Ever paid a professional for sex?
 

I was talking with a male friend of mine, and he is seriously the first male I've known who admitted to going to a prostitute while in Vegas. (It was one of those "ranches".) Now, I know *somebody* is going to hookers...but who? Anybody here willing to talk about it?

I've picked up women in Vegas, but I've not paid.

I remember in the early days of viral videos on the internet (2001-2002) there was a video of a young man who decided to have his first time with a prostitute (and I'd guess a relatively inexpensive prostitute at that). They disrobe and make out a bit and then he proceeds to go down on her. The look on her face was a combination of confusion, awe, and a sort of "aww, that's cute". I can't remember the last time I've laughed so hard.

I hope he enjoys the herpes of the mouth/eye that he now has.

I wouldn't do it. Sure, one-night-stands are impersonal and not love-based, but lust is better than paying someone to act interested. It's like really expensive masturbation.

I can't say I've ever gone to a prostitute. I'm not opposed per se, and have no problem with others doing it. At the same time, I'm just not interested in it. If I really wanted sex that badly I imagine I could get it without having to pay. It's not that hard, really.

(BTW MSD, I don't know if anyone's pointed this out to you, but your avatar is out of date -- the Doomsday Clock has been at five minutes to midnight for about a year and a half now).

To be honest, the idea of paying someone for sex is unappealing to me. I have no problem with others doing so and believe that prostitution should be fully legalized, but I doubt that I will ever personally engage in it.

The pleasure of my partner is just as important as my own, and to know that she is only there due to the monetary compensation for her service ends up killing any enthusiasm I may have for fucking her.

I also enjoy the seduction leading up to sex and the cuddling afterwards, so the experience would invariably be incomplete and unsatisfying; certainly not worth the expense, as it equates to a masturbation session inside of a rented body cavity.

I'm an optimist (read: too lazy to find the right picture or edit this one)

Im not totally against it, but Ive never done it, and Id want something special (like two chicks at the same time)

I can see how some people would value the service. I, for one, don't feel like its necessary for me. I've seen that show on HBO (forgot the name) where they follow the real lives of the bunny ranch girls and the guys they see are a little questionable. I can see why they use them. (Some of those girls are pretty hot, and seemingly "normal", regardless of their chose profession. Well, they have a healthy sex appetite. Oh, by the way, I think Nevada makes sure they're disease free, very frequently. That comment is probably uncalled for. They're people too.)

I could see if you wanted to do something special and make sure it happened (insert fetish or fantasy here), but there is always the option of just working harder at making it happen naturally. Vegas seems like the right place to make those things happen too for free, quite frankly. Remember, what happens...meh, you know the drill.

Nope. Definitely never paid anyone for sex. Seems like an odd concept. But then, I've never been in a place where it wasn't available when I was interested.

Something special....that's what I am thinking. As a woman in a total monogamous relationship (and completely happy relationship) who has an interest in being with another woman just once, I see it as an option of satisfying the fantasy. I would never want my fiancé and I to find a woman to full-fill this because then she would be "real" and possibly a threat to our future happiness. A woman who is paid has no other interest but to get the job done. So to me to hire someone would only be to complete the task at hand and not jeopardize the happiness I have now

Twice, well maybe once-

Once in Indonesia about 1984. US tax payers paid for me to get laid once in the Philippines. My ships rec. fund hosted a two day party at "Scotty's Bar" in Olongapo City on Magsaysay Drive. They raffled off hookers, I won(?). I don't remember much. I remember waking up in a tin hut in the middle of nowhere to the sight and sound of a water buffalo right out the window. There was an old woman in the room offering me breakfast, she had no teeth. Moments later an rather attractive young lady walked in the room and asked if I had a nice evening. Talk about relief. I told myself I'd never drink like that again. The next morning I woke up on the pool table at Scotty's... alone.

Hookers were so cheap overseas I probably would have been like a guy in a woman's prison with a fist full of pardons if the newspapers weren't full of stories about some new strange STD known as AIDS.

You want to hear pathetic?

One time when we were at a hotel, my wife sent me out of the room, then dressed up as a hooker and pretended that she had been sent for me when I got back to the room. I couldn't go through with it.

So no, I haven't, basically for the same reasons that Cernunnos listed.

Now, if I were not in a relationship, and prostitution were legal, and I knew that I was going to an expert (compare "eating at home" to "local greasy spoon restaurant" to "five-star restaurant" to understand what I mean by expert), then I might consider it.

I think I understand what you're saying. In my younger days on a ship with few women (1200 men, 27 women- talk about a sausage fest!) the drive to just get laid was pretty damn powerful. Now years later I'm not interested in just having sex, well usually not. If I don't find the lady interesting and intelligent I'll pass. The thought of being with someone who's only interested in me because I'm paying them is a complete turn off.

