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Prsist · 11-10-2010, 11:51 AM

What is the best way to tell my girlfriend that her kissing could improve? I want to try and teach her without hurting her feelings. She leaves her mouth too open. I wish she would follow my lead but never does.

jadangel · 11-10-2010, 12:14 PM

Maybe that's her style of kissing.....Maybe she thinks you keep your mouth too closed.....Honestly though, you should just talk to her about it. Tell her that there is a certain way that you like to kiss that really turns you on. I know if my bf told me that then I would want to try it..... she might not be following your lead because she may not realize that you are trying to lead in the first place either
Anyway, hope that might help

Redlemon · 11-10-2010, 12:42 PM

Wow, that brings back high school memories. I remember dating a girl briefly, and kissing her was like entering a cavern. Her lips were stretched as far as they could go, so they were tight as well.

I was too young to ask her to do it differently.

Prsist, it is time to learn from the mistakes of others (me). The only way to get what you want is to ask for it. Next time you start kissing, and she becomes the bottomless cavern, pull away. Ask her to close her mouth softly, and brush your lips softly against hers. Work from there.

Think about it in reverse; what if she said to you, "There's a way that you could kiss differently that would make me really happy. Could you do that for me?" How would you react?

tasineah · 11-10-2010, 08:45 PM

I am always amazed when people ask questions like this. I am always articulating what I like, if not in words, then in sound or in actions. I cant imagine kissing someone and not being able to say "oooooo...softer, harder, more tongue, bring in your jaw, bite my lip..."

I guess what I am saying, is if the only time you are talking to her about her kissing is when you tell her what she is doing wrong, then you are missing alot of opportunity to tell her what she is doing right and how good it feels...so that it would balance out any insecurity she could feel about any conversation you might have about not needing to have her mouth open so wide....

so start now...start by telling her....,more tongue...deeper....lick my teeth...

and lead into it...

Charlatan · 11-10-2010, 09:32 PM

I kissed a woman once who had the opposite problem. She kept her lips in a tight "O". It was like kissing a rigid sphincter.

Thankfully it was only a one-night stand.

Plan9 · 11-10-2010, 09:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Charlatan

I kissed a woman once who had the opposite problem. She kept her lips in a tight "O". It was like kissing a rigid sphincter.

Rigid? Awesome. So she was a "duck face" kisser? I like your terminology better, though. I'm gonna call it Rigid Sphincter Face from here out.

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Yeah, I had a multiple-night stand (can't fuck anybody just once, that's my problem) with a crazy girl that kissed like she was eating an ice cream cone. Gaping mouth, big sloppy tongue swirl licks and awkward swallows, etc. Awful. The blowjobs were wet 'n amazing but the kisses were a huge turnoff.

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You wanna fix this, OP guy? You have to tell her that you don't like what she's doing and tell/show her what you want. Lead by example.

Marshmellofluff · 11-23-2010, 12:32 AM

You just need to tell her. Tell her it's not that you don't like kissing her, and try to break it gently. Maybe ask her if there's anything you do that she wants you improve upon.

snowy · 11-23-2010, 08:03 AM

My husband is lazy about kissing and will sometimes open his mouth too wide. He has a much bigger mouth than I do, and so it feels like he is trying to swallow my face. When I discovered his lack of kissing skills, I coached him to kiss better. He is a much better kisser now, but sometimes he gets lazy again, and now it's a joke: "I DON'T WANT TO BE SWALLOWED!"

11-10-2010, 11:51 AM	#1 (permalink)
Prsist Upright	I need your help ladies! What is the best way to tell my girlfriend that her kissing could improve? I want to try and teach her without hurting her feelings. She leaves her mouth too open. I wish she would follow my lead but never does. Last edited by Prsist; 11-10-2010 at 12:17 PM..

11-10-2010, 12:42 PM	#3 (permalink)
Redlemon Devoted Donor Location: New England	Wow, that brings back high school memories. I remember dating a girl briefly, and kissing her was like entering a cavern. Her lips were stretched as far as they could go, so they were tight as well. I was too young to ask her to do it differently. Prsist, it is time to learn from the mistakes of others (me). The only way to get what you want is to ask for it. Next time you start kissing, and she becomes the bottomless cavern, pull away. Ask her to close her mouth softly, and brush your lips softly against hers. Work from there. Think about it in reverse; what if she said to you, "There's a way that you could kiss differently that would make me really happy. Could you do that for me?" How would you react? __________________ I can't read your signature. Sorry.

11-10-2010, 09:32 PM	#5 (permalink)
Charlatan Getting it. Super Moderator Location: Lion City	I kissed a woman once who had the opposite problem. She kept her lips in a tight "O". It was like kissing a rigid sphincter. Thankfully it was only a one-night stand. __________________ "My hands are on fire. Hands are on fire. Ain't got no more time for all you charlatans and liars." - Old Man Luedecke

11-23-2010, 08:03 AM	#8 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	My husband is lazy about kissing and will sometimes open his mouth too wide. He has a much bigger mouth than I do, and so it feels like he is trying to swallow my face. When I discovered his lack of kissing skills, I coached him to kiss better. He is a much better kisser now, but sometimes he gets lazy again, and now it's a joke: "I DON'T WANT TO BE SWALLOWED!" __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

11-10-2010, 12:14 PM	#2 (permalink)
jadangel Upright Location: Backwoods, Ky	Maybe that's her style of kissing.....Maybe she thinks you keep your mouth too closed.....Honestly though, you should just talk to her about it. Tell her that there is a certain way that you like to kiss that really turns you on. I know if my bf told me that then I would want to try it..... she might not be following your lead because she may not realize that you are trying to lead in the first place either Anyway, hope that might help

11-10-2010, 08:45 PM	#4 (permalink)
tasineah Crazy Location: NE region of the united states	I am always amazed when people ask questions like this. I am always articulating what I like, if not in words, then in sound or in actions. I cant imagine kissing someone and not being able to say "oooooo...softer, harder, more tongue, bring in your jaw, bite my lip..." I guess what I am saying, is if the only time you are talking to her about her kissing is when you tell her what she is doing wrong, then you are missing alot of opportunity to tell her what she is doing right and how good it feels...so that it would balance out any insecurity she could feel about any conversation you might have about not needing to have her mouth open so wide.... so start now...start by telling her....,more tongue...deeper....lick my teeth... and lead into it...

11-23-2010, 12:32 AM	#7 (permalink)
Marshmellofluff Upright	You just need to tell her. Tell her it's not that you don't like kissing her, and try to break it gently. Maybe ask her if there's anything you do that she wants you improve upon.