Is a foot massage a form of cheating?
 

I read in a recent Maxim magazine article that a foot massage ranks just below cheating with a spouse's sibling in terms of severity. Just below foot massage was sleeping with the nanny.

Posted beside the foot massage listing was a picture of Uma Thurman in "Pulp Fiction".

I don't know if any of you saw an old cell phone commercial regarding a man's best friend putting his wife in his Fave Fives.
He told him, you don't give a man's wife a foot massage, and you don't put her in your Fave Fives.
The friend denied any wrongdoing, but as his phone rang, the ring tone for it was the song "Secret Lovers".

What is it about the foot massage that is so risque, dangerous to relationships, or not something to do with another man's significant other?

lol. that's probably just the article writer's subjective belief and nothing more. I'd personally take it with a pinch of salt.

a foot massage is sensual yes, but not sexual at all. A foot massage doesn't even have to be sexual.

If this was true, I would have been in trouble a long time ago. About six years ago, I gave my wife's best friend a foot rub.....at her wedding.....during the reception. No one said anything about it and those who were present thought it was funny. They still have the pictures.

I know a couple of people who have stated that they do not like touching the feet of others. Is it possible that people like this feel that you must have a strong desire for physical contact with a person to overcome their aversion and be willing to touch their feet?

I don't see a problem with it and wouldn't be upset if my wife received a foot rub from someone else but I guess some people consider the physical contact a little too intimate.

Probably some kind of bias by the writer though there are different kinds of foot massage. The more intimate kind, which is more a way to give non-sexual pleasure than to help alleviate any strain or stress, I would be hesitant to perform on another persons SO without their prior consent.
But if the person in question has sore feet I wouldn't even think twice about helping them out.

For the purpose of alleviating pain, I wouldn't hesitate to offer a foot massage to a female friend, regardless of whether or not she's single. However, I would never impulsively do so without a request on her part or complaints of soreness. If the reason behind the massage is to create a sense of intimacy and/or pleasure, it veers into romantic territory and could be considered a form of cheating, or at the very least, a potential stepping stone towards the act.

A foot massage for me is never NOT sexual.

For me it would be cheating.




"I'm the foot fuckin' master."

I would find it rather odd if I mentioned sore feet and some guy started taking off my shoes. Honestly, I would be thinking what the hell? I think a shoulder rub is far less intimate as it wouldn't be required to remove any clothing to receive one. In most social situations other than being off at the beach or water park, your feet should be unexposed.

I guess another way of looking at this would be to ask yourself if you would do the same for someone of your same gender(or to be more clear for some, the gender that does not interest you sexually)

Well I think that if you have a foot fetish which your SO knows about and you go and massage someone else's feet that yes that is cheating because it is sexual for you. That is assuming you were not given permission by your partner.

If your not "into" feet and give a foot massage then no cheating but still it might set your SO off. Better to just massage your partners feet and let it lead into something....

Jesus if a Foot Massage is cheating than stamp WHORE on my forehead.

Didn't Jules and Vincent have this discussion before?

Crap, you beat me to the Pulp Fiction reference.

Probably depends upon what you massage it with.

First, the standard TFP response, which somehow has been missed in this thread: "If telling your significant other that you did 'X' would cause a problem, then 'X' is cheating."

Second, intention. I'm a massage therapist. Long before that, I gave all sorts of casual massages to friends, with no sexual overtones.

Third, based on your other thread Footsie and footjobs are fun!!!, I would guess that it would be cheating if you did this.

That was a part of my point when in my statement earlier that essentially would you perform this regardless of gender? You being a massage therapist, if you saw me complaining of soreness(and we knew each other) I wouldn't think anything of it. I have a friend who is a massage therapist and he does this all the time, no big deal.. he likes to help his friends out and show off his technique.

If random guy/girl "X" approached me and said why don't you take off your shoe and I will give you a massage, I would think it odd. Honestly, I would see it as rather a rather strange offer from anyone I didn't know very well, and most that I do. Of course I am also putting this into a perspective of someone who I don't know very well.

I think what constitutes cheating depends on the relationship, and the understandings you have with your SO. If your SO doesn't care, AND you aren't doing it for a sexual thrill, then no it's not cheating. It does sound like something you might want to clear with the little woman, and possibly the other's husband, beforehand though...... There's nothing more special than a jealous dude with a pistol, looking for numero uno

Christ, I got in a hell of a lot of trouble with ex-GF for just rubbing a friend of hers back. We were both standing and fully clothed. I can't imagine the sh*t storm if I had massaged the girls' feet. I learned. I think it is cheating. Looking back, if there is Any doubt in your mind how your SO will react, just don't do it. It's not worth it.

I didn't know foot massages can be sexual...nor do I see anything sexual about it. I exchange foot massages with a girl friend of mine a few times. They're the only times when I didn't pop a boner touching her or her touching me.

And I beat both of you.

It's only sexual if you frequently gaze up her skirt at her moist panties and begin to rub her calves. Followed by a slow thigh rub and... so on . :rolleyes: