Any advise on being less sexually driven?
 

I think it's pretty safe to say that for most of my life I've never really been sexually driven.

That's not to say I don't like sex. I love sex. But, it's just never been the main drive of getting to know or talk to people.

Now, at different periods of my life I've been quite fit and healthy, and that attitude never really changed. Until recently.

In the last few months I started riding into work. Rising fuel costs have meant public transport patronage has spiked in my city, and that basically squeezed me out of catching public transport most mornings. The best alternative was to start cycling.

The problem is, I'm fit again. You might ask why that's a problem. Well, for the last year I've been very unfit, smoked too many cigarettes and too much weed, and drunk waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too much booze... And wasn't that sexually motivated.

However now I'm fit, barely drink a fraction as much, rearly smoke, and all round, feel fantastic physically. But this has obviously done something to my body because I don't I've ever felt this horny in my life. Seriously, I'm ready to slay a population of millions with my meat sword.

Currently my only way to deal with it is to ride it out...... but that kinda makes it worse.

Now due to certain life style choices, I'd rather not give in and fuck anything that moves. So my question to you is, do you know of a way to stay fit and healthy, but tone down your sexual drive?

It might sound like a fucked up question, but I'm particularly choosy about who I share my body with and while I'm not sharing it, I'd rather just get on with things and not worry about sex.

girlfriend?

Chaste Tree Berry???

http://www.peoplespharmacy.com/archi...tree_berry.asp

Welcome to being male.

Wasnt so bad before, but now that I've moved to a city, i'm subjected to higher population density, more girls, many different girls... This was supposed to be a good thing I guess but it feels kind of raw and predatory, more instinctual to me now just to walk along, see the girl in the office across from me, or in the elevator, or on the escalator, on the bus, etc... and just instantly have mental fantasies about what she'd taste/smell/feel/sound like in my company.

I dunno, I never do anything about it though. I still have confidence issues but thats another subject entirely.

Sounds like you feel good about yourself so you can go fishing.

I can only imagine living in NYC would be hard on a teenage boy, literally. Even now I can walk down the block and go damn, wow, whoa, nice, and that is only in the first 5 minutes.

I have the mind of a teenage boy sometimes, I swear.

Did I miss the memo about masturbation not being popular anymore?

Sometimes?

Uh, yeah dude. How 'bout a nice evening with Rosy Palms?

Satisfy the urge.

Does this mean what I think it means? If so, you're pretty much limited to self love unless you clear it up.

I don't understand, what is wrong with being horny all the time? Am I just being a girl?

I think about sex all the time, have since I was in the fourth grade (I bloomed early) and I never saw any problem with having a strong sexual drive.

So if you are alone/single and self satisfy what's wrong with that? Do guys not enjoy masturbation as much as woman do?

Why are thoughts of sex a worry rather than a pleasure? Again is there something my vagina just wont let me understand?

There's nothing wrong with being horny all the time. I just prefer not to be.

And for those who asked, yes I do masturbate.

It's a little hard to explain my stance I guess. But it gets down to the fact I'm very prone to depression. Sometimes basic human interactions people take for granted I can find very difficult when it gets on top of me.

While I'm fit, I find it much easier to deal with, but the problem is having such a strong sexual drive which conflicts with personal ethics and what I want plays funny buggers with my head. In turn, triggering little spats of depression. My brain is kinda broken :splat:

So yes, while I'm confident in myself, quite happy, and feel great, I'm just not used to feeling so horny all the time. For a number of reasons I don't want to go into, I'm not entirely in a position to do anything about it bar masturbating.

so the problem isn´t the sex drive, it´s the depression. perhaps that needs to be worked on instead. sex is fun. less of it is wrong :)

also, it´s not helping that you´re clearly telling us we´re not getting the full picture...

Just really not as much fun by yourself though.

Depression is part of it, but not all of it.

When you're about to get a boner, think of Star Wars.

You know that's a bad idea, right?

http://www.supershadow.com/starwars/...ld_bikini.jpeg

http://www.blessedquietness.com/jabba.jpg
:D

Different strokes...

;)

Best advice of the whole thread, right there.

Mr Friendly, you should be proud of yourself. You've successfully broken multiple bad habits and you have radically improved your body's chemistry and feel ready to start spreading seed! The horniness may be inconvenient but you should feel pleased at the extra energy and motivation and health it represents. You are doing the right thing for yourself now, and the horniness is proof of that. You say you aren't ready for a girlfriend now, but when you are, boy is she in for a good time... in the meantime, try looking at your feelings as a major step forward and something you can look forward to sharing someday.

Give it time. Be aware of your desire to fuck anything slightly resembling a circle or oval, or even just mildy gelatinous in texture, and let it be what it is. Sounds like you have hormonal impulses...and there's not much you can do about it. Beat off - sure...but that feeling comes back. I think these cycles are pretty normal - see if you can channel that energy into something else, assuming you don't actually want to use it to get b.i.z.z.y. I agree that it's a sign of newly found physical health - so be happy your junk still works.

:-)

Thanks Acetylene and pig, I hadn't looked at it that way before.

I think just channeling my energies into something constructive would be the best way around it.

I prefer Palmela Handerson

Something perhaps a bit more feminine?

http://www.maniacworld.com/star_wars...ba_the_Hut.jpg

Slobba! hehehe got a good laugh.

Yeah, I'm not sure it's good to mess with a healthy sex drive. If you were a woman, I could recommend a few birth control pills that would kill it good. For that matter, I'm sure there are testosterone-diminishing meds out there.

Just learn to work with it - and enjoy being a healthy man. When you're 50, you'll miss these times.

Slam your dick in a car door.


I'm sure you won't think about sex for at least 12 seconds.

LOLOLOL

This place is filled with laughter!

Heres one...(Seriously)


Get yourself some sage essential oil and breath it in several times a day...you'll be staying limp in no time...as it slows down the drive...

I suggest a self analysis, try to locate the exact problem. Why u feel so, any childhood memories or so. Figure out the root cause, start working on it, try to feel yourself. Do consult some experts (Doctors) or may be try some safe herbal stimulant to get the initial taste..

You could try watching some really crappy porn.

In my view - that tends to burn the drive out of a person for a while. : )