Yeah, I considered a trip to Vegas for the purpose when I was much younger, but now.... I'm too devoted to relationships and meaningful sex. If I just want to come, I don't need anyone else in the room.... That's why God created internet porn....

well i lived with a former prostitute for a while. Is that like paying for it. Always thought it interesting that she gave me what others paid for. Still not something to be proud of.

I have, a lot...my wife is a prude in bed and the professionals do things that she would never do...I have made some good acquaintances out of the women I've paid, and I visit them again and again once that connection is solid...

Not sure I could bring myself to do it. For me, sex is about the entire build up and finally full sex.. I need that to get hard really, and I wouldn't want to put my mouth near a hooker's..

And if that works for you I suggest you do that, repeatedly. You're getting something you want, laid. And she's getting something she wants, money. Again- selling's legal, fucking's legal.. how come selling fucking isn't legal?

This whole "oh, that's so wrong" is all BS, IMHO. People get this holier then thou crap going when it comes to sex, esp. in the US. I also think the folks being most verbal with their objections to everyone else's sex life are probably going home and fucking their pet gerbil in private. My only problem with that is their desire to tell everyone else what's right and wrong sexually. Well, that and I feel sorry for the gerbil.

Tully Mars: I hope the gerbil bites them where it hurts, and I agree that too many folks are conditioned to view sex in a negative light. If that particular viewpoint is reinforced throughout childhood and adolescence, it dims the hope that the individual will be able to overcome their social conditioning, but many here seem to have managed.

It's something natural, pleasurable, and in many cases, beautiful. Compared to other western societies, however, religious morality is firmly entrenched in United States soil, and it shows in our laws and in how certain subjects are viewed. Sexuality and prostitution are linked, and they're both unfortunate casualties of moral conservative gunfire.

When gruesome violence is considered less offensive than a bare breast, something is seriously wrong.

It's funny you mention breast feeding. I live in Mexico, currently. I had a slice today at Costco for lunch. Believe it or not Costco pizza is some of the better pizza down here (not saying much.) Anyway, as I walked toward the counter I noticed a lady seated at a table, she dropped the front of her dress to her waist. Caught me off guard, just popped both her ladies out. I didn't see the baby she had in her lap at first. Pretty common down here. For some reason, undoubtedly due to my up bringing, it makes me a little uncomfortable. I just sit so it's behind me and out of my view. Guess we all have crap programed and wired into our heads.

I didn't think about it much until you brought it up, wonder why something so natural would make people feel uncomfortable?

Does a ring and quiting my job to move to a distant city count as "paying"?

Oh Poppin', getting married to get cheap sex is like buying a Boeing 747 to get cheap peanuts.

Seriously, no that doesn't count as paying for sex. Never tell your spouse this thought either. If you tell her you're paying for it from her, you may not be getting much for your money for a while.

I'm not that daft. Why buy a 747 when you get the peanuts with a 737?

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Ok hello people. I'm new. I signed up just to write this. So I found this forum from searching on 'has anyone ever actually hooked up with adult friend finder.' I'm currently trying some online stuff. I have to admit. I have had sex with about 10 prostitutes. After the last time I became paranoid because I had a lesion on my penis. I thought it was herpes or syphilis. It actually turned out to be an agitated blister probably from extensive friction. I've had a ton of sex. I've probably had more sex than most 27 years olds. After testing clean of STDs I am absolutely terrified. I didn't just think I might have herpes. I was coming to terms with it. Then to come off clean changed my life.

What would I say about having sex with hookers? Don't!! You might wind up like me, absolutely terrified. I swear I have a feeling lately like there is no more security left in life. I used to be invincible and now I'm ordinary. If you wonder how far prostitutes will let you go. They will let you do anything you want. Believe me when I say it's not worth it.

I know some guys will want to do it anyway. I will offer this. I have had sex with hotter women than I think I ever would have and more of them... What has it done for my confidence? Well I feel incredible, but don't have sex without a condom. DON'T get a blow job without a condom (that is the one that got me). Actually I felt so unsafe after the incident that I start blaming other people. Now I have trouble being around gay men because I think they are out to get me. Seriously I have a new respect for life.

People have faith in religion and all sorts of ambiguous things, but if you choose one time to have faith in your life have faith in me and this comment and you can avoid what could be a lot of regret.

good advice pal but I am sure I am not the only one who will still consider hooking up with a hooker- my only worries is HIV- it scare the shit out of me.

IMO prostitution should be totally legal.

sometimes though i think why a man would pay for sex and i reckon it's because (a) he's simply too physically repulsive and unattractive to get sex without paying (b) a busy life makes it difficult to pick up women, so he pays for it to satisfy his urges (c) his wife/girlfriend might be ill and actually consents to him using a prostitute, again to satisfy his urges

i may be wrong though, but i don't agree that men solely pay for sex because they're too butt ugly and no one wants to date them lol..

