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runningwild · 07-02-2003, 01:16 PM

Ok. My girlfriend and I have decided to have a threesome with another girl. We want it to be a stranger. There are plenty of bars in our area so we will properly go to one of them to find someone.

My question is how should we approach someone. Should we both approach, or one of us? If one of us, which one? What should we say?

To be straight forward I don’t need any advise on weather or not we should go through with this. It seems like that is how most threesome threads go.

lurkette · 07-02-2003, 02:05 PM

Hrm...never having done this, I don't know, but it seems to me a well-worded personals ad in your local indie paper would be better than meeting someone at a bar.

How exactly does one handle these sorts of things? I'm interested, too, in hearing how people have proposed a threesome to a friend or stranger.

Fake Alias · 07-02-2003, 02:11 PM

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Originally posted by lurkette
Hrm...never having done this, I don't know, but it seems to me a well-worded personals ad in your local indie paper would be better than meeting someone at a bar.

No offence but I would find that just embarassing..

Just go to a bar, talk to some people, bring up the subject, if they are into it, there you go! If not then move on. You cant be nervous. Whats the worst that could happen.

GoldenOuroboros · 07-02-2003, 03:45 PM

personals.. they seem to be it..

Slims · 07-02-2003, 09:57 PM

Let your girl go hit on whomever you want to join you guys. You are a lot more likely to meet with success that way.

bender · 07-03-2003, 07:31 AM

Yup, let your girl do the fishing so to speek.

07-03-2003, 08:33 AM

I tend to stay more on the single woman track, but I have friends that uses personals with great success.

dudemac · 07-03-2003, 12:10 PM

If you are really serious about it, I would reccomend a hooker, made everything easier on me and my wife.

However, i would suggest a bar, with an upbeat client list and find a chick who is interested in you and then have your g/f ask her about the whole thing. Women feel more at ease and less like they are being ambushed.

But do not be surprised if you find that you fantasy does not transfer well into reality. Also if you do have a bad time, at least give it one more chance. And above all else, pay more attention to your g/f and finish with her.

World's King · 07-03-2003, 12:10 PM

I would think that you are more likley to find a freak from a personal ad.

If it's the first experince with it I would stick to someone a little more innocent (as much as possible) so it doesn't get out of hand. But then again if the perosn is innocent they probably won't be eating out a girl while getting done up the ass. Just my opinion.

dudemac · 07-03-2003, 12:14 PM

We were in Reno and thought , what the hell. She was a legal hooker at the moonlite bunny ranch. And it was great. No small talk no is this going to freak her out. And my wife loved it cause there was not pressure on satisfiy the person we are paying. This has been my only experiance with a hooker, but it was very pleasent.

dawnylou · 07-03-2003, 04:44 PM

Let your girl handle it!

Honestly you may find that you are surprised how easily other girls who are up for it will approach her.

runningwild · 07-03-2003, 05:05 PM

Thanks for all of the advise. Most of you have said that she should do the talking. What should she say? I'm thinking the best thing is to be straight forward and say "would you like to have a threesome?" Tell me what you think.

dudemac · 07-03-2003, 06:58 PM

Don't beat around the bush, but also don't hold up a sign. You might be better off seeking out a swingers group and see if there are any single women looking for fun. Depends on where you live, but i am sure you can find the woman you are looking for. Just don't think you can pull a fast one and ask her over for drinks then bring out the lube

I am sure you won't but thought i would throw it in.

dawnylou · 07-04-2003, 01:43 AM

Yeah don't go up to her and ask!
Let you gf go over to her and chat & have a couple of drinks with her.
Then you go over and join them, cue more drinks.
After a while decide you are going and invite her back to your place for a drink.
If she says yes, she probably has an idea what's going on and is up for it.
Then at home after a couple mention that you have both always wanted to, but don't ask her to.
Watch her reaction. If reaction is ok, then ask her for her opinion on the subject?
Then just take it from there.

If she says no, make sure your attitude with her doesn't change though, just be nice and say bye

butthead · 07-04-2003, 08:30 AM

Straight-forward, know that it might "change things", and that it would be wise to discuss these things beforehand SOBER.

Why increase the risk that someone is going to be really uncomfortable later on?

KeyserSoze · 07-05-2003, 06:42 AM

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Originally posted by dudemac
We were in Reno

I shot a man in Reno...just to watch him die

But seriously, my X and I use to go to strip clubs and I would let her handle the situation, it always worked out for the best

isandro · 07-07-2003, 11:50 AM

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After a while decide you are going and invite her back to your place for a drink.
If she says yes, she probably has an idea what's going on and is up for it.
Then at home after a couple mention that you have both always wanted to, but don't ask her to.
Watch her reaction. If reaction is ok, then ask her for her opinion on the subject?
Then just take it from there.

If she says no, make sure your attitude with her doesn't change though, just be nice and say bye

Just be prepared for it not to happen, so you won't be dissapointed!

