Can you really tell if she's faking it? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

dd3953 · 05-09-2008, 12:45 PM

So I found this article on the internet and now I would like to discuss it.

Below is the part I want to talk about. Here is the [link] if you want to read the whole thing.

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Originally Posted by Jasmine Leigh

"Signs She's Faking It" By Jasmine Leigh

It has been estimated by various studies that 70% of women fake orgasms at some point in their sexual lives. Some fake it very regularly -- as in every time -- while others only do it sometimes.

The psychology behind faking it is simple: She isn’t going to have an orgasm this time, and she knows it. She can’t be bothered with a) you trying hard to satisfy her and prolonging the encounter, and b) you feeling bad because you couldn’t satisfy her come hell or high water.

If you want to know if you are being duped, use the following signs that she really is having an orgasm to distinguish the faux from the bona fide, and catch her in the act.

Retraction of the clitoral head
This occurs just before orgasm and provides you with a clitoris-sized hint. When the clit disappears, you’re on the right track, so don’t stop. This coveted disappearance of the clitoris isn’t only visible if you have the lights on and your face all up in it; it’s something you can feel as well. So, get yourselves into a position where you can easily rub her clitoris during sex, and use it to your advantage. Under the guise of giving her some extra special treatment, you can feel whether she’s actually close to climaxing or just faking.

So what I want to know - is this true? Have any of you males or females ever noticed this? I haven't, so maybe I've just never had an orgasm (and that's not surprising considering some of the stuff I've heard).

So my point in asking: Is this really true?

Ustwo · 05-09-2008, 12:50 PM

So, get yourselves into a position where you can easily rub her clitoris during sex, and use it to your advantage. Under the guise of giving her some extra special treatment, you can feel whether she’s actually close to climaxing or just faking.

Ummm I pretty much thought that was required for most orgasms in the first place.

Anyways I've never noticed that specific reaction.

The rest of the article is ok though.

Martian · 05-09-2008, 12:52 PM

I don't recall having ever seen that. Granted I'm not always paying attention to her clit by that point, but still.

It seems like it'd make giving her an orgasm via clitoral stimulation rather difficult. I mean, how would you accomplish that if the little bugger runs and hides every time she gets close?

EDIT - read the rest of the article, and I have to agree that yes vaginal spasms are by far the biggest indicator and also that they feel awesome!

World's King · 05-09-2008, 12:57 PM

Does it really matter?

Ustwo · 05-09-2008, 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by World's King

Does it really matter?

Yes.

They complain less when you tell them to make you a sammich if they at least get a good supply of O's.

Martian · 05-09-2008, 01:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Ustwo

Yes.

They complain less when you tell them to make you a sammich if they at least get a good supply of O's.

And also because vaginal spasms feel awesome.

Do try to keep up here, WK.

ngdawg · 05-09-2008, 02:32 PM

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Originally Posted by dd3953

So I found this article on the internet and now I would like to discuss it.

Below is the part I want to talk about. Here is the [link] if you want to read the whole thing.

So what I want to know - is this true? Have any of you males or females ever noticed this? I haven't, so maybe I've just never had an orgasm (and that's not surprising considering some of the stuff I've heard).

So my point in asking: Is this really true?

It is for me-Little Ng all but disappears when she gets excited.

I never understood "faking it". It deprives everyone of a really exceptional good feeling.

Makia · 05-09-2008, 03:00 PM

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Originally Posted by ngdawg

I never understood "faking it". It deprives everyone of a really exceptional good feeling.

Just what I was gonna say.

dd3953 · 05-09-2008, 06:38 PM

I agree. Faking it accomplishes nothing.

And, yes, she might be more willing to make you some grub.

But, hm, only seems true for two people: ng & da chick dat wrote the article.

ngdawg · 05-09-2008, 06:39 PM

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Originally Posted by dd3953

I agree. Faking it accomplishes nothing.

And, yes, she might be more willing to make you some grub.

But, hm, only seems true for two people: ng & da chick dat wrote the article.

Maybe we're the only two not faking it

*Nikki* · 05-09-2008, 07:36 PM

Hey I have faked it. Sometimes he just wants to go on and on.....and well, I don't so faking it is the easiest way to deal with it.

dd3953 · 05-09-2008, 08:29 PM

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Originally Posted by ngdawg

Maybe we're the only two not faking it

Maybe you're right. Who knows.

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Originally Posted by *Nikki*

Hey I have faked it. Sometimes he just wants to go on and on.....and well, I don't so faking it is the easiest way to deal with it.

This is the most common reason I've heard for people faking it.

ironman · 05-09-2008, 09:18 PM

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Originally Posted by *Nikki*

Hey I have faked it. Sometimes he just wants to go on and on.....and well, I don't so faking it is the easiest way to deal with it.

Even I, been a guy, have fake it sometimes for that same reason...

Anxst · 05-10-2008, 08:09 AM

I know my wife's disappears every time before she orgasms. That's when I know to thrust deep or she's going to push me right out.

Still, this is just a generalization. If there's one thing being an LPN ever taught me, it's that everyone is entirely different, and some people will react exactly opposite what the textbooks say.

levite · 05-10-2008, 10:37 AM

Yeah, I can usually feel the clit both swell and withdraw during orgasm, if I happen to be getting the girl in question off via fingers/tongue. Vaginal spasming is also a good indicator during intercourse, although I have heard that this can be simulated by women with good muscular control. Most girls I've been with also display a characteristic increase of moisture during orgasm.

