were in English.

MacGnG · 07-18-2003, 10:17 PM

you're a guy, chillin with your best friend thats a girl, some hot tub action goin on...

well u can talk about goin farther or whatever but all u can do is try and if yoou take it slow and she wants to go farther you'll know, if not you wouldnt have gone to far to mess anything up.

Mel · 07-18-2003, 11:13 PM

No, it will probably bring you two closer

Sleepyjack · 07-18-2003, 11:18 PM

@Drunk Ballerina
as numberfive said i was just saying that its worse cause not only do they have to deal with any issue between themselves, she also has a boyfriend who is consequently a good friend as well, so they have to deal with that. Thats why its worse, well, i think

rainheart · 07-18-2003, 11:36 PM

According to ladder theory, and I quote, "if your friend's girl offers you a piece, you should hit that shit."

I kid I kid, comic relief.

07-17-2003, 09:08 PM	#1 (permalink)
transamblack Upright	had my BEST girlfriend over...o man... OK, well i had my best girlfriend stay over tonight. and we get in the hot tub. and my moms bf came over and his friend my neighbor, kind of irrelevant but neways we started to do stuff in the tub. will this ruin our relationship, cause right now im really worried about it! please give input

07-17-2003, 09:11 PM	#2 (permalink)
GoldenOuroboros The Cheshire Grin... Location: An Aussie Outback	I got abit worried when you started talking about your mums bf and then his friend came into the picture My gf and I got up to stuff in the tub as well, didn't ruin ours.. If you're not comfortable with it, communicate with her __________________ Can you see me grin grin grrriiiiinnnning?!

07-17-2003, 09:12 PM	#4 (permalink)
Spinach_Indeed Banned? Location: Artic Tundra	Guh... What? I'm assuming your female, obviously since you sighted her as your BEST girlfriend. Well, It's going to affect your relationship but It might not neccesarly be a bad thing. It make strenghten it, do to the fact that you're now not only connected to her emotionaly and mentaly but physically. Then again, if you're both not totally out in the open about sexuality, it will be akward. Hope it turns out okay (Edit: Took me a while responding, so I didn't see the new posts.) __________________ Spinach in Need is Spinach Indeed Last edited by Spinach_Indeed; 07-17-2003 at 09:16 PM..

07-18-2003, 12:03 PM	#8 (permalink)
motdakasha Hiya Puddin'! Miss me? Location: Silicon Valley, CA	If she didn't already have a boyfriend or if they had a special agreement, I would say to act mature about the situation and enjoy it as long as possible without ruining your friendship. However, you say she has a boyfriend. I would back off and go back to being the "normal" friends you used to be. __________________ =^-^= motdakasha =^-^= Just Google It. BA Psychology & Photography (I'm not going psychoanalyze you nor will I let you cry on my shoulder. Have a nice day.)

07-18-2003, 11:13 PM	#12 (permalink)
Mel Tilted Location: Auckland	No, it will probably bring you two closer __________________ And in my darkest moment, fetal and weeping. The moon tells me a secret. My confidant. As full and bright as I am, this light is not my own and A million light reflections pass over me It's source is bright and endless. She resuscitates the hopeless Without her we are lifeless satellites drifting

07-17-2003, 09:12 PM	#3 (permalink)
transamblack Upright	lol ya well i just had to throw that in there! but its not my gf gf, its like my best friend whose a girl and its just really awkward! but thanks man

07-17-2003, 11:20 PM	#5 (permalink)
transamblack Upright	lol no im not a girl, im male, shes just a girl i thought id never do nething with physically. we just always talked and stuff, bout our problems in relationships, and then tonight we were chillin in the hot tub like always and our hands just started to wander. its just and awkward situation, we were too close to do nething, but yet it happened, and her boy friend is one of my best friends. hope that makes more sense now!

07-17-2003, 11:49 PM	#6 (permalink)
Sleepyjack Fast'n'Bulbous Location: Australia, Perth	ok, that kinda makes it a lot worse. Given you have a good relationship anyways, i'd advise you talk about it, like what each other thought about it, what it meant to each other, where it may lead etc. also shouldn't of really got into a hut tub together in the first place. Is that the first time its happened? or did you have clothes on? you have to be careful, cause you're in a very delicate yet volitile situaiton

07-18-2003, 09:50 AM	#7 (permalink)
Drunk Ballerina Upright Location: Stuck on a Tilt-a-Whirl	Why is it worse now that you know he is a man? I'm not challenging your opinion, I really want to know why it is not such a big deal for two girls to go at it, but everyone gets up in arms when a girl and a guy, uh, interact?

07-18-2003, 09:38 PM	#10 (permalink)
nulltype Crazy	This would make a lot more sense if it were in English.

07-18-2003, 10:17 PM	#11 (permalink)
MacGnG Know Where!	you're a guy, chillin with your best friend thats a girl, some hot tub action goin on... well u can talk about goin farther or whatever but all u can do is try and if yoou take it slow and she wants to go farther you'll know, if not you wouldnt have gone to far to mess anything up.

07-18-2003, 11:18 PM	#13 (permalink)
Sleepyjack Fast'n'Bulbous Location: Australia, Perth	@Drunk Ballerina as numberfive said i was just saying that its worse cause not only do they have to deal with any issue between themselves, she also has a boyfriend who is consequently a good friend as well, so they have to deal with that. Thats why its worse, well, i think

07-18-2003, 11:36 PM	#14 (permalink)
rainheart Psycho	According to ladder theory, and I quote, "if your friend's girl offers you a piece, you should hit that shit." I kid I kid, comic relief.