Tech

some of you may remember my thread from a few months ago about still being a virgin and dealing with the option of losing it ("losing"). for those who want a refresher...

http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/tilted-...ld-virgin.html

several months later and here i am and there it went. i have been casually dating this girl for a couple months, she knew i was a virgin and she didn't have a problem waiting until i was ready. she makes me comfortable, and we have a good physical chemistry. those 3 things are really what i was looking for. she also isn't terribly experienced, so i didn't feel like she was going to have any high expectations. anyway, she was over last night and i figured "no time like the present..."

it was cool. it wasn't mind blowing, but i didn't expect it to be. it doesn't take a genius to figure out *roughly* what it's going to feel like in there when your fingers and tongue have been there already. of course there's always a learning curve... it wasn't blase' either. i had a lot of fun, it was sex, after all.

i spent most of the time thinking about star wars and football. it's like the opposite of masturbating. when i'm taking care of my own business, i think about the most erotic thing i possibly can. i have no need for any foreplay or intimacy, i just want to get off; the less time wasted the better, and frankly my hand isn't doing most of the work, it's my brain. i figured if i was going to last more than 30 seconds with a girl then i was going to have to reverse the process. if i focus on her vagina on my penis and her body writhing in my hands i'm a goner for sure.

why star wars and football? i dunno, it wasn't a pre-determined plan to have to half-distract myself but i noticed pretty quick that it was going to be necessary. star wars was the first thing that came to mind. after a bit i felt that was a little to nerdy for someone who was now a non-virgin so my mind shifted to football, having just earlier watched my alma-mater Texas Tech hand Texas a heaping of humble pie. after a little longer and a few more positions i decided i was through with that and i wanted to focus totally on the moment. lo and behold within probably a minute and a half i was done. she was happy. i was happy. all is well.

how do i feel? i feel fine. i feel like me. nothing feels different other than the fact that i've been thinking about it on and off all day. but that is the same thing that happened the first time i kissed a girl, the first time i got to peel a girl's shirt off, the first time a girl went down on me. i expected no different here.

so there you go. figured you kids would like to know (plus i believe abaya specifically requested an update)

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~I swear sometimes i feel like i'm married to a child.
~You better watch who you're calling a child, Lois, cause if i'm a child than you know what that makes you? a pedophile. and i'll be damned if i'm going to stand here and be lectured by a pervert.

Plan9

Okay. Grood.

Now... try it while listening to Rob Zombie screaming that "Super Beast" song.

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Whatever you can carry.

"You should not drink... and bake."

inBOIL

Welcome to the ranks of the carnally corrupted.

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Baraka_Guru

Don't worry, it gets better. But only if you want it to.

Oh, and congratulations.

But I beat you by about a year....

Not that it's a race or anything.

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Humankind cannot bear very much reality.
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Bear Cub

Step one, sex.

Step two, PIITB!

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uncle phil

hehe...

cromp...love ya, man...

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you both get dirty;
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Plan9

HEY YEAH! I'm the one that you wanted!

HEY YEAH! I'm your...

...

...you get the picture.

Merlen and I do it AWL the time.

You should see what we do when she puts on the Jim Henson's "Labyrinth" soundtrack.

"Dance, magic, dance" indeed!

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Whatever you can carry.

"You should not drink... and bake."

Baraka_Guru

OMG! You can do that?

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Knowing that death is certain and that the time of death is uncertain, what's the most important thing?
—Bhikkhuni Pema Chödrön

Humankind cannot bear very much reality.
—From "Burnt Norton," Four Quartets (1936), T. S. Eliot

Plan9

Pfft, Internal Revenue Service does it all the time.

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Whatever you can carry.

"You should not drink... and bake."

Baraka_Guru

Is that a metaphor?

"Hey, baby, let me do your taxes...." *wink wink*

"Take it, tax man! Take it all!"

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Knowing that death is certain and that the time of death is uncertain, what's the most important thing?
—Bhikkhuni Pema Chödrön

Humankind cannot bear very much reality.
—From "Burnt Norton," Four Quartets (1936), T. S. Eliot

anti fishstick

awesome! i found it kinda funny and offensive at first that you thought about star wars and football. But once you explained your reasoning (to not last embarassingly short amount of time), i guess it made sense. Good strategy :-D

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Plan9

PIITB is clearly a part of the IRS mission statement: Put It In The Butt.

Not that they don't deserve to do such to those who invite it.

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Baraka... don't talk dirty. It's weird when someone of higher intellect does it.

It'd be like if Spock started cracking jokes and talking dirty to Captain Kirk or something.

Just... weird!

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Regarding the thread: Hell, I thought I was a loser when I "lost it" at 18.

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Whatever you can carry.

"You should not drink... and bake."

JStrider

It was a bad ass football game!

good way to celebrate!

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Tech

damn right. that game really made me miss being stuck in that turd of a city.

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-Tim-

~I swear sometimes i feel like i'm married to a child.
~You better watch who you're calling a child, Lois, cause if i'm a child than you know what that makes you? a pedophile. and i'll be damned if i'm going to stand here and be lectured by a pervert.

SabrinaFair

Tech--
Good for you, darlin'!

Best,
Sabrina

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Be cheerful. Strive to be happy."
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abaya

Shit, wow... that's kinda scary that you remembered that, lol. I don't even remember that!! But glad to hear that all went well, and that you had a good time and there wasn't any pressure, anxiety, etc. That's the way to get that whole first time over with.
Congratulations!!! Oh, my, god... now THAT would make me last a VERY long time (thinking about Bowie's nasty crotch package in those purple tights, during that song). Eww.

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for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
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Poppinjay

Just wait until the day comes (hee!) where you and your SO are discussing grocery lists and work while doing it.

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Anormalguy

Funny,

sad,

& so damned true.

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lotsofmagnets

not a sign of achievement? (unless your list of groceries is very short)

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she shed her mountain turning training wheels, for the convenience of the moving sidewalk, that delivers the magnetic monkey children through the mouth of impossible calendar clock, into the devil's manhole cauldron.
physics of a bicycle, isn't it remarkable?

Poppinjay

My grocery list is just fine.

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I think the Apocalypse is happening all around us. We go on eating desserts and watching TV. I know I do. I wish we were more capable of sustained passion and sustained resistance. We should be screaming and what we do is gossip. -Lydia Millet

streak_56

I was on the same boat as you a few years ago. And I just thought to myself afterwards, that was it, thats what I waited 19 years for? I was disappointed but haven't looked back since.

KirStang

Congrats! After my first time (and many subsequent times after) I realized that the emotional bond in sex was much more exhilarating than the slam-bam-thank-you-ma'am. I'd like to think that the feeling of holding her afterwards is better than the sex that comes beforehand.

But maybe, I'm just a big cuddle slut.

blahblah454

You are not the only one KirStang. My little guy doesn't always go off, doesn't matter how good it feels or how tight she is or how much she moans, if I don't have that emotional link I can't get off. Plus holding your woman after when we are all sweaty and out of breath while I am still inside her is pretty amazing.

MSD

Ladies and gentlemen, we have found the only woman on earth who did not spend every possible second staring at David Bowie's crotch while watching that movie.

PearlSonja9

*hugs Tech*

You finally did it!!!

Now, its my turn. *sighs*

Bear Cub

So, did you PIITB yet?

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