A request from your lover
 

I saw this on another forum I frequent, but I was interested in the thoughts of those here.

Question:
Imagine that you discover your lover incapacitated due to alcohol and/or drugs. He or she has left a note requesting that you take sexual advantage of him or her. What would you do?

Not from a note. If she'd requested it verbally before said incapacitation, then maybe. Although I get off on feedback more than friction, usually. Might not be all that fun.

Nothing. Consent earlier in the day doesn't mean I have the right to take advantage after consuming mind-altering substances. Not to mention the term "whiskey dick" has legitimate reasons behind it.

Tuck her in and kiss her good night.

Sloppy drunken sex is fine when I'm participating, too.

if theres no response on the other side, why would you want to?

i'd rather masturbate!..not that i do...:thumbsup:

I find sleeping people to be very sexy. I'm sure those sleep pornos all around the internet aren't all made JUST for me :) I voted Anything I want, but really I don't think I'd do anything just because there's a letter saying I could. I'd rather talk about it beforehand and it'd have to be without any kind of illegal drugs or mixture of drugs/alcohol.

I find no reason to try to explain a fetish.. It just is what it is. :)

Sorta squicky, unless we'd talked about it beforehand. If she really wanted me to take advantage of her unconscious form, if it was a "thing" for her, I suppose I could get myself up for it. But having her spring it on me wouldn't be hot. I'd tuck her in and make sure she's on her stomach and go sleep elsewhere.

cybermike: you can't explain a fetish, and it's not necessary to, so don't even bother. We like what we like. Sometimes we know why and sometimes not.

Nothing. I'd much rather them be dead than just play dead.

No way could I do that. It's too 'creepy date rape guy' for my liking. I'm definitely not into that sort of thing, and I think there would be a discussion about springing something like that on me when she was sober again.

Teabag + polaroid.

Seriously, it would depend on exactly what you mean. If my girlfriend left a note saying that I could do whatever I wanted, I would probably interpret that as her feeling guilty for passing out before the night was over, and I'd do nothing. If it was a specific request for me to do something sexual, as though she had set up this encounter as a fetish, I would do nothing, but would talk about it with her later to find out why she felt the need to incapacitate herself and then ask me to fuck her relatively useless, limp, non-self-lubricating body. Sloppy drunken sex = :thumbsup:. Before I could get into this particular situation, I'd have to understand her motivations behind it. In my experience, this sort of behavior would be a warning sign for unresolved issues involving childhood molestation or rape.

This question doesn't seem to be posed for women, as there's not a lot I could do with an unconcious man, unless he just happened to have an erection. I might try really, really hard to wake him up, though. :)

Truthfully, though, I think it would depend on how intimately knowledgeable you are about each other. I mean, if you were so unfamiliar with this person that the discovery of their unconscious body with a note leaves you puzzled, then yeah, it's probably a good idea to let sleeping dogs lie...sure, pun intended. But if it's someone you've been with for many years and you know that this is something that turns them on and/or turns you on then I really don't see a problem with going through with it.

But, on a personal note, I would be alarmed just finding my SO passed out from drug or alcohol use. I wouldn't need a note to send up red flags.

I totally would not mind waking up to an SO taking advantage of me and really wouldn't care if I slept through the whole thing.. I just don't know how the junk works while I'm passed out though...

I'd go fuck her sister.





not really.

I'd make sure that she was comfortable and clean, and let her sleep. I'm in no way interested in using an unconscious orifice as a masturbatory aid. When she woke and asked, presuming she did, I'd tell her " well, let your imagination run wild". Frankly, I'd be a lot more worried than aroused.

Happens in my bed most every night. And to date I've never minded being woken up by a girl using me for her own needs. Hawt. But not what the OP asks. Unfortunately.

interesting poll results so far. About 1/2 would do something, the other nothing.

Maybe the question isn't framed well since theres no context. How we might react seems to vary based on how our intimate the relationship is.

I'd have a hard time resisting the offer. Chances are I could manage to wake her.

I'm with MM, the being drunk and passed out would send alarm bells enough for me, wouldn't need the note.

Plus sex with a passed out person doesn't even sound appealing.

Tuck her in and go find an 02 bottle and some ibuprofen for the coming morning hang over.

LoganSnake +1

An urge might get me started, but the response is what keeps me going.

My wife doesn't typically drink alone, but if she did, I would let her sleep it off.

I stayed over at a girl's house years ago, and she dropped some acid and had a crazy night. She asked me the next day if I had screwed her the previous night, with I hadn't. Actually the thought hadn't even occurred to me until she mentioned it. I still didn't find it appealing, in part because she had had a bad trip for a little while, and also because the concept of taking advantage of someone wasn't appealing in and of itself.

It's a tough one. But I couldn't turn down sex, although it wouldn't be as good as with a active partner.

I would love to have a girlfriend take advantage of me... :)

just having it sprung on me out of the blue would be no good... if we had discussed it beforehand then I'd prolly be down... but I do like the feedback... the nails in the back, and the chest biting...


I wouldnt mind being woken up from sleep to find my sleeping boner being taken advantage of

Voted that I would do anything I want, but in reality I would do nothing except maybe take a picture of the dog sniffing her ass or something just to embarrass her.

