FuglyStick

I saw this on another forum, so I adopted it for a poll here.

What sexual behavior must your partner be willing to participate in, or risk jeopardizing the entire relationship? Vote for all that apply.

(Son of a...Now I can't post with a poll. Your options are here--)

Sex
Oral sex
Anal sex
Bondage
Role playing
Threesome
Dirty talk
Spanking
Submission/Domination

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I'm rather dull myself--

Sex X
Oral sex X
Anal sex
Bondage
Role playing
Threesome
Dirty talk
Spanking
Submission/Domination

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Punk.of.Ages

The only one of these I require is sex. Without sex I would be unhappy.

The rest (except for threesomes if it's a committed relationship) would all simply be bonuses.

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cadre

Sex X
Oral sex X
Anal sex
Bondage X
Role playing
Threesome
Dirty talk X
Spanking X
Submission/Domination X

For me it's not that someone has to be into doing any particular thing, it's that they have to be open to trying things. I tend to not set hard and fast rules but people who are unwilling to try new things tend to turn me off anyways.

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Bear Cub

Captures my list and thoughts dead-on. They have to at least be open to light bondage, spanking, and sub/dom, not necessarily full blown whips and chains. Since I pretty much have the mindset that any future relationships will start as sex and develop from there, odds are we're not going to click if they're not open to trying anyways.

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Xerxys

Hmmm, despite the fact that I would do all this .... I am also dull like you fugly,

sex X
Oral Sex X

The rest aren't deal breakers but I also think that if she isn't open minded enough to try (no complications being the case).... I would have a hard time deciding on other factors.

wayneferrell479

I find that the heat of the moment can often change what one is willing to do. Sometimes this can broaden your horizon. Other times it can have dire consequences

inBOIL

I think the only certain dealbreaker for me would be sex. Oral would be a dealbreaker if I couldn't give, but I might be able to do without receiving. Dirty talk and sub/dom would be disappointing if absent, and the others would be no big deal.

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Telluride

Sex and oral sex are my only musts.

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rahl

Sex x
oral sex x
anal sex x


these are my must haves. I do enjoy the others but these three are the deelbreakers for me.

kutulu

No way could I live without BJs.

World's King

All.



Yippie.

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Terrell

Sex x
Oral sex
Anal sex
Bondage
Role playing
Threesome
Dirty talk x
Spanking
Submission/Domination

The one's xed are the ones that are necessary (of the things listed), most of the rest are optional. The dirty talk thing, is because I have a bit of a sick sense of humor, so it's not going to go over well if she finds dirty jokes offensive. I'll pass on the anal. Oral is okay, so long as she keeps herself clean down there (it doesn't bother me if she doesn't want to go down, as long as she's still willing to do regular sex).

Zeraph

Just sex (shouldn't that just be a given?) Don't care a ton about oral. It's nice, but hardly a must.

Skitto

I seem to lead into stuff... stuff that neither of us even tried before... and we do well at it.

(XX) kissing
(X)Sex
(mm..)Oral sex
()Anal sex
()Bondage
(O)Role playing
()Threesome
()Dirty talk
()Spanking
(O)Submission/Domination

Always wanted to know what's so great about legs...

little_tippler

I don't have any sexual dealbreakers really. I mean, it's not an ultimatum kind of thing for me. If I am in love with someone and everything else is great, I don't know. I can't be this final about it somehow. People can withstand a lot.

I would like there to be kissing, sex, and occasional oral. Some of the others could be nice every so often too.

Now if you tell me reverse dealbreakers - things that would be dealbreakers to my partner if they were expected - I can think of plenty of those.

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We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.

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snowy

While I certainly enjoy some of these activities, none of them are really dealbreakers for me; like cadre said, the true dealbreaker is a partner's unwillingness to try an activity, even once. So I x'd the activities I really like to be a part of my sex life (fortunately for me they are ).


Sex X
Oral sex X
Anal sex
Bondage X
Role playing X
Threesome
Dirty talk X
Spanking XXX
Submission/Domination X

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Ayashe

I have to echo you right here. I need experiences, not necessarily any particular one.

