Random Thoughts
 

No real aim here, just thought it might spark some discussion.

1. During sex with my SO, among the most effective fantasy I've experienced is being the "other guy." That is, she's cheating on me, with me. Works well.

2. This one's a little out there, but bare with me. Regarding penis size ... I'm actually doing fine, we'll leave it at that, but one fantasy I've found that has considerable effect in this area is that I'm a girl and my dick is my clit. Seriously, wow. If you can (mentally, conceptually) pull it off, it's pure magic. Go from "normal" to "freak" in 2.4 seconds. Not to mention the girl-on-girl aspect has its own psychological/sexual benefits; gender-reversal, same thing.

Respond however you see fit, to this directly or with your own observations of a similar nature.

The idea of her receiving pleasure in secrecy with someone else is actually quite a sexual turn on for me, even if the emotional consequences would swiftly end that, should fantasy become reality. Pretending that she just can't resist due to how hot and bothered she gets around the guy (me), allowing herself to indulge in those lustful cravings, never fails to excite me.

Likewise, imagining her going down on another woman is quite arousing. I haven't ever thought to consider my penis as a clit, or the 'other woman' as myself, but after hearing this, I may just give it a try in the future. During my previous relationship, we sometimes pretended that she was sliding herself into me (replacing the prostate massager), which always led to an explosive orgasm on my part.

Depraved fantasies are some of the best. ;)

These type of fantasies are pretty common for me.

You know, the whole - I walk in on my boyfriend having sex with 5 other women, and I begin to help him...

I've never had homo erotic fantasies including my boyfriend however. Although I have fantasized about being tag teamed by him and other men. But never any interaction between them, or any other men for that matter.

I tried, but honestly have no idea how you can picture a cock as a clit and it work? What did you actually do?

The other one I'm not too hot on.

Heh, I fantasize about a lot of things... all of the above, I guess. It took me a long time to learn how to fantasize--sounds weird, I know, but I was a late bloomer.

I love the "getting tag-teamed" fantasy (one penis after another, please!), as well as the thought of being with another woman. And maybe it's because I've been in grad school for 5 years, but I fantasize a lot about being boned by one professor of mine in particular. I think that one has more to do with power reversal than anything, since I have a lot of insecurity about what I do as a student.

In all of my fantasies about men, the one common denominator is that they are all completely besides themselves and losing control in wanting to fuck me, which makes me feel very powerful and turned on. :suave: Of course, if that happened in real life, a guy would get my knee in his crotch and that's about it. But it's a nice fantasy. :)

It does sound a bit strange, even to me, now that you ask. I suppose it was a bi-product of my getting into "massive clits" pornography for a while. Not to mention, I was totally shaved at the time, so that makes it easier, too.

Edit: Thinking about it since reading this, I tried it again, and it still worked like a charm. The trick is to focus (conceptually as well as visually) on the groin region, while only focus on the penis (the pseudo-clit) peripherally. See your groin as a woman's - that part shouldn't be hard - and then just only, ya know, half focus on your joint. Seriously, it shouldn't be that hard. The only real obstacle is allowing yourself to "feel" your feminine side. The morphing your dick into a clit at that point should be second-nature.