Vagina tightness: Can a guy really tell?
 

Recently I slept with a guy who told me after sex that I didn't feel the way he thought I would after having two kids. He went on to say I feel like a virgin each time. I'm not sure if that is supposed to be a compliment or what. It got me thinking about how sensitive a man can be to vaginal elasticity. I kegel every single day. I kegel during foreplay and right before penetration I tighten up again because it creates more tension. As he enters me I feel the resistance. Is this something important to a man?

Ummm, yes. It is important.

QFT. Yes, it's very important. And yes, we can tell. It's frustrating to feel like a hot dog in a hallway.

Last thought...
 

I guess I'm shocked a bit because I wasnt expecting to hear it. I'd never put that much thought into it. So guys wonder how tight someone is... like you can't tell until you do it. Must liken it to wondering about penis size....I need to let it go and keep on kegeling.

Not as important as having a giant porn cock, apparently.

/society

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I haven't had sex with a woman that has had children, so I have no idea if all of this is an urban legend or not.

Will do my best to find a woman that has pushed out a few runts so I can test her petri dish with my swizzle stick.

My hypothesis is that most of it is complete man-bullshit in the category of "women with large labia are loose."

I'm sure it's not 100%, but I'm also sure that it isn't a case of being able to "drive a Mack truck through it."

I think it is not about how tight or loose it is
It is about whether it can respond. While I am inside if it can contract and grip... The Pulsating is a rocking experience!

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BTW a huge hug to you for doing kegels :) Keep Kegeling

Story. Time now. What was her name?

My wife has had two kids and she is the same now as she was when I first met her.

I don't buy it that babies change the tightness. It's all about how you are made, not what you do to it in the meantime.

A sample of one is not a statistically valid study. ;)

Tightness itself is not a goal. The combination of tightness and response is the best thing. I don't want it to feel like I'm trying to jemmy open a safe with my cock, but if it feels like a pulsing warm wet funhouse, I'm loving it.

Rumor has it there are more than a few cucumbers and thigh-sized dildos out there calling bullshit on you, Charlatan.

Go Google "Great American Challenge Dildo" for an example. After I saw that in a sex toy shop in NC I didn't sleep.

I contend that 99% of women are normal. And that 1% out there has an internal backpack that can hide a football.

It's all in the kegel. Never stop. ;)

I thought it was the episiotomy from childbirth that changes the tightness.

I've never been with a MILF, so I can't compare.

I do kegals daily. My bf says he loves when I tighten up on him. Sometimes he doesn't want me to squeeze so much because he wants to cum to quick when I keep it real tight.....He says I'm the first woman he has been with that has had that kind of control....I thought all women knew that little secret, but apprently not....

Not at all. The practice of kegeling gives the woman total control of both his and her orgasms after just a wee bit of practice. Good for all.

If there is any truth to the vaginal walls stretching after childbirth (not sure on that one), a woman's kegels will ensure the man would never guess she's given birth.

Sums it up.

awesome responses!
 

I told my friend about kegels and she was shocked. We are both 34! I thought everyone knew the secret too. She said she didn't have her first orgasm until about 3 years ago. After her first child she had some sort of vaginal explosion not sure what the medical term she used was. She said her vagina had lost its elasticity. After the second kid she said that sex was just sick. After the third kid she started having bladder problems after going to the Dr she found out she had a prolapse of some sort. After several operations her vagina was reconstructed. They tightened her up, hung her bladder on some mesh and sent her on her merry way. She said the first time she ad sex after the surgery she could feel her husband! She felt the orgasm and didn't know what it was. She figured it out and was like, oh that is what theyre talking about! I will have to conduct research on that!

That is great jadangel. I had never felt that so far :)

Daily Kegals are the best thing a woman can do for her man aside from daily blowjobs.

Do both and your marriage will never be happier.

I'm so sorry to hear that some men have never been with a woman that had control. Curiousbear, I hope you run across one someday....you'll never be the same....lol..

Maybe someone can do a public service announcement....I'm sure men all around the world would appreciate it if their women learned how to do it also...For the life of me I can't remember how I learned about them but I have been doing them since my early 20s and I'm 35 now....

I learned about them in Cosmo when I was 15 or so and have been doing them every day since :lol: Hubby loves 'em.

LMAO! Same here! I think I was about 15 and read it in Cosmo! Shit, I wonder if my daughters have already read that article! :orly:

:thumbsup:
You can't fit a pencil in mine.

How can you not tell he can?

Yes guys can tell. I have been with girls that feel like a black hole, like your penis isn't even touching the walls of the vagina... while others are like a glove. Though I do think it has a lot to do with the size of the girl, "how she was made" as another put it... I also believe that having babies and being promiscuous also can loosen things up down there. It is, only flesh and muscle, and it can't stay tight forever. Though doing those kegels Im sure keeps it tighter longer.