Keep us informed, i'd like to how it goes

07-02-2003, 01:16 PM	#1 (permalink)
runningwild Tilted	How should we...... Ok. My girlfriend and I have decided to have a threesome with another girl. We want it to be a stranger. There are plenty of bars in our area so we will properly go to one of them to find someone. My question is how should we approach someone. Should we both approach, or one of us? If one of us, which one? What should we say? To be straight forward I don’t need any advise on weather or not we should go through with this. It seems like that is how most threesome threads go.

07-02-2003, 02:05 PM	#2 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	Hrm...never having done this, I don't know, but it seems to me a well-worded personals ad in your local indie paper would be better than meeting someone at a bar. How exactly does one handle these sorts of things? I'm interested, too, in hearing how people have proposed a threesome to a friend or stranger. __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

07-02-2003, 03:45 PM	#4 (permalink)
GoldenOuroboros The Cheshire Grin... Location: An Aussie Outback	personals.. they seem to be it.. __________________ Can you see me grin grin grrriiiiinnnning?!

07-02-2003, 09:57 PM	#5 (permalink)
Slims Eccentric insomniac Location: North Carolina	Let your girl go hit on whomever you want to join you guys. You are a lot more likely to meet with success that way. __________________ "Socialism is a philosophy of failure, the creed of ignorance, and the gospel of envy, its inherent virtue is the equal sharing of misery." - Winston Churchill "All men dream: but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act out their dream with open eyes, to make it possible." Seven Pillars of Wisdom, T.E. Lawrence

07-03-2003, 12:10 PM	#8 (permalink)
dudemac Tilted Location: College Station, TX	If you are really serious about it, I would reccomend a hooker, made everything easier on me and my wife. However, i would suggest a bar, with an upbeat client list and find a chick who is interested in you and then have your g/f ask her about the whole thing. Women feel more at ease and less like they are being ambushed. But do not be surprised if you find that you fantasy does not transfer well into reality. Also if you do have a bad time, at least give it one more chance. And above all else, pay more attention to your g/f and finish with her. __________________ Dudemac Author Somewhere

07-03-2003, 07:31 AM	#6 (permalink)
bender Addict Location: around the corner	Yup, let your girl do the fishing so to speek.

07-03-2003, 08:33 AM	#7 (permalink)
smithja0423 Guest	I tend to stay more on the single woman track, but I have friends that uses personals with great success.

07-03-2003, 12:10 PM	#9 (permalink)
World's King Here Location: Denver City Denver	I would think that you are more likley to find a freak from a personal ad. If it's the first experince with it I would stick to someone a little more innocent (as much as possible) so it doesn't get out of hand. But then again if the perosn is innocent they probably won't be eating out a girl while getting done up the ass. Just my opinion. __________________ heavy is the head that wears the crown

07-03-2003, 12:14 PM	#10 (permalink)
dudemac Tilted Location: College Station, TX	We were in Reno and thought , what the hell. She was a legal hooker at the moonlite bunny ranch. And it was great. No small talk no is this going to freak her out. And my wife loved it cause there was not pressure on satisfiy the person we are paying. This has been my only experiance with a hooker, but it was very pleasent. __________________ Dudemac Author Somewhere

07-03-2003, 04:44 PM	#11 (permalink)
dawnylou Tilted Location: UK	Let your girl handle it! Honestly you may find that you are surprised how easily other girls who are up for it will approach her. __________________ "A blowjob is just like having a wank in the bath" "I'd say it was more like fucking someones face"

07-03-2003, 05:05 PM	#12 (permalink)
runningwild Tilted	Thanks for all of the advise. Most of you have said that she should do the talking. What should she say? I'm thinking the best thing is to be straight forward and say "would you like to have a threesome?" Tell me what you think. __________________ Running Wild

07-03-2003, 06:58 PM	#13 (permalink)
dudemac Tilted Location: College Station, TX	Don't beat around the bush, but also don't hold up a sign. You might be better off seeking out a swingers group and see if there are any single women looking for fun. Depends on where you live, but i am sure you can find the woman you are looking for. Just don't think you can pull a fast one and ask her over for drinks then bring out the lube I am sure you won't but thought i would throw it in. __________________ Dudemac Author Somewhere

07-04-2003, 01:43 AM	#14 (permalink)
dawnylou Tilted Location: UK	Yeah don't go up to her and ask! Let you gf go over to her and chat & have a couple of drinks with her. Then you go over and join them, cue more drinks. After a while decide you are going and invite her back to your place for a drink. If she says yes, she probably has an idea what's going on and is up for it. Then at home after a couple mention that you have both always wanted to, but don't ask her to. Watch her reaction. If reaction is ok, then ask her for her opinion on the subject? Then just take it from there. If she says no, make sure your attitude with her doesn't change though, just be nice and say bye __________________ "A blowjob is just like having a wank in the bath" "I'd say it was more like fucking someones face"

07-04-2003, 08:30 AM	#15 (permalink)
butthead Loser Location: SF Bay Area, CA	Straight-forward, know that it might "change things", and that it would be wise to discuss these things beforehand SOBER. Why increase the risk that someone is going to be really uncomfortable later on?