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SabrinaFair

The only major deal-breaker I would have in every situation would be someone who didn't have sex at all. Other than that, I'd have to take a look at all relevant evidence before rendering a verdict. It would depend on how satisfied I felt and how much in love I was, among other things.

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Sherk

Yeah, it all depends on the person. I mean, I could be with a girl that doesn't do stuff at all, if she's the right person (and open to me being with other people, obviously, if I can't get it at home).

What I'd like?
All of the above, save threesomes. Any time that I've tried that with a relationship, things get ugly, quickly. Jealousy is a beast.

braisler

Need

Sex (x)
Oral sex (xxx) I LoVE oral!

Want/Like

Anal sex (x)
Threesome (xx)
Dirty talk (x)

Maybe we should start a thread about what we have to offer a potential partner. In that case, I'd be up for any and all of the above list, at least to try. The above list, and a number of others. I'm a very sexual person and I'll try just about anything or anyone.

NorthernGirl

Oral sex --------
dirty talk----------
a little roughness is fun sometimes
open mind
willing to try new things
will watch porn

bloody_rose20

Sex X
Oral sex
Anal sex X
Bondage
Role playing
Threesome
Dirty talk
Spanking
Submission/Domination X

See I am the same way...I mainly just need sex. Without it, I become a very bitchy woman lol. And I am not big on oral. Getting it is fun once and awhile, but its not something that needs to be done. Don't get me wrong when its done very well, its nice lol. My man is very good at it, but I like penetration and being dominated and having rough sex a million times better than getting oral. *shrugs* Then again, he isn't too big on recieving oral as well lol he is like me; he will take it if I give it, but doesn't care if he gets it or not because its the actual sex that gets him off the best ^_^

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Xerxys

Sex
Oral sex
Anal sex
Bondage
Role playing
Threesome
Dirty talk
Spanking
Submission/Domination

Pffft, I'd do all the above in a heartbeat ....

Charlatan

No sex is the only dealbreaker. The rest is necessary but certainly welcome.

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cdwonderful

Sex X
Oral sex x
Anal sex
Bondage
Role playing x
Threesome
Dirty talk x
Spanking x
Submission/Domination x

of course EVERYTHING is negotiable............

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lostgirl

Sex is my only dealbreaker. If I'm not getting any, I am one grumpy girl.

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Plan9

Sex - X, Obviously. Seems straightforward enough and yet requires perfect conditions.
Oral sex - X, Copious amounts of giving and receiving, please. I'm a fiend.
Anal sex - X, And the LORD said: go forth and fill all available holes.
Bondage - X, A little bondage tape is fine, but no ball gags or gimp-kinky shit. I prefer sex to be relaxed.
Role playing - _, I'd have a hard time taking it seriously, I'm a total goofball.
Threesome - X, Maybe but I'd have to be really comfortable with my partner / FWB. Seems like a landmine.
Dirty talk - X, As long as its classy; I don't appreciate crude language. Go figure, right?
Spanking - X, Occasional schmackin' during the act, but deliberate focus on it would make me feel like a goon.
Submission/Domination - _, Not really my thing, seems like daddy issue stuff. I like mutual comfort.

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Zenturian

There has to be sex, oral sex, dom sub, role play and dirty talk.

ItWasMe

My only real deal breakers:
Kissing XXX
Touching (lay there like a potato and expect me do to everything, I'll leave) XXX
Sex X

Oral sex (not mandatory, but I would definitely miss it)
Anal sex
Bondage (eh, no. I'm a bit claustrophobic and if I can't move I feel the same way)
Role playing
Threesome
Dirty talk
Spanking (A big no-no. Generally go from happy to bitch when hit what-so-ever)
Submission/Domination (doesn't work well, I'm more of a give-and-take gal)

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Milnoc

Sex and oral sex are the absolute essentials. The rest is optional, but I do prefer partners who are open-minded enough to try something different at least once. Anal is the only one that can be left out entirely with no repercussions whatsoever because of the real possibility that I could hurt someone.

creepysusie

To be perfectly honest with many others, all I really need is sex! Oral is great and all, but I don't absolutely HAVE to have it.
It would actually be a deal breaker for me if I had to commit to the threesome thing. I don't like to share.
And depending on the level of S&M we are talking about... that might be something that would make me split as well.