There are also repulsive women. It's about the same ratio. At any rate, guys go to pros because they want NSA sex, without the effort. I think it was Eddie Murphy who had the line about every woman waking up every morning knowing that they could have sex that day if they want it. I think that's pretty much true for both sexes now. If a guy wants to get laid without paying for it, they can put up an ad on CL, hit the bars, and generally shoot until he scores. Pros just offer a quick and easy route.

I think it should be legal, but I can't see going that route, especially since Isabella Soprano quit the Bunny Ranch.

No. Funny I thought I had already replied to this thread before?

I would not pay for sex. Well I guess I would go as far as saying maybe I would given certain situations. Meaning it was years and i could not pick up a chick the regular way, at a bar....etc

I have no issues with people doing it beyond the threat of disease. One street over from me is prostitution alley in my town. They look just nasty! I could not get an erection for these women! I have seen online listings for escorts that are attractive but I would feel gross and uncomfortable I think. Maybe if your current SO would not perform some sex act I could see the use of one, with the SO permission.

Friends of mine use rub and tugs and escorts and love it but I am happy with my current sex life!

You know I feel like i've paid for sex before but it was called marriage and the sex was shitty anyway....

I've actually paid a prostitute to not have sex. She was (obviously) desperatly trying to get enough money for her next "fix". Felt sorry for her so I gave her $30 so she could relax a little/get her "fix" a little faster. The blowjob she offered could have been interresting considering the ammout of teeth left in her mouth.....

Other than this I've never spendt money on a professional - like Redlemon the tought is a big turn-off.

(Ran into her as we tried to pimp out my brother-in-law during his stag party - usually I never visit "that" distrisct *S*)

Sounds like a good call.

Only once in Reno did I ever give cash to a wino on the street. For years I heard the same lines. Hey, help a brother out, I just need to get something to eat, I'm a Vet can't get any help fro the VA etc.. Then one day a guy walks up to me and says I'm not going to lie to to you I'm an alcoholic and I need a drink, anything you give me I'm going to spend on booze. So I gave him a $5 chip. I figured what the hell, honesty worth something.

the closest i've come to paying was getting a lap dance and (unexpectidly) having the stripper unzip me and start rubbing me off. i've since heard a few more stories about that particular club and getting head is definatly possible there, sex, rarer but not unheard of. live and learn, eh?

i've actually developed an interest in the sex industry recently, and have read a few different books on it, written by women working in it. so far i've read "a strippers tail" ('tale' spelled tail) which i wouldn't recommend. horrible spelling, grammar, and if you believe the author, she's perfect, never did anything "extra" but has plenty to say and talk down about the women who do.

i've also read and highly highly recommend "call girl" by jeanette angell and "the call girl actress" by erica black. both of them worked as mid-to high paying escorts for a few years and these are their memoirs. one worked for an agency in boston her entire time working, the other started out with an agency and went independent. one thing they both touch on is that some of their clients, especially "hobbyists", would try to get them to give head or sex without condoms. they said no, but others they met in the industry sometimes allowed it with regulars. the point? if you go and pay for sex, you don't know if they always use protection with their clients, both for head and sex.

that said... when you go to the bar and land a one night stand, odds are, the girl is not going to use a condom for oral. between internet dating and random hook ups, i've gotten head from a decent number of girls, not one of which has even brought up using protection for it. sex, yeah, we used it, but not head. i'd say unless you're hooking up with someone who's a virgin, there's a good chance you're putting yourself at more risk for an orally transmitted disease (through kissing or head) than with a sex worker who doesn't walk the street. the sex worker may give some guys head without a condom, but the non-sex worker you're hooking up with has probably never had safe oral sex.

food for thought...

I have a friend who pays for sex every once in a while. He is a sex addict (I'm not saying that so you can hate him or pity him.. he's certainly not ashamed of it) who likes treating a girl like a rag doll for a while. For a few bucks out of his pocket, he can. When he works on regular girls, he says they become too attached and that turns him off.

Do strippers count?

If they touched your penis while it was outside your pants, yes.

Almost every stripper I ever met could count, so I'd say yes.

What if they reached down your pants and gave you a hand job? It's not sex, it wasn't solicited, but it certainly wasn't turned down.

As a matter of fact, that's the main thing strippers do. $$$

Ain't never met a stripper yet who couldn't out do a pit boss any day of the week. And pit bosses usually know, to the penny, where each player in his/her pit is at any give second.

I doubt I could ever bring myself to do it, there has to be a connection for sex to happen with me.
Probably be a waste of money really.