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Old 10-19-2008, 10:14 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Sex Toys for couples - Is Help or Problem?

Using dildos that are hard for ever and available in any size, texture and Color. Does this make the partners penis less interesting?

I am planning to gift my gf a dildo. She never used one before. I have some questions and answers will help to buy the right one

Do you use dildos during sex as supplement?
Do you prefer hard rock tool or a soft but rigid one?
Do you prefer a glossy tool or a natural finish?
Do you prefer extra-ordinary length or girth; or something that is not too far from your partners?

I know tastes vary from person to person. But want to know what is more common.

I learnt about fleshlight for men very recently. I will get one soon. It will be help during travel, and at times when we cant do it. Like other things the sex toys for men is pretty standard without too options. So selecting one is very straightforward.
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Old 10-19-2008, 10:29 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Right.

Buy a fleshlight and see if you prefer it over your gf. You won't.

Anyways if you're insecure to the point of feeling these things, don't worry. Most women don't get the majority of their stimulation from the dildo, but from the vibrator. One tactic you can do is let her control the vib on her clit while you massage the g-spot and kiss her. The triple stimulation will send her over the edge in a heartbeat. An old standby position I used with my ex is laying in the spoon position, entering from behind while she used the vibrator on her clit. She would have such intense orgasms it cause me in turn to have the most intense ones of myself as her muscles would clamp down on me.

As for insertion, my ex was not much into it. Sure she would orgasm, but said multiple times she's much rather have me inside her than any toy. Ontop of that, I walked in on her using the rabbit (dildo + vib) and she was only using the vibrator part, not even inserting into herself.

So if you're insecure, avoid the dildo and go vib. Using it together I HIGHLY suggest .
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Old 10-19-2008, 10:55 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Three words.

Vibrating Cock Ring.
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Old 10-19-2008, 12:27 PM   #4 (permalink)
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There's a distinct difference between an inanimate object and a living, breathing person, as Seaver pointed out. A dildo is definitely not preferable over my partner. However, there are ways that we incorporate sex toys (typically ones that vibrate) into our sex life, both together and separately. For instance, he likes using toys on me while I give him a blowjob. It's not necessarily an either/or proposition.
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Old 10-19-2008, 05:45 PM   #5 (permalink)
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i don't have experience with dildos. I think I would prefer a vibrator myself
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Old 10-19-2008, 05:53 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Listen to Seaver. Very good comment. Works for me (wink, wink)
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Old 10-19-2008, 07:39 PM   #7 (permalink)
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In our household we refer to Hitachi's Magic Wand as "Old Faithful"
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The 2 speed vibrator with the big head can rock my Lady's necessary spots, and the fact that you plug it into the wall means there is never a die-down just when it's necessary to maintain the stimulation. Just leave it plugged in beside the bed.
We have a few penetrating vibes, some purchased after rave reviews here at TFP, including a dual action penetrating/massaging rabbit vibe, and a curved g-spot penetrating vibe, as well as a vibrating cock ring . . . they aren't a patch on Old Faithful.
Of course, if your interest is simulating DP, look for something else. But if you want your lady to develop the ability to have multiples while squirting, try the Magic Wand. It works for us.
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Old 10-19-2008, 08:41 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Your questions would probably be answered best by the TFP ladies, but here's my .02.

Does this make the partners penis less interesting?
Not in our experience. My wife enjoys toys, but she wants to feel the real thing, even after having several orgasms with toys that are considerably larger than my penis.


Do you use dildos during sex as supplement?
Yes. One favorite of ours is me using a dildo or vibrator on her while I tongue her clit. D/Vs help to sort-of fulfill her double penetration desire. And they're also handy for those times when I get off too quickly & she's wanting more.

Do you prefer hard rock tool or a soft but rigid one?
Both get the job done, but she seems to favor soft yet rigid.

Do you prefer a glossy tool or a natural finish?
Natural, but I'm not sure what you mean by glossy

Do you prefer extra-ordinary length or girth; or something that is not too far from your partners?
Both, but we rarely use the big toys.
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Old 10-19-2008, 09:17 PM   #9 (permalink)
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In our household we refer to Hitachi's Magic Wand as "Old Faithful" Amazon.com: Hitachi Magic Wand Massager: Health & Personal Care
The 2 speed vibrator with the big head can rock my Lady's necessary spots, and the fact that you plug it into the wall means there is never a die-down just when it's necessary to maintain the stimulation. Just leave it plugged in beside the bed.
We have a few penetrating vibes, some purchased after rave reviews here at TFP, including a dual action penetrating/massaging rabbit vibe, and a curved g-spot penetrating vibe, as well as a vibrating cock ring . . . they aren't a patch on Old Faithful.
Of course, if your interest is simulating DP, look for something else. But if you want your lady to develop the ability to have multiples while squirting, try the Magic Wand. It works for us.
dang, this is the third time i heard the hitachi being mentioned today! i have a friend who uses it and says it's the BEST! Gets her off in no time. I want one now. I just heard about them today... <live under rock>
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Old 10-20-2008, 07:32 AM   #10 (permalink)
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I actually had bought a Hitachi Magic Wand for her. She enjoys it when I use it on her. But she never uses it herself. I give her multiples even before I bought the Wand.
We are experimenting a lot recently
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Old 10-20-2008, 09:32 AM   #11 (permalink)
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I actually had bought a Hitachi Magic Wand for her. She enjoys it when I use it on her. But she never uses it herself. I give her multiples even before I bought the Wand.
We are experimenting a lot recently

We've got something similar at home... I always thought it would be too rough, and loud, judging from the way it works out the knots in one's back muscles. I shudder to think of the havoc it would wreak on such tender spots as the lady's crotch...
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Old 10-20-2008, 10:19 AM   #12 (permalink)
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I rarely use dildos or vibrators, but if I do I would prefer something soft yet rigid. The more natural the better. Length and girth preference is probably different for everyone.

The real thing is ALWAYS better than any size or shape of toy.
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Old 10-20-2008, 11:45 AM   #13 (permalink)
 
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I shudder to think of the havoc it would wreak on such tender spots as the lady's crotch...
Not all crotches are tender. Personally, my clit reacts very well to being jammed between a hard vibrator and my pelvic bone... the more pressure, the better. Using an intense vibrator is sometimes the only way for me to force my clit to give me multiple orgasms.
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Old 10-21-2008, 08:10 AM   #14 (permalink)
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Yeah, my ex had the Magic Wand. Didn't know it was so well received.

Another thing about those, they can help you too. Every once in a while she's turn it on the soft setting and used it on the area just behind my balls while she gave me head. The vibration would hit that area, my balls, and all the way up the shaft. Trust me, it's nice.
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