CinnamonGirl

hmmmm....well sex, obviously. And I suppose oral. I like it a little rough, and if he's not into that, I can see getting really frustrated.


Other than that, though, it's all good.

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Strange Famous

Anything other than the top two strikes me as a bit rich for my tastes.

I wouldnt date someone who wanted to tie me up and hit my arse with a paddle for example, but if they just liked say mild restraint although it wouldnt especially increase my feeling I could go along with it for their sake - so its a matter of degree,

Of the above the dealbreakers for me would be

Anal - absolutely someting I wouldnt do and thats full stop. There are no instances I would willingly carry this out with a woman (or a man for that matter) and I wouldnt date someone who expected this kind of behaviour

Role Playing - I dont know what this really means in the context of sex, I suppose like dressing up as a fireman or whatever... if so thats pretty harmless. But if it means dressing up in an adult nappy, thats a definite no

Spanking - absolutely no interest, but might put up with some instances of it if it was mild (ie - not physically bruising)

Submisson - if it was like once a year she wants to dress up as a police woman and handcuff me I could put up with it. If she wants to wear leather and be called "mistress" then no way. Obviously I would take up any kind of dominant role myself - as violence towards women, even when consensual is personally abhorent to me.

Dirty Talk - not something I really find attractive, but I swear so much myself Im not in a position to be so moral about it,
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In terms of things that I would require in a relationship... probably for the right person I could do without any of them as long as there was some level of intimacy, but really I would prefer for either sex or oral sex to be on the table and in an ideal world both, but worst case scenario you could settle for a hand job.

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BackwoodsmanVA

Anal is something I would like to give a try if the lady is willing....
I need blowjobs!That is a dealbreaker!

Martian

I don't get the big fuss about oral. I mean, sure it's nice when your lady does her finest Dyson impression on your +1 Staff of Manliness, but it's just one means to an end. There are other ways to get to the same place.

I can't imagine breaking it off with a lady just because she won't spit shine my flagpole.

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Plan9

HAHAHA... you trying to train me for my SCUBA class? I almost drown coughing up the water I was sipping while reading this.

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Martian, Martian, Martian... oral sex is totally required, bro. Every time. It's like... a progression, ya know? The intro in a great song. It all starts with a look, then a hot kiss... then a grope through clothing while you push your way towards a suitable fuck-surface, then the clothes come off / get pushed aside, you exchange oral sex to ready the machinery, and next thing ya know she's bucking on your +1 War Stud while you're palming the sides of her saddle and chanting like an obscene Gregorian monk. Oral sex is a way to figure out what kinda wrestlin' match I'm getting into: slow and sultry or hard and nasty.

Another plus is that oral sex is a good segue to roll on a condom (think of it as sexual punctuation) which is often a minor mood killer otherwise.

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levite

Sex (x)
Oral sex (x)
Anal sex (x)
Bondage
Role playing
Threesome
Dirty talk (x)
Spanking
Submission/Domination

I like the other stuff a lot, but the one's I marked are the dealbreakers. For me, "dirty talk" is mostly to make each other laugh in bed, not get horny, but the rest is serious. Especially oral (I gotta be free to munch the rug) and anal (up-the-butt girls RULE!).

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Whose soul is sense, cannot admit
Absence, because it doth remove
That thing which elemented it.

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Plan9

You, sir, are like the Dos Equis man. I'm learning so much simply by standing in the glow of your greatness.

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Whatever you can carry.

"You should not drink... and bake."

levite

A high compliment coming from you, sir!

But honestly, the beauty part about the oral/anal duo is that liberal time spent giving a lady the former can result in unexpected willingness and enthusiasm concerning the latter....

You gotta love life sometimes...!

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Dull sublunary lovers love,
Whose soul is sense, cannot admit
Absence, because it doth remove
That thing which elemented it.

(From "A Valediction: Forbidding Mourning" by John Donne)

Hellaphli915

Sex X
Oral sex X
Anal sex
Bondage X
Role playing X
Threesome X
Dirty talk
Spanking X
Submission/Domination X

Regular sex is dull and it becomes boring...Gotta keep the sex life alive!!! The tricky thing is finding the girl to do all this plus more!!!