What is harder to fake, however, is the characteristic flushing of the skin, watering of the eyes, and whole-body muscular twitching associated with orgasm. The first is, of course, harder to spot in non-Caucasian women, or Caucasian women with extremely dark skin tones; but at least in Caucasian women of a Northern European-type coloration, it's usually a good indicator. The others are fairly reliable in all women.

Obviously, if the girl's a squirter, that makes it fairly easy to spot the real ones....

Ustwo · 05-10-2008, 12:03 PM

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Originally Posted by ironman

Even I, been a guy, have fake it sometimes for that same reason...

What do you do? Spit on her back?

dd3953 · 05-10-2008, 03:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Ustwo

What do you do? Spit on her back?

HAHAHA. Oh. That's great.

World's Queen · 05-10-2008, 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Ustwo

What do you do? Spit on her back?

I think I peed a little!

I have never noticed it disappearing. Even when I'm the one rubbing it...I'm curious now though. I'm going to King's for the rest of the weekend. We're going to do some research.

Oh and as far as this:

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Originally Posted by World's King

Does it really matter?

Last weekend my legs didn't stop shaking for probably half an hour.

Lindy · 05-10-2008, 04:07 PM

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Originally Posted by *Nikki*

Hey I have faked it. Sometimes he just wants to go on and on.....and well, I don't so faking it is the easiest way to deal with it.

I can sure relate to that. Now, if I'm really "in the mood," hot, horny, (whatever) I get off pretty easily. If not, not. In fact, my breasts (nipples) are quite sensitive, to the point that I sometimes have orgasm

from just having both nipples worked over (at the same time, orally, stronger than nibbling, but not really hard biting,) without any vaginal or clitoral stimulation at all.

When my (now ex) husband discovered this, he would sometimes (usually when he was drunk) turn it into a job ("Let's make Lindy cum by chewing on her nipples!") which, of course, ruined the whole thing.

Once they started getting sore, I'd do a fake-O.
Lindy

05-09-2008, 12:50 PM	#2 (permalink)
Ustwo Pissing in the cornflakes	So, get yourselves into a position where you can easily rub her clitoris during sex, and use it to your advantage. Under the guise of giving her some extra special treatment, you can feel whether she’s actually close to climaxing or just faking. Ummm I pretty much thought that was required for most orgasms in the first place. Anyways I've never noticed that specific reaction. The rest of the article is ok though. __________________ Agents of the enemies who hold office in our own government, who attempt to eliminate our "freedoms" and our "right to know" are posting among us, I fear.....on this very forum. - host Obama - Know a Man by the friends he keeps.

05-09-2008, 12:52 PM	#3 (permalink)
Martian Young Crumudgeon Location: Canada	I don't recall having ever seen that. Granted I'm not always paying attention to her clit by that point, but still. It seems like it'd make giving her an orgasm via clitoral stimulation rather difficult. I mean, how would you accomplish that if the little bugger runs and hides every time she gets close? EDIT - read the rest of the article, and I have to agree that yes vaginal spasms are by far the biggest indicator and also that they feel awesome! __________________ I wake up in the morning more tired than before I slept I get through cryin' and I'm sadder than before I wept I get through thinkin' now, and the thoughts have left my head I get through speakin' and I can't remember, not a word that I said - Ben Harper, Show Me A Little Shame Last edited by Martian; 05-09-2008 at 12:54 PM..

05-09-2008, 12:57 PM	#4 (permalink)
World's King Here Location: Denver City Denver	Does it really matter? __________________ heavy is the head that wears the crown

05-09-2008, 06:38 PM	#9 (permalink)
dd3953 Psycho: By Choice Location: dd.land	I agree. Faking it accomplishes nothing. And, yes, she might be more willing to make you some grub. But, hm, only seems true for two people: ng & da chick dat wrote the article. __________________ [Technically, I'm not possible, I'm made of exceptions. ]

05-10-2008, 08:09 AM	#14 (permalink)
Anxst Condensing fact from the vapor of nuance. Location: Madison, WI	I know my wife's disappears every time before she orgasms. That's when I know to thrust deep or she's going to push me right out. Still, this is just a generalization. If there's one thing being an LPN ever taught me, it's that everyone is entirely different, and some people will react exactly opposite what the textbooks say. __________________ Don't mind me. I'm just releasing the insanity pressure from my headvalves.

05-09-2008, 07:36 PM	#11 (permalink)
Nikki ~~~~~~~ Location: Charleston, SC	Hey I have faked it. Sometimes he just wants to go on and on.....and well, I don't so faking it is the easiest way to deal with it.

05-10-2008, 10:37 AM	#15 (permalink)
levite Minion of Joss Location: The Windy City	Yeah, I can usually feel the clit both swell and withdraw during orgasm, if I happen to be getting the girl in question off via fingers/tongue. Vaginal spasming is also a good indicator during intercourse, although I have heard that this can be simulated by women with good muscular control. Most girls I've been with also display a characteristic increase of moisture during orgasm. What is harder to fake, however, is the characteristic flushing of the skin, watering of the eyes, and whole-body muscular twitching associated with orgasm. The first is, of course, harder to spot in non-Caucasian women, or Caucasian women with extremely dark skin tones; but at least in Caucasian women of a Northern European-type coloration, it's usually a good indicator. The others are fairly reliable in all women. Obviously, if the girl's a squirter, that makes it fairly easy to spot the real ones.... __________________ Dull sublunary lovers love, Whose soul is sense, cannot admit Absence, because it doth remove That thing which elemented it. (From "A Valediction: Forbidding Mourning" by John Donne)