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Try telling her to wake you up very early in the morning and make sex to you. Kind you you should be half asleep and should feel it is half dream half real ...

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Originally Posted by Stiller (Post 2576253)

Well a little update: nothings working! (literally!) :( Last week I stayed at her place and we ended up fooling around for a while then she went to the bathroom and came back completely naked and got in bed with me. She got on top of me and started basically dry-f'ing me and I just couldn't get hard. Finally about another hour later she went down on me and I was able to get something going, and then sex lasted less than 30 seconds...

So she told me it was no big deal and she understands (since I hadn't been with anyone in a few years, etc.) So tonight I was back over at her place.. again she got completely naked in her bed and I just couldn't do it..This is the most embarrassing thing in the world to me and I don't think I'm going to even bother getting into that type of situation with ANYone for a long long time... I just can't take the humiliation anymore. After she fell asleep I snuck out of the bed without saying bye and just left. I don't know what to do.. If I'm here at home browsing the interwebs or watching videos, I have no problem getting an erection by myself.. wam bam I can get one in under 30 seconds no problem but then when I'm going down on a girl or I have a completely naked babe trying to ride me, I just get this anxiety moment where I can't do anything... HELP!

Are there any pills I could take? Like a viagra alternative or something? My self-esteem is shot and I now have 0 confidence

i realize you posted this over about a month ago but are you still with the girl/having problems? she seems really understanding and into you. chicks dig innocence btw, this happening could almost be a good thing, just depends on how you look at it.

their has to be some underlying problem thats causing this anxiety, what is it that your thinking? try and dig deep, even subconsciously. i realize you posted this over about a month ago

Wow. I haven't been to TFP in ages! I'm glad this place is still around. It's always overwhelmed me because it's such a HUGE community, but I've always been very impressed with the quality of the discussions. I know this thread is old, but I'm going thru a similar situation as the OP and this thread came up on my first Google search.

I recently got out of a 5 year relationship and just got involved with a really special woman - unexpectedly, I might add. I'd felt free and alone for a while, so I'm not in this as a "rebound" thing. But I'm feeling the same anxiety as the OP. I got it up for a couple minutes then I started overthinking things. A bunch of things added up to make it worse - had a bunch of beers earlier in the evening and it was real late, so I was crashing (tired) pretty heavy. But, beyond that, i haven't been particularly horny lately, either. I absolutely love to "make love" and be intimate with a woman, and this one is smokin' hot. I tried to explain to her why I was having difficulties but it was difficult because I was trying to figure it out myself. Like the OP, I got no problem in front of the net-porn. I'm relieved to hear people suggest that if one can get it up for porn, one doesn't have an erectile dysfunction. I think part of my problem is I'm so used to pornin' it up that I've spoiled myself for the, much diffirent, real thing. It's hard to admit that I might have an anxiety problem, but I'm more afraid of not being able to fix it. Like someone else said, too much blood to one head doesn't leave any for the other. I need to balance it out.