Yes but it totally depends on the woman, some you can and others you can't

Yea...Kegels actually makes a huge difference. Had an ex who was really 'meh' but once she did kegels it was great.

But I ended up finishing too fast so she never did them again. Ugh.

*imagines said woman opening Bud Light with Nature's Bottle Opener (TM)*

I am an average guy you bet I can tell the difference. Kegels are right up there with a woman getting her hands involved in the ol' in and out and stimulating both her and I.
Why be lazy? Work it. Make it better. Men can do Kegels too. Good muscle tone from hard work and exercise make it all better as well. Good topic keep spreading the word.

It is possible to tell the difference for sure, although I don't like anyone more or less for that matter

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I guess the only way I can experience this is my SO learns this. If I know one and for feeling/experiment sake may be I can use my finger LOL!!! And possibly make her try her finger too!!!

I wonder whether there are profession coaching on kegels for men/women! Like I use to wonder whether there are people performing 'slow masturbation' to improve men's prolonged activity....

You know my name is curiousbear!

Women that don't know how just need to google it. I did a search and all kinds of instuctional material on "how to" was brought up.... I think with a little practice any woman can master the technique.....

Awww ... the wonderful kegel makes the vagina a magical place to be.

During college and for a time after college I used to hook up with this tiny little co-ed that had the most magical vag I've ever been in. She was able to take me no problem, no surprise, but she could pulsate and flex her vaginal muscles quite rythmically. She said that her mother taught her how to do this and her grandmother taught her mother. Her mother was from India or somewhere. She would slide down onto me, taking almost the whole 10, and she would then massage my bone without ever moving anything other than her vag muscles, similar to the kegels mentioned here, but with incredible strenght and control. I've always encouraged kegels for every young lady I have been with since. Yes, kegels rock, and you can tell a difference when they are done or not done.

If it wasn't kegels then I wonder what it was!

Apparently, kegels rock. By the by, I hate the hotdog down a hallway feeling. It messes
with my self confidence.

Wow, I'm really glad all you guys are "banging the loose ones" for me.

I have yet to slide into a partner that was anything but tight like a tiger.

That's because you probably have a large penis.
And how is a tiger tight?

LOL! Nah, bro. Nah.

I'm hung like a dehydrated Vienna sausage. Just ask anybody who has had the misfortune of seeing "it."

Imagine fucking Bruce Lee's fist. The kinda tight where it feels like she's got you with some rubber-covered vise grips, squeezing.

I don't know about this thread. I've never had a "loose" girl before. I almost always have spectacular ohgodmyface! orgasms, too.

Imagine fucking Bruce Lee's fist. The kinda tight where it feels like she's got you with some rubber-covered vise grips.

Sounds painful:no:

Definitely noticeable and "important".

I never knew that this stuff was really an issue to some men... how can it not feel tight in there is what I gotta say! Maybe only the little guys really feel much of a difference...

There is definitely a difference and its usually more genetic I think. I slept with an 18 or 19 year old who hadn't had much sex. Her vagina was very loose.

PS its not really an issue, its not like we're going to turn down a vagina....

Also, especially the petite girls, can be really tight. Too much so. Because they end up bleeding. One of my GFs told me this, that her last boyfriend made her bleed during sex every time (and by her words I was bigger than him!). I rectified that and knew how to loosen her up more, but she was still very tight comparitively. I don't think she ever quite got over it.

She stopped bleeding once enough foreplay was there, but I had a feeling it hurt her a bit. Ended up me doing a lot of oral for her.

I've been with girls who haven't had kids yet, tightness was great, nonissue, I was able to get off, no problem.

Been with girls who've had kids, can't say the same for them, it either doesn't happen or it takes a lot of work. Can't say that for all of them, but most. Some are better than others, generally the more fit they are, it seems to be better.



Not sure if there's any correlation but thats my experience thus far.

Wow... just wow. Almost missed that zinger.

I'm pretty sure you can feel a difference between 1 and 3 fingers. Obviously only a loose girl could feel the difference, as a normal girl it'd be tight regardless of how many right?

A guy can feel the difference between kegels and non-kegels. Instead of shooting off quibs like that, open your mind and you can learn things here. Might also do a favor to any current/future boyfriends.

Whoa, whoa, whoa...

C'mon, Seaver... your dick can't be as nearly as small as mine. I'm swinging like half a pimento here. I can't even fill up an olive! Talk about pathetic.

And, uh... yeah, fingers are a shitty unit of measure. My three emaciated Skeletor fingers are like two fingers on most dudes. Let's use a common household item... how many Ballpark franks can she take? And if she can take a tube of Pringles without flinching, she's no good for screwin'.

Just to reiterate my previous point in this thread: Never had a loose one. Is it like fucking a trash can with tits or what? The girls I've been with have been fine (even with my high standards). Some have been good, some have been better, a couple have been deadly. My current model is totally the tightest I've ever ordered Private Wang Spitta to do pushups in. Think she's trying to turn my dick into a diamond. She does the vag crunches and isn't a stranger to aerobics, but something tells me that alone has little to do with how the cavern is constructed. The level of general physical fitness of the women I've been with doesn't seem to have a whole lot to do with their coital death grip. Maybe it's just random like our other favorite topic: dick size.