I don't like excessive use of alcohol or any use of drugs. So I'm a stick in the mud. Personal experience, having a partner passed out from drugs and/or alcohol is not an appealing sight, or smell. I would probably scout the house for alcohol and drugs, then dispose of them all. A frank chat would follow after he woke up. With bright lights. Before the hangover wore off.

This include forks and other cooking utensils also?

Well I answered "Only those things my lover usually enjoys" because I'm thinking I might kiss their entire body or give them a massage...nothing much beyond that. I guess that's not overtly sexual but it is intimate...I don't think I could actually do much more beyond something innocent and pleasant like this. I have posted before on how I feel about an SO having sex with me while I'm asleep, and I still feel the same way. I would not be too pleased, depending on the circumstances. So in this case, I might do something pleasurable for them, but definitely not something that I myself would consider somewhat abusive.

Since neither he or I would get any pleasure if he's passed out, I'd snooze with him and start waking him up in a pleasurable manner (for both of us) after a couple of hours or so.

I wouldn't do anything more then give them a kiss on the forehead and tuck them in. Then again I can't imagine my lover or myself EVER giving that kindof permission. We've both woken the other up with oral favours at different times but if my SO was unconcious during, well to me it would be too much like rape (even knowing permission was given) for me to take any pleasure from it.

Thankfully I guess with Doc & I we do not have this permission thing, we just have fun. That being said she does not drink and never does drugs, so I would be very concerned and more worried about that then think about it sexually. Now if we had discussed a fantasy of hers of a scenario like that, that would be a different thing.

Not sure about the drugs/alcohol factor, but I can tell you that at roughly 5 AM every day I molest my wife in some way. Sometimes I gently wake her up, or in other cases like this morning I just spread some lube on and take her from behind.

We may be unusual, but there is an implicit agreement that I'm her sex toy in the evenings and she gets to use me. In the mornings she likes me to take advantage of her. She loves to wake up already being made love to.

The other night she surprised me with oral at 2 AM. It was a lot of fun waking up to that.

You're not unusual. Although you may call it taking advantage, some of us call it awakening one or the other to great pleasure. That's totally different than literally taking advantage of someone.

Now that is hot. I would love to wake up to that.

Ok, lets turn it around a bit. Does this fantasy hold any purchase for you? Would you want your lover to take advantage of you while you were sleeping?

I don't have much of an opinion about what someone close to me (whom I trusted) would do while I am unconscious because, frankly, I would be unconscious and not able to enjoy it. Can't seem to get myself worked up over that.

But, being awoken suddenly and insistently for sex in the middle of the night is one of my very favorite things. :hearts:

You are one lucky man. My wife refuses to ever wake up for sex.:shakehead:

I'm with the "nothing"'s on this one; if my lover is passed out under the influence, how is she going to appreciate all of my mad bedroom skills? :)

And as for pleasuring myself, I only really get off if she gets off, so it's not much of a turn-on for me...

Truth be told, as my SO never uses and almost never drinks, if I had to come home to the above-described scenario, I'd probably grab a big stick and start looking for traces of the bastard who slipped my lady a roofie colada!

This is all coming from the perspective of a long-term, tender-loving relationship, though - I might think very differently if this came from a person with whom I was only involved for sex... I love my girl too much to just "make use" of her, even if she asks...

Ok, let me get this straight. SO is passed out from drinking (without me!?) and there's a note that there's a note that's my ticket to ride her like a roller coaster. Sounds like a bad porno :) And I'm surprised at some of the responses, since this is just like the other thread about ppl sexing their SO while they're asleep :) Personally, I would't date someone that drank enough to pass out, but would try to wake them to something arousing :suave:

I would take complete advantage of the situation and use her body in any way that pleases me, following my own desires at the spur of the moment. The note makes it very clear that she is seeking to be ravaged, and I'm not one to pass up such an opportunity. Maybe she gets moist over the idea of being helpless to prevent sexual advances; a lot of women do.

I see what you are saying but I think it would be like having sex with a corpse. I couldn't enjoy personally.

A warm, breathing corpse that gets wet for you.

Oh, yes. She is a sound sleeper so it doesn't happen that often. But sometimes in the middle of the night, she will shock me out of sleep with oral.

She wants to take advantage of my morning hard-on, but most times I wake up first. I am a lucky man in that she sleeps in a way that it only takes a little lube or saliva and I can slip right into her while she is still sound asleep. I love that gasp she lets out when I first enter her. She often will pretend to be still asleep but I can hear her breathing change. Within 5 minutes she is screaming like a banshee.

I'd like for it to work the other way around but in our relationship I typically initiate things, and she plays along.

I wouldn't do any sort of fetish/unusual thing without talking about it first, so if it was just a note, I wouldn't.

OK, so am I the only one slightly disturbed by this one, or did I miss the meeting where we all agreed just to ignore it and move on?

Anywho, In the context of my current relationship, I'd probably need some sort of counceling after this event, as it would be completely out of character for her, and she would know that it would be completely against my nature.

Now if we are talking about conscious drunk sex or surprise night time sex, I'm all in.