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This question is for all the women. how important is oral sex compared to penatration and do you like when a guy throws in some anal tongue action.

what is the minimum number of days a couple should have sex in a week

mixedmedia

ummm, I think all the sexes are important, but I definitely prefer intercourse to oral sex.
That said, there's no reason why one should have to chose one over the other. You can do both!
...and I love anal tongue action, yes!

I don't think there is a minimum number of days a week. Right now, I'm in a new live-in relationship + we both have high sex drives which = a lot of sex...I'd say 10-12 times a week. That could change over time, though, you know? I've been in relationships where the sex was much less frequent.

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Daniel_

My wife seems happy enough with our schedule, which varies from that outlined above some weeks, to gaps of 3-4 days at times (if tiredness, work, stress, illness etc get in the way).

As for the anal tongue action, a rough poll of my male friends and my own experiences indicates that it is popular at times, and not at others. Scientific, eh?

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little_tippler

There is a time for oral and a time for penetration. I don't have a preference, it just depends on my mood, since I love both!

I've never had any anal tongue action so I couldn't say.

I think in a healthy relationship sex should occur as often as both partners want it. I don't know about putting a number on it. It's nice if you can get it every day, obviously!

By the way, it is customary for the OP to give their own take on the question they put forward

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Radio Monk33

This Anonymous Member function is getting kind of ridiculous. I mean, it's one thing if people don't want to share their obscure fetishes or less than legal actions, but when a poster doesn't even want to be identified by this vanilla of a question? And doesn't even put in their own input? Srsly. It kind of cheapens the point of the message board.

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Martian

The offence of this thread, insofar as there is one, is the OP not sharing his/her opinion. The anonymous posting function exists so that people can discuss things that they wouldn't normally be comfortable discussing.

Comfort levels, like Opinions, Vary.

EDIT - as for us, we don't schedule sex. When nothing gets in the way we probably average 2-3 times per week. Oral sex is a part of that as often as not.

But I don't go near the pooper. It's a rule of mine.

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savmesom11

each and every time.....unless of course your sneaking in a quick one while the kids are outside....

2nd question all depends on the couple, sorry

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ChilliNy

I really like oral..follwed by penetration. My boyfriend must have went to a University to learn that technique, but becuase he is so good, I've stepped up my oral techniqe.
As for the minimum number of days to have sex...it depends like the others said.

StephanieH

Lucky for me, hubby LOVES to go down on me, so I usually get that every day. Sometimes no intercourse, but I like to get both.
Ideally, I get some oral (yes, anal oral too) and intercourse. I can orgasm either way, or manually, etc, but it's just so much better from intercourse.

thirdsun

Well, the OP says this was for women, but I noticed Daniel_ jumped right in, so I will, too.

I say, lick her until she comes and then fuck her until she comes some more. Why not?

If the two of you enjoy both and it gets you both off, then go for it.

And a minimum? What kind of question is that? Fuck, do it every day if you want. Do it three or four times a day if you can. Why does there have to be a minimum?

And I'm with Radio Monk33 and Martian. Why is this an anon post? And oh, BTW, anon hasn't been back to check on their thread or respond. Granted, I've only been here a few months, but it's obviously a very vanilla question for TFP.

Baraka_Guru

For the benefit of the thread.....

Average frequency of sex per year:

• 18-29 years: 112
• 30-39 years: 86
• 40-49 years: 69

or (approximately) per month:

• 18-29 years: 9
• 30-39 years: 7
• 40-49 years: 6

Source: Piccinino, LJ, Mosher, WD. Trends in contraceptive method use in the United States: 1982-1994. 1998. Family Planning Perspectives. Vol. 30(1): 4-10 & 6, Table 1.

The Kinsey Institute - Sexuality Information Links - FAQ [Related Resources]

This is just from one study, but I've seen similar numbers elsewhere.

Here you will find the yearly numbers ranging from 98 to 132, or 49 if you're single.

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Salem

My girlfriend loves getting eaten out, So i probably do it...3 times a week minimum. There is, however, no "right" number of sex to have per week. Just go with the flow. Have sex when you want to have sex. Some people have high sex drives, some people have low sex drives.