The great God of Genetics doesn't have a sense of humor. It just gives people different parts. Such as abyss-like vaginae and baby dicks.

Good thing I wasn't drinking or it'd be all over my monitor right now.

Again, it's not "loose" women... but there's definitely levels of tightness. I guess if someone's never experienced a regular-kegels girl they wouldn't know. They go from the "Wow this feels awesome" to "Ok she's decided it's time for me to cum because this feels REALLY FUCKING AWESOME".

Guys can benefit from kegels too... helps you last that extra 30sec or so which is sometimes the difference between her cumming or not.

My s.o. before children could be pretty tight. post children it was hit or miss, but not awful by any means. I didn't have to rub one side to make the other side jealous and come on over or anything. Now that s.o. has gained weight, however, the looseness is more pronounced. I think it is making it hard for her muscles all over to keep up. The thing about skinny/petite chicks seems to be true. They can be tight to where it hurts them and that's no fun. I was finger-banging this one chick and she was a petite and I could hardly get a finger in. And she had some large labia so that isn't necessarily a true myth either. Do any of you remember the Gregory Hines movie "loose shoes"? the main lyric he sang in the soundtrack was "I want some tight pussy, loose shoes, and a warm place to shit." seems simple enough.

Being only average size (7"), I have nonetheless been with women who'd never had children who weren't snug, and women who had who apparently done the "Kegels" you all are talking about who were wonderfully tight. The worst one was a few years ago, she had 2 grown kids, and after an hour of frantic going at it, I actually faked a climax to have it over with! (She had multiples and wanted more from me, and getting shut of her is another story, not a good one.) So, yes, we can tell. Some of us do try to take care of ourselves, keeping fit and honing our techniques. Please, kind ladies, return the favors and exercise your PC muscle, so that we may BOTH have a fine old time when we get together!

7" is only average size nowadays? news to me. last i heard 5" was the average. guess most guys are below average, huh.

5"?! Man, I'm like a pink shotgun shell down there.

I have noticed that when get'n with a few of my exes, seems it only feels tight for the first 20 minutes. After that it gets kinda loose. Usually we would just play around the edge for a bit or go into oral for a few and then get back into it - lets her get a little tighter for the moment. Works for like 10 minutes each time we take "2 minutes to tighten", then starts to feel loose again.

If we just kept going past the 20 minute mark, it just feels nice and wet but would take a good position to get me off when it gets that way.

Thats why quickies are good - keep them around the 10/15 minute mark and usually stays nice and tight - feeling better for both.

Anyway it is, tight or loose - as long as both are into it and having fun - I don't care!

There was a guy on another forum who asked about why his average-sized penis might be hurting his girlfriend. His view of normal had been formed by porn and it turned out his "average" unit was 9" long. Average is around 5.5" in the US

You girl, rock. Your man is a lucky guy.

Yes,it's pretty easy to feel tightness but I've never had a problem with it one way or another.never felt like a hotdog down a hallway as they say.

Kegel Exercises
 

Vaginal tightness is very important. Not only does a tighter vagina feel better for your partner, it can give you more explosive orgasms as well. Tighten your vagina by doing regular kegel exercises. These can also aid in making the g-spot orgasm a bigger possibility.

I have been with two mothers and strangely enough they were by far the tightest, and yes it makes a huge difference.

I think I am an anomaly and I have a hard time having an orgasm anyways during sex, I have one maybe half the time. One ex I couldn't have a orgasm with while having sex, it had to be oral... so yes, it makes a very big difference.

"Vital" Measurements
 

Unfortunately, there is no standard criteria for how these "crucial" measurements are made!

You mean they don't have such a device already?! :hyper:

- Create graduated shoehorn
- Market to insecure women
- ???
- PROFIT!

I've come to the conclusion that a fair number of women who like a really big dick (10 plus) have a loose pussy, if the standard six or seven incher isn't enough for a woman she's got looseness issues.

Twenty plus years ago I had a girlfriend I just couldn't feel, I was suggesting surgery to tighten her up. Her position was that her ex husband didn't have any issues with that, I asked and of course the guy had an eleven inch dick. I guess one way of looking at it is she's the right woman for horse dicked guys huh?

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I went for a long time thinking I was average because it just seemed like a "normal" dick. After a few comments to the degree that I was a little bigger than their take on average I was questing what's average. From what I gathered from women who'd been with a number of guys half of them would be under six or seven inches.

It seems a lot of women are on the same page with 6-1/2 inches being a nice size that isn't too big or small, just a nice fit. It works for me.

Now an interesting variation is the difference in the angle of the dangle or the angle of the vaginal canal. That is what makes different positions feel better for different people, it's how it fits together.