Blow Job - what do guys want?
 

Ok, I've been thinking about this for quite a while and I've had a look and I can't see an existing thread to point me in the right direction.

I'm after some general advice. I've never asked before - who do I ask?

So ..... Guys - what makes a blow job great?
What do you like us to do with our tongues, fingers, etc.

I think I'm doing alright. I haven't had the "tap" to come back up :thumbsup:
Should I go fast, slow, deep throat .... what feels best?

Thanks!!

Yes all that and more often. Never heard a guy complain "she just won't stop giving me BJ's."

you might get some ideas from here...

http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/tilted-...atisfying.html

and here...

http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/hall-fa...job-guide.html

Awesome! Thanx Uncle Phil!:thumbsup:

No teeth is a must. I haven't been given too much head in my life, but the few experiences I've had, the girls have always used their teeth. I have no idea why but it didn't feel good at all. Something I really enjoyed was getting the head of my dick getting licked like an ice cream cone. I'm getting turned on just typing about it! :D

some surprises, unpredictability...
combination of BJ and handwork, if he is long enough
pretend as if eating a cornetto ice cream

if you can sense its coming and can stop it, by pinching or slapping, just to prolong.

not that i had all this experienced, just my 2 cents :)

I don't mind the teeth. Actually, any kind of bj any time is fine with me. The more (and there never is enough) the better. I actully prefer the 69 position the most...

I know that this has been touched on before... more than once.

My 2 cents, the one thing that separates a good blowjob from a great blowjob is enthusiasm. We can really tell if you are just down there because you feel like you should, or you think it is what we want but you aren't really that into it yourself. If you love doing it and let that come across in your enthusiasm, then you are giving us great head.

Some other tips: Don't tease. You want to do it. He wants you to do it. Go ahead and do it.
Take off your top. As mentioned above, topless BJs are better.

Enthusiasm is the key. It is very different if you are actually enjoying doing it.

Lady in public, whore in bed. Thats all I ask.

teeth is good
licking is good
cupping the balls is good
grabbing the balls is good
finger in the anus is good
slow is good
fast is good
both hands is good
one hand is good
fingers is good
lips is good
tongue is good
swallowing is good
spitting is good
facial is good
while sitting is good
while standing is good
while lying down is good
while driving is good

pretty much all of it is good :D

As the philosopher said: "let me tell you about the worst blowjob I ever had. It was great"

But I like teeth.

I concur. Except with the "spitting" bit. That's silly. Just deal with it. It isn't like girls taste delicious 24/7.

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It's been said. Enthusiasm is really key. A blowjob with a smile and a wink is a great blowjob.

yes

Fugly, go find a picture of a "smiling blowjob" for the thread so we can NSFW it.

Where's my smile?!

...

Ooh, wait...

Physically: do as you girls like the guys do. be creative and try every combination of speed and location and technique. you will know how well you're doing based on how much your guy's moaning. i also concur with the no teeth rule - unless u want to give something really rough and nasty.

Emotionally: i think attitude / enthusiasm is the very important. show him that you love the man, his penis, and giving him pleasure.

I like "I am going to get you off" confidence. Too many girls are hesitant because they don't know if what they're doing feel good. That's when I start to lose it. I want whoever is sucking my cock to look and act like they're not afraid of it.

I just want it....

Preferences are individual, not sure if there's a universally accepted method, but I haven't had one I didn't like. Some pleasure, some pain, teasing is good, but for the love of Pete, please finish

she's trying to smile...


http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v1...l/truelove.jpg

What makes one great to me? Just getting one.

If I could be picky...it's a mix of what other people have said....enthusiasm, no teeth, 69 position, and being licked like an ice cream cone. Also the ability to not have to worry about ejaculation would be nice. Like I said though, this is all being picky. I'm thrilled as it stands now just getting one.

Thanks, UnclePhil. I like that girl. She can massage my feet with her large intestine.

I'll assume you mean "...not worry about what she'll think/do/say when I ejaculate."

Since that's really the only funtime e-brake issue guys have with blowjobs.

I mean, seriously... just let Old Faithful go off wherever. It's only semen, ya prudes.

Heh, nothing like starting off with the "I'm going to *own* you" smile before going down. :thumbsup:

Yeah, that would be what I mean. Big funtime e-brake (love that term).

In a nutshell, let him relax and enjoy.

Two Words: Deep Throat.

:Giggety:

Halx, I've seen pics of you, yeah....,

They are all scared of it!!! For ALL intents and purposes!!

And while you're at it, be SURE to look up and stare him directly into his eyes while thinking, "(His name here..), I'm going to rock your world".

Eyes, eyes, eyes. That is all.

Because really... they are afraid, and it would be an act. I have only seen pictures and it scares the ba-jesus out of me.

Ready for this [because I don't think you are]:

I don't like blow jobs that much. BAM.

Maybe you've only had shitty unenthusiastic ones? :paranoid:

Naw. I'm just not a huge fan. I know I'm not alone on this but I'm aware that I'm in the minority. A couple of guys and I were sitting around the other night talking about it and a girl in the room asked what everyone was into, blah blah blah, and five out of the nine guys said they weren't big into it.

I mean they aren't terrible (they do however suck; ba dum csh) and I enjoy it enough but I'm not BJ-crazy by any stretch of the imagination.

I'm still learning what my boyfriend likes during blowjobs So far he likes:

- being able to see my ass
- being able to smack my ass
- deep throating it (I can only do this if I haven't eaten for a while.. otherwise my gag reflex affects how well I deep throat him)
- using my hands to stroke while I suck
- (apparently the base of his shaft is very sensitive as well as the head of his penis)
- when I don't touch his balls... even though I've been told by guy friends that they actually enjoy having their balls touched and played with
- being able to see me suck him
- being able to finger me and whatnot.. but he doesn't like 69 for some reason....



That's what I've learned my guy likes so far...


Also, I'm not AFRAID of my guy's penis.... I just wish he'd shave more often. >_<

Have you clearly communicated that to him yet?

I know that I respond positively to virtually any suggestions that entail me getting more/better sexual activity. :D

Lips wrapped around the shaft with tongue action around the corona and along the frenulum.

Don't try to stick your tongue down the urethra. That hurts.

See all the abov:)e.....

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Tongue catheter? Ouch...

1. Do the up and down action
2. Slurp and make it wet
3. Look like you really really like it!

... so basically:

WE WANT our crotches ravaged like starving lions on plump wildebeest.
PLUS hot-hot eye contact with slobbery satisfying noises, lotsa general enthusiasm
AND no squeamish bullshit about where the tongue is going or where Old Faithful is detonating

I guess after reading all the replys here, you can tell that a lot of the guys will enjoy pretty much anything :)

But there seems to be a devide on the teeth issue. Personally I prefer no teeth, but I guess it depends if the teeth are sharp or smooth. My GF's teeth are quite sharp, so its not something I like to have grase the head of my penis.

I have had teeth used before and its been quite nice, but for me it always feels too much like a dry moment (in the sensation it gives).

Spitting is something I really don't like to see, but its more the sound that is made. The same goes for deepthroating, results in too much gagging/sound and oftern lots of drooling. That for me is a big turn off.

What turns me on then, well for the most part knowing that SHE wants to give me one is a big turn on. Maybe its because its feels like I'm not nagging for it (not that I do ofc), or its the fact that I know she'll be enjoying it as well.. sometimes I know she does it as a dominative roll. She knows she is giving me pleasure and has control over making me cum, if at all.

There are times where she'll crawl up to me while we're watching tv or a movie on the sofa, get my penis out and start sucking away until I'm hard and then leave it; go back to watching the TV until I get soft again.

Blow jobs usually consist of a lot of head and a bit of ball work. I'm not too sensative on the actual shaft of the penis so we tend to leave that alone.

The head of the penis, is licked much like you're licking a lollypop or icescream on a cone. Around the ridge of the head where its darkest in colour is the most sensitive part for me. Using the tongue around there and puckering up the lips (as to kiss) while moving them just over and around that part of the head is really nice.
The top of the tongue where it's roughest makes a really nice texture to rub along the top of the head, in twirling motion.

Moving around in a 90 degree motion while going up and down on the head of the penis create a nice effect, much like the twirling of the tongue. This same effect can be used to masturbate using the shaft of the penis, and usually results in pusing me over the edge a lot quicker so is good for quickie blow jobs.

The balls are nice to be caressed, shuffled around in the sack (something you'll have to take your time with here as they're all different and some are VERY sensative from what I've heard) mine are quite fine and I can enjoy them being squeesed and the sack being pulled and stretched (the inside of the legs are also nice to be scratched too). Rolling the skin between the finger and thumb and using finger nails to scratch the skin is nice.
Although it won't be nice for all men at all, I enjoy having one ball sucked into the mouth and the tongue rub it a bit as I continue to be jacked off.

Finally, when I do cum I much prefer to do it where most of the action as taken place that got me at the point of no return. When I say that, I mean if I'm enjoying having a blow job where the head of my penis has been in the mouth using circles around the edge of my head when I get the urge to cum, I'd prefer it if that was contiue to happen until I come (and sometimes for a little while after).
Other times, if I'm having my balls played with and simply being jacked off, I'd not prefer to have my head suddenly covered up when I squirt just to get it in the mouth. The change of temprature, texture, wetness etc is usually something that puts me off the enjoyment of cumming.

Something that really turns me on more then anything is the 'look' she gives me direct into the eyes as she looks up to me with my penis in the mouth. She can't talk, but her eyes says it all. I'm sure some girls can tell you more about how to perfect that look :)

Another thing; my girlfriend doesn't like cum in her mouth, its taken a few years for her to take a squirt in the mouth while giving blowjobs, but a tip she learnt is to use the bottom of her tongue on the top of my penis to stop the cum from shooting down the back of her throat. After that, she just expells the cum either down my shaft or uses a towl wipe her mouth. A glass of water by the bed helps.

Communication and experimentation is the key, try new things, include things you know will work and get him to tell you what he is enjoying. A lot of the time he wont know himself if hes not used to telling you what he likes or doesn't like.

*standing O*
i believe this exactly what the young lady was looking for. instructions! communication is more important than anything else in any healthy relationship. being able to tell your SO what you like/dislike is as important as her giving you the "please cum in my mouth" eyes.

and for the record, i'm one of those extremely sensitive balls kind of guys, but i'm learning to let her play with them as long as it's gentle. and yes i do make sure to manscape everything in the vicinity. don't want any of that fromunderstench making those come-fuck-me eyes water!

I need rough tongue/mouth action. No sensual slow stuff, as I honestly just don't feel it. I suffer from depression, and take meds (welbutrin) that supposedly help with sex as opposed to other depression drugs, but still, it's hard for me to feel pleasure sometimes. So to stay on topic, yeah, everything is great, but it has to happen with ENTHUSIASM. :-)

Wake him up by doing it before the alarm clock goes off.

my favorite kind of blow job involves a vagina.

Sometimes the need for 'the first thing in the morning pee' can cause problems for guys when they're trying to enjoy a BJ. It does for me.

fucking brilliant.


That being said, spontaneity is fantastic as well. My wife, with a few beers in her (of course), surprised me one time at a company picnic at a park. We had walked to find the public restrooms (some outhouse style thing) and on the way back there was a big shrub/tree blocking view from the pavillion and she stopped, unzipped me, took it on like a rockstar and I swear to this day, it's the best blowjob she's ever given me. The danger factor, combined with the surprise of it and the intensity she showed was enough to put me over the edge good enough to talk about it a decade later obviously.