If you were paralyzed and couldn't have sex anymore
 

Would you still insist that your SO/spouse stay monogamous to you?



Our vows included "in sickness and in health..." so, yeah.

you sure do have a lot of questions running round up there dont you! haha not that i mind at all, i think its great to get new blood!

for me..depends on how old we were, kids, how long we'd been with each other.

at the end of the day its not up to me. the final choice i would leave to her. but she'd know what i'd want to hear.

Really. What, do you have a "101 good questions" book or something?

I don't demand exclusivity from my life partners (we're settling on the term "wifelets"!) right now. Don't see why that would change.

That's unpossible. These aren't "good" questions. Just questions.

My answer is contained in the movie "The Waterdance". 2 points if someone gets the referrence.

Your answer is "Helen Hunt's boobs"?

we dont require it now.... one of us being incapacitated wouldnt change that lol

So long as the physical affair did not encroach on our intimacy. I couldn't imagine being celibate for the rest of my life because something bad happened to my SO. I wouldn't wish a fate like that on an enemy.

Sex and love are different things to me. If she needed sex and I couldn't provide it, I would encourage her to find it elsewhere.

Though, for the record, I'm not a big believer in monogamy.

Nope. If the Little Robot ever breaks down, then Mrs. Robot is free. And, frankly, I wouldn't rule it out entirely even without incapacitation. It would have to be 'just sex', though. If she was no longer emotionally invested in me (and, really, I would have trouble blaming her - I'm pretty unbearable when I have a cold, I can't imagine how bad I'd be with a serious, permanent disability), then she needs to Move On.

This is assuming I can no longer reach erection? I'd design and have built a Willdo.

The decision would be hers, as it is today without the incapacitation. My preference would be to maintain the emotional intimacy. I cannot say that it would not bother me if she began a long term exclusive relationship with another man, but I don't think that having a long term / permanent girlfriend would bother me. I try very hard to be open and non-jealous, but our emotional and intellectual intimacy have a great deal invested, and I cannot see releasing that easily or willingly. Physically, not such a big deal. She is my partner for many more things other than just sex. All that being said, if I cannot enjoy sex, or some semblance thereof, I would have some serious re-evaluation to do. It's been a rather high priority to me for as long as I can remember identifying my priorities.

wouldnt bother me at all... *shrug* wouldnt bother me now if she finds a "boy toy" I know she's mine even if she has physical relationships with others, as long as she does so safely

Agreed.

Along the same lines but Taydo sounds more like playdo then a silicon penis.

(Also, Katejack is banned? After all of those contributions?)

There are actually intimacy courses that are provided through neurology clinics(where I live anyway) designed to help couples manage these issues when one partner becomes disabled. I would not rush off to sex with someone else, I would work to discover what other ways we could share our experiences together.

I would wonder where the line would be drawn in this case, being paralyzed is not the only time parts may not be working as they once did. What if your partner has E.D.? Do you run off with the pool guy at that point, or do you try to figure something else out?

If the paralysis is permanently debilitating and prevents me from ever having sex again, the relationship would be opened for her to seek what she needs, and I would expect the same freedom if our positions were reversed. Emotional intimacy can still be maintained while physical pleasure is gained elsewhere. Both are necessary for me, and I am unwilling to become permanently celibate.

It's like you're telepathic.
Or was it because of the volume? I dunno, maybe we should check the transparency thread.

A hundred new threads that garner three posts each is a pretty dubious contribution in my book.

I'm speaking from outside modLand, of course. No idea what went on behind the scenes there.

Dave is a generous and lucky man. :thumbsup:

If I'm not getting any, neither is